bambi
5 Feb 2015
Love / My Pole bf is flirting with an old friend from high school [12]
Oh dear ... sounds very familiar. My partner is also Polish. I don't know what it is about this business of sending photos, flirting, etc. - I have seen messages of his that have really f****d me up, but then it does turn out that it is nothing but bollocks. Nothing comes of it. Your boyfriend probably wouldn't even have gone for the drink. But I do think it is disrespectful and kind of teenager-ish. I'm afraid I think probably the things we like about Polish guys are also part of the reason why they do stuff like this, though. They are more accessible sexually and physically, I think, and they are more aware of the difference between male and female, and this is cool when you are in bed with them and walking around holding their hand, but feels not so cool when they occasionally express it with some other woman ... they are all brought up to be bulls, which is great, and not so great.
I think you probably can't trust him not to have conversations like that, because the other advanced life skill Polish guys have is lying through their teeth, straight into your eyes. A key skill. However, he doesn't take the conversation seriously - he wants to be with you. If he actually cried when you split up, that is a very good sign. He is sincere, I think. And I think the reason he will probably still have flirty conversations is that he thinks they don't mean anything - to him, they don't.
He doesn't get it, and never will. But, I think you're probably right to hold out for someone who won't do that - because we can't tell - maybe he is one of the ones who will go on to be completely unfaithful. And nobody would want that pain in their life. I think he's fxxxxd it up with you.
Oh dear ... sounds very familiar. My partner is also Polish. I don't know what it is about this business of sending photos, flirting, etc. - I have seen messages of his that have really f****d me up, but then it does turn out that it is nothing but bollocks. Nothing comes of it. Your boyfriend probably wouldn't even have gone for the drink. But I do think it is disrespectful and kind of teenager-ish. I'm afraid I think probably the things we like about Polish guys are also part of the reason why they do stuff like this, though. They are more accessible sexually and physically, I think, and they are more aware of the difference between male and female, and this is cool when you are in bed with them and walking around holding their hand, but feels not so cool when they occasionally express it with some other woman ... they are all brought up to be bulls, which is great, and not so great.
I think you probably can't trust him not to have conversations like that, because the other advanced life skill Polish guys have is lying through their teeth, straight into your eyes. A key skill. However, he doesn't take the conversation seriously - he wants to be with you. If he actually cried when you split up, that is a very good sign. He is sincere, I think. And I think the reason he will probably still have flirty conversations is that he thinks they don't mean anything - to him, they don't.
He doesn't get it, and never will. But, I think you're probably right to hold out for someone who won't do that - because we can't tell - maybe he is one of the ones who will go on to be completely unfaithful. And nobody would want that pain in their life. I think he's fxxxxd it up with you.