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jozek_in_US   
29 Jan 2010
USA, Canada / My wife wants to return to Poland...but I want to stay in the US [155]

Thanks again everyone. I think that Chris' approach seems quite fair. Plus I think a part of the solution is my wife being able to secure a job. Not from financial standpoint, but from an emotional one.

I never expected that she would get PND, but it appears she has it. Even yesterday she mentioned that she's extremely depressed. Winter also doesn't help. I too would be depressed being stuck in a house with a little child all day long with no adult contact...

I also can't send to Poland because the winter there is much worse. All I can do is wait...

Once Again, thank you everyone. You have been a huge help. Will give you an update as things progress..

Take care

J
jozek_in_US   
28 Jan 2010
USA, Canada / My wife wants to return to Poland...but I want to stay in the US [155]

Once again, thank you everyone for your Advice. I'm really thinking of planning a trip to Poland this summer. I'm hoping the high unemployment rate, the crowded buses, and the high cost of living will set my wife straight.

Btw, I have been to Poland a little over 10 times in my life. I speak Polish, and have a general understanding of Polish writing.

About her not having friends, well she had a good amount when she was working. But their conversations seemed to dwindle when she was out of the working environment.

Honestly, I think I would be able to live in Poland. But I simply can't leave my family when one of my parents are sick. It wouldn't be right...
jozek_in_US   
27 Jan 2010
USA, Canada / My wife wants to return to Poland...but I want to stay in the US [155]

lowfun:
My wife & family are the most important to me.

Skysoulmate:
Yes, I am Polish. But born in the US. My family is all here, but they have their own problems to deal with so they have not been the most receptive to my wife.

I too have the feeling that one day I will come home to an empty house.

As for her working, and me staying at home..Not possible. I'm the real breadwinner in this situation.

About moving to Poland; I would. But my chances of getting a steady job there is pretty small when compared to my current position which is extremely stable. Plus, I can't leave the US because one of my parents are ill, and needs assistance on a daily basis.

As you can all see. It's pretty rough right now...

I though that her getting a job might be the answer, the problem though is the job market is nearly void of any vacancies....
jozek_in_US   
27 Jan 2010
USA, Canada / My wife wants to return to Poland...but I want to stay in the US [155]

Hello Everyone,
About five years ago I married a beautiful Polish woman, while she was visiting the US. Since then we both had a beautiful little girl (now 2 years old), and I thought everything was going well.

Unfortunately she is extremely home sick, since she doe not have any friends or family here in the US. To make matters worse, she had to give up her job to be a stay at home mom making the homesickness even worse...I told her to go back and visit. But I have a feeling she won't come back meaning my daughter will be without a father...

I have no idea how to handle this. Should I let her go? I still love her, but I have a feeling that her resentment towards the US is transferring to me...

Anyone have any ideas?

J