USA, Canada / My wife wants to return to Poland...but I want to stay in the US [155]

Thanks again everyone. I think that Chris' approach seems quite fair. Plus I think a part of the solution is my wife being able to secure a job. Not from financial standpoint, but from an emotional one.

I never expected that she would get PND, but it appears she has it. Even yesterday she mentioned that she's extremely depressed. Winter also doesn't help. I too would be depressed being stuck in a house with a little child all day long with no adult contact...

I also can't send to Poland because the winter there is much worse. All I can do is wait...

Once Again, thank you everyone. You have been a huge help. Will give you an update as things progress..

Take care

J

USA, Canada / My wife wants to return to Poland...but I want to stay in the US [155]

Once again, thank you everyone for your Advice. I'm really thinking of planning a trip to Poland this summer. I'm hoping the high unemployment rate, the crowded buses, and the high cost of living will set my wife straight.

Btw, I have been to Poland a little over 10 times in my life. I speak Polish, and have a general understanding of Polish writing.

About her not having friends, well she had a good amount when she was working. But their conversations seemed to dwindle when she was out of the working environment.

Honestly, I think I would be able to live in Poland. But I simply can't leave my family when one of my parents are sick. It wouldn't be right...

USA, Canada / My wife wants to return to Poland...but I want to stay in the US [155]

Thank you everyone for your comments. But I forgot to mention one important thing. She would probably leave with my child.... Something I can't even imagine..

USA, Canada / My wife wants to return to Poland...but I want to stay in the US [155]

lowfun:
My wife & family are the most important to me.

Skysoulmate:
Yes, I am Polish. But born in the US. My family is all here, but they have their own problems to deal with so they have not been the most receptive to my wife.

I too have the feeling that one day I will come home to an empty house.

As for her working, and me staying at home..Not possible. I'm the real breadwinner in this situation.

About moving to Poland; I would. But my chances of getting a steady job there is pretty small when compared to my current position which is extremely stable. Plus, I can't leave the US because one of my parents are ill, and needs assistance on a daily basis.

As you can all see. It's pretty rough right now...

I though that her getting a job might be the answer, the problem though is the job market is nearly void of any vacancies....