USA, Canada / REFUSED A HOLIDAY VISA TO THE U.S CAUSE IM POLISH [323]

I WENT TO DUBLIN US EMBASSY BEFORE I WAS MARRIED TO GO ON A HOLIDAY TO NEW YORK WITH MY THEN BOYFRIEND NOW HUSBAND AND I HAD AN APPOINTMENT TO SEE SOMEONE IN THE EMBASSY , I WAS TO BRING PASSPORT, LETTER FROM WORK TO SAY I WAS EMPLOYED AND RETURNING BACK , BANK STATEMENTS, BILL WITH MY ADDRESS, WHEN I WENT IN AN ARROGANT MAN, ASKED ME FEW QUESTIONS ABOUT HAD I FAMILY HERE AND IN U.S, , I SAID BROTHER WAS IN IRELAND AND I HAD 2ND COUSINS IN U.S THAT I NEVER SEE OR TALK TOO, HE JUST SAID NO YOU CANT GO , THATS IT,

I WAS VERY UP SET ,
CAN ANYONE TELL ME IS THERE ANY WAY GETTING A HOLIDAY VISA , NOW IM MARRIED IT MIGHT HELP THE SITUATION, ?

WOULD GETTING AN IRISH PASS PORT HELP? IF SO HOW DO I GO ABOUT THAT