Love / Are Polish Women cold and aloof? [249]


for some reason the next "w" that comes to mind is "wet"...

:p


You're just flat-out mean!

:p

Yeah, I hear you. And the messed-up wonderful thing about it all is she's more astute about this than I am. She's one of my favorite people in the world, and when I'm with her my blood runs pretty frickin' hot, but for some reason else... that love isn't there.

Maybe it will be. I dunno. But whatever happens, I do feel for maybe the first time in my emotionally-stunted male life that I will get a great friend out of a relationship, and have no regrets about the amazing time we had during the romance.

It's never any fun watching a love fade, but there's comfort in knowing that when it's done burning white-hot, you can still have warm embers for a long, long time... and new fires to start all over the place!

/endTorturedMetaphor.

:)

Love / Are Polish Women cold and aloof? [249]

yes, and i feel the same way. no joke, the worst part for me would be if the romance failed and the friendship disappeared as well. i'd rather break off the romance and still be friends.

but then there's this... her entire quote went more like this:

"i don't know what i feel, but one thing i'm sure of is i can't lose you, and i want to make love to you so ****ing much."

so... i'm guessing she feels a little conflicted. :P

as am i. the heat is there, but it's also very dangerous for both of us. i guess it is a good time to be patient as Job, and trust if we found each other once, then if it's meant to be we'll come back around again.

Love / Are Polish Women cold and aloof? [249]


these may be the words that save my sanity.

i came here because i met a Warsaw girl, and stayed 2 weeks, and fell in love with her and the city in equal measures. now after 7 months apart and trying to hold things together, i'm here to study Polish and teach English, and... she is keeping as much distance as she can.

she tells me she does not know how she feels, but knows for sure she cannot lose me, and then wraps herself up so much in school and work and family she has no time for me.

and... i think i'm beginning to understand. in the States, these would all be signs of a girl playing you out so she can sneak around with another man, but i get the sense from what I've learned of Poles and the loyalty you have that this isn't the case here... but rather...

she is afraid. she will keep her distance for a long time. i must be patient if i want this, and let go of my impulsive American habits of i need everything right now!

:)

anyone else care to share their experience with this? i don't think it's aloofness. i think it's caution, and an acute awareness that us men tend to be fools in love and the women end up taking the pain. the polish woman may just be smarter by holding her heart back until she knows for sure a man can love her... because he does not need her.

Travel / Live Music / Festival in Warsaw? [26]

i can see how my comment came off as more insulting than funny. i apologize.

i'm not a huge fan of dance music, which is what i was referring too (the UK is the world champion of rock bands, and no one else is even close). but that's a very narrow world-view as well, and i'm coming around to the idea that while when living in Boston it makes sense to take advantage of the great live rock scene, when living in Warsaw it makes sense to take advantage of the great club music scene.

i don't want to be the American who comes here and eats McDonald's every day, so why would i do the same with music? thanks for the comments, and if you have any suggestions on what clubs are the best for a dance-music newbie to get into it, please share.

Travel / Live Music / Festival in Warsaw? [26]

super sweet!

Patrick's was OK... in a slightly lame way. heard from a local that there's a neighborhood in Mokotow to check out.

Travel / Live Music / Festival in Warsaw? [26]

Rock, baby.

I'm american. no eurocrap for me. :)

even worse, I'm Boston-American. I love their metal, hip-hop, and alternative stuff like HappySad (I think most of their bands sound like Sublime, which is more than all right by me).

Found a place called Patrick's today near the Galleria that has good beer and live music every night at 9. Will report back.