Posts by Rainman2

Rainman2

15 Oct 2019

Love / Had a big problem in Poland - a guy lied to me [33]

I met a guy on sympatia while in America and he told me to go to opole to meet him, promising a relationship saying he loved me. I am not experienced and I thought maybe he was moving too fast because maybe he too hasnt been in a relationship so he's eager.

He acted really nice but he made me have sex with him. I was really confused, making excuses like maybe it's hard for him to control himself, surely he likes me because he keeps talking about marriage and meeting his parents. But after a week he told me that he lied from day 1 and that I'm desperate and ugly.

This has really affected me and it's only lately sunk in that we had non consensual sex and not to mention the money he took from me. I lost everything. No intention of reporting as I forgave him and am no longer in Poland but I'm mentally unwell. I match the symptoms of rape trauma almost to a tee. I'm scared of people scared to go outside. Nightmares, flashbacks, feel ashamed and guilty I still sometimes miss him because he was my first experience of love even if he didn't really like me. I'm staying with my friend to recover mentally.

Rainman2

15 Oct 2019

Love / Had a big problem in Poland - a guy lied to me [33]

I met him in my hotel which was near the Rynek. I had arranged to move into a room but I left because I was in shock. So I phoned the landlord from London saying I'm not coming back, keys in the room. He lived somewhere near Ozimek as far as I know due to taking the bus to opole.

I know I don't look good but if you're curious my Instagram is mummyslittleporker, it's private for now because he bothers me on there.

Rainman2

16 Oct 2019

Love / Had a big problem in Poland - a guy lied to me [33]

@Ziemowit
Yes, I left after this incident. I know I don't look good which I'm ok with but the rape has left me feeling afraid of people and afraid to go outside. I wasn't looking to have sex but he forced me but at the time I made excuses for him like, he can't control himself but he does at least want a relationship. I'm female, I just named it after Rainman.

@pawian
Thank you for understanding. To be clear he lied to me and later admitted he pretended to want a relationship to get me to meet him etc and the rape itself has left me feeling scared. I was out in public on my own yesterday and had lots of anxiety. He seemed so nice but told me he lied about everything, he said he isn't violent to women but he was:(

@FemaleFriend thank you for understanding. I did say no but he wouldn't listen but at the time since he kept saying he loved me and wanted to marry someday, I was making excuses for him but it was really scary to be honest.

I don't think it's a polish thing, my friend I'm visiting in London is polish and my best friend is polish, I actually learned the language while in London though I'm American originally. I just posted here to describe that this happened when I went to Poland. I am currently trying to get into counseling to help me get over my feelings of fear towards people.

Rainman2

16 Oct 2019

Love / Had a big problem in Poland - a guy lied to me [33]

@Rich Mazur
I'm sorry you feel this way that people would lie about this topic. There are actually people who reach out for support and I'm one of them:)

@Ironside
Nope, it's not impossible, it did happen!

Rainman2

25 Oct 2019

Love / Had a big problem in Poland - a guy lied to me [33]

@Rich Mazur
I forgave him but as you can imagine, not all crimes are reported. I suggest you read myths about rape to learn more.
@pawian
No, I'm sure I'm female, sorry for the confusion!

I didn't enjoy it, I was scared, and it was unrelated to size.
@Ziemowit
I arranged to rent a room with a landlord as opposed to wanting to be raped. Sorry for the confusion!