callmebyyourname
3 May 2018
Love / How do we know that Polish guys really serious in their relationship? [16]
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Hi there! I really need some advice from you guys. I'm sorry that this's gonna be a bit lengthy.
I'm in a relationship with a Polish guy for 3 months. We both live in Germany. He is (only when we meet) sweet and nice to me and there're quite a lot problem between us. Despite that, I still like/love him so much. I know it's stupid to be so attached just after 3 months of relationship...
He always keeps all his emotions and feelings to himself. Whenever he's sad, stressed, he doesn't want to tell me unless I ask him like 50 times in an hour. I mean, as his partner, I want to share not only his happiness but also his negative feelings. I'm trying so hard to break his walls but I can never go into his heart. Also, he doesn't know how to (or just doesn't want to) express his affection to me. He never tells me that he loves me. Also, he never says something nice or cute things to comfort or cheer me up whenever I'm mad or sad. I don't know if this has anything to do with his personality or the culture (are Polish are always calm and indifferent to things?). We have talked about this for so many times too and he's always like "I'm not the one who made this, I can't solve this for you" or "don't always live in your fantasy and expect I'd would sugar-coated stuff to you. Not everyone has to be nice to you. I'm sorry if the world is not treating how you expect but you're not a baby. Just accept and move on". One time I was so ill and I was a bit mad that he didn't ask if I'm feeling better the whole day. And I asked him why then he said "is a text from gonna make you feel you better? No. I'm not the doctor". I was completely speechless and disappointed.
He cares about money so much. He never brings me to any restaurant even on Valentine's Day. Every time we eat out, we only go to McDonald's. I'm totally fine with McDonald's food but don't feeling like eating there every time we meet. I've talked to him about this before and I told him that I don't mind splitting the bill, and he was like why do you want to pay 15 Euro for something in a restaurant when you can cook it by yourself with a cheaper price.
He never or just seldom listens to me. In our relationship, he's the one who always decides everything. Even if he asks for my opinion, he usually ends up taking his own ideas. He says there always has to be a person who listens. Are Polish men very macho?
There are still a lot more problems between us but I don't wanna break up with him. I wanna try and see if things can work after 1 or 2 months. And as you guys can probably tell, yes I'm the kind of person who always needs attention from the partner. I've never been with a Polish guy before so I don't know if these are culture thing or not. Thank you so much for reading until here...
One more thing, does it mean anything when he brings me to his parents?
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In a relationship with a Polish guy... How are Polish guys like?
Hi there! I really need some advice from you guys. I'm sorry that this's gonna be a bit lengthy.
I'm in a relationship with a Polish guy for 3 months. We both live in Germany. He is (only when we meet) sweet and nice to me and there're quite a lot problem between us. Despite that, I still like/love him so much. I know it's stupid to be so attached just after 3 months of relationship...
He always keeps all his emotions and feelings to himself. Whenever he's sad, stressed, he doesn't want to tell me unless I ask him like 50 times in an hour. I mean, as his partner, I want to share not only his happiness but also his negative feelings. I'm trying so hard to break his walls but I can never go into his heart. Also, he doesn't know how to (or just doesn't want to) express his affection to me. He never tells me that he loves me. Also, he never says something nice or cute things to comfort or cheer me up whenever I'm mad or sad. I don't know if this has anything to do with his personality or the culture (are Polish are always calm and indifferent to things?). We have talked about this for so many times too and he's always like "I'm not the one who made this, I can't solve this for you" or "don't always live in your fantasy and expect I'd would sugar-coated stuff to you. Not everyone has to be nice to you. I'm sorry if the world is not treating how you expect but you're not a baby. Just accept and move on". One time I was so ill and I was a bit mad that he didn't ask if I'm feeling better the whole day. And I asked him why then he said "is a text from gonna make you feel you better? No. I'm not the doctor". I was completely speechless and disappointed.
He cares about money so much. He never brings me to any restaurant even on Valentine's Day. Every time we eat out, we only go to McDonald's. I'm totally fine with McDonald's food but don't feeling like eating there every time we meet. I've talked to him about this before and I told him that I don't mind splitting the bill, and he was like why do you want to pay 15 Euro for something in a restaurant when you can cook it by yourself with a cheaper price.
He never or just seldom listens to me. In our relationship, he's the one who always decides everything. Even if he asks for my opinion, he usually ends up taking his own ideas. He says there always has to be a person who listens. Are Polish men very macho?
There are still a lot more problems between us but I don't wanna break up with him. I wanna try and see if things can work after 1 or 2 months. And as you guys can probably tell, yes I'm the kind of person who always needs attention from the partner. I've never been with a Polish guy before so I don't know if these are culture thing or not. Thank you so much for reading until here...
One more thing, does it mean anything when he brings me to his parents?