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28 Mar 2018
Law / Polish child maintenance, possible Irish father, Polish mother [21]
hi all, about 10 years ago, i posted something along the lines below. Unfortunately I cannot find the original post:
askaboutmoney.com/threads/child-maintenance-to-poland-court-order.99768/
Bottom line is - i feel this girl is quite calculating, she has no consideration for me or my feelings, she sees me as a source of funds, i want to get this over and done with and pay some monthly ammount - but i dont want to be ripped off. i am aware of my responsibility to pay something. I am not trying to escape this. Any thoughts? Also if any polish people are on here - i would be interested on what you think of as a "fair" ammount to be paid per month?
at this moment, I havent paid anything as i am still not sure the child is mine or not. I have been in and out of court the last few years here in Ireland, and now the case is back to poland, its been split into two, one is to establish paternity , the other is reduction in the amount to pay. I have been assigned legal aid in poland, two seperate "lawyers" between the two cases. I have to say , one of the lawyers doesnt speak english, so all is sent to me in polish and i try my best to use an english / polish online traslator, but as you can imagine , some stuff gets lost in translation, i have been referred to as " the lord" in some of the docs (after the translation) ,the other female lawyer, does not want to really help me at all it seems, I get one line emails, when i ask for clarification, i get a reply like " Read the email!!!!"
Anyway , i was sent the minutes of the first case , to reduce the maintenance payments. I could only see the mothers side of the story, nothing about how she voluntarily exited ireland after she got pregnant , and that how she has allergies and needs to holiday by the coast once a year. It also says the cost to raise a child in Poland is now over 2000 pln per month (perhaps this is true? all countries have rising child care costs) , also the minutes stated , that the 200 euros per month is not enough and needs to be more. I am a qualified IT engineer and my potential to make money is much higher!!!! Finally it states, I am doing a deliberate avoidance of income , so as to give her nothing.
I know a lot of you will scorn this, but since she did a runner, I hit the bottle and am unable to keep a job down. i am in and out of rehab and living with my 84 year old mother, my wife has left me, my car is sold, all i have is the shirt on my back. I get about 760 euros per month on the social welfare, i have offered the court that I will pay 100 euros per month to her from this , i have no house or property that can be ceased/. I have a feeling that the polish judge wont accept this, even though now it is backdated 10 years, i owe about 30000 in back dated support. but what can i do? Will a european arrest warrant be issued? even though i have nothing to give her?
the case will be heard on the 11th of april this year to see if i can enforce paternity. how does it work if i dont have the money to cover the DNA test?
I know i am unlucky , i dont think most Polish women are this stereotype that is portrayed , but for any guys reading this that might contemplate a child with a polish girl, make sure you know her very very well before you do . Its ruined my life.
Cheers
hi all, about 10 years ago, i posted something along the lines below. Unfortunately I cannot find the original post:
askaboutmoney.com/threads/child-maintenance-to-poland-court-order.99768/
Bottom line is - i feel this girl is quite calculating, she has no consideration for me or my feelings, she sees me as a source of funds, i want to get this over and done with and pay some monthly ammount - but i dont want to be ripped off. i am aware of my responsibility to pay something. I am not trying to escape this. Any thoughts? Also if any polish people are on here - i would be interested on what you think of as a "fair" ammount to be paid per month?
at this moment, I havent paid anything as i am still not sure the child is mine or not. I have been in and out of court the last few years here in Ireland, and now the case is back to poland, its been split into two, one is to establish paternity , the other is reduction in the amount to pay. I have been assigned legal aid in poland, two seperate "lawyers" between the two cases. I have to say , one of the lawyers doesnt speak english, so all is sent to me in polish and i try my best to use an english / polish online traslator, but as you can imagine , some stuff gets lost in translation, i have been referred to as " the lord" in some of the docs (after the translation) ,the other female lawyer, does not want to really help me at all it seems, I get one line emails, when i ask for clarification, i get a reply like " Read the email!!!!"
Anyway , i was sent the minutes of the first case , to reduce the maintenance payments. I could only see the mothers side of the story, nothing about how she voluntarily exited ireland after she got pregnant , and that how she has allergies and needs to holiday by the coast once a year. It also says the cost to raise a child in Poland is now over 2000 pln per month (perhaps this is true? all countries have rising child care costs) , also the minutes stated , that the 200 euros per month is not enough and needs to be more. I am a qualified IT engineer and my potential to make money is much higher!!!! Finally it states, I am doing a deliberate avoidance of income , so as to give her nothing.
I know a lot of you will scorn this, but since she did a runner, I hit the bottle and am unable to keep a job down. i am in and out of rehab and living with my 84 year old mother, my wife has left me, my car is sold, all i have is the shirt on my back. I get about 760 euros per month on the social welfare, i have offered the court that I will pay 100 euros per month to her from this , i have no house or property that can be ceased/. I have a feeling that the polish judge wont accept this, even though now it is backdated 10 years, i owe about 30000 in back dated support. but what can i do? Will a european arrest warrant be issued? even though i have nothing to give her?
the case will be heard on the 11th of april this year to see if i can enforce paternity. how does it work if i dont have the money to cover the DNA test?
I know i am unlucky , i dont think most Polish women are this stereotype that is portrayed , but for any guys reading this that might contemplate a child with a polish girl, make sure you know her very very well before you do . Its ruined my life.
Cheers