Malia
3 Nov 2016
Love / Do Polish guys understand subtlety? [8]
I've searched the forums but can't find anything directly related to this.
Do Polish guys understand subtlety? I've read here that sometimes Polish guys can be "slow" in relationships, and that was certainly true for me. I had to make all the moves, which I didn't want to do because I prefer the guy to do that. We're married now, but he still doesn't seem to "get it" when it comes to certain things I like, want, etc.
As an example, I've dropped hints about things I like, but he never seems to pick up on them. So our first Christmas together, he almost bought me something expensive that I had NO interest in, but didn't get what I really wanted. He seems completely oblivious to subtle hints about what I like and would love to have (for Christmas, birthdays, etc.), and I am really at a loss as to what to do. I DON'T want to outright ask for things.
We adore each other and there's nothing he wouldn't do for me, so it's just baffling that he wouldn't pay close attention to the things I like. It's not about the "stuff," it's about the thought behind it. In my experience, when you care deeply about someone, you naturally want to show it through the gifts you give them. You want to make the person happy by giving them gifts they love. It's certainly how I feel towards him.
Please no comments about being greedy - as I said, this isn't about the "stuff." I can't really go into detail here about why this particular issue is so important, but trust me, it is. I'm just curious to know if this is perhaps a Polish trait I was unaware of.
Btw: I'm American and he was born in Poland but grew up in America since he was a toddler.
I've searched the forums but can't find anything directly related to this.
Do Polish guys understand subtlety? I've read here that sometimes Polish guys can be "slow" in relationships, and that was certainly true for me. I had to make all the moves, which I didn't want to do because I prefer the guy to do that. We're married now, but he still doesn't seem to "get it" when it comes to certain things I like, want, etc.
As an example, I've dropped hints about things I like, but he never seems to pick up on them. So our first Christmas together, he almost bought me something expensive that I had NO interest in, but didn't get what I really wanted. He seems completely oblivious to subtle hints about what I like and would love to have (for Christmas, birthdays, etc.), and I am really at a loss as to what to do. I DON'T want to outright ask for things.
We adore each other and there's nothing he wouldn't do for me, so it's just baffling that he wouldn't pay close attention to the things I like. It's not about the "stuff," it's about the thought behind it. In my experience, when you care deeply about someone, you naturally want to show it through the gifts you give them. You want to make the person happy by giving them gifts they love. It's certainly how I feel towards him.
Please no comments about being greedy - as I said, this isn't about the "stuff." I can't really go into detail here about why this particular issue is so important, but trust me, it is. I'm just curious to know if this is perhaps a Polish trait I was unaware of.
Btw: I'm American and he was born in Poland but grew up in America since he was a toddler.