Love / English girl. Do Polish men afraid to show their feelings or they are just not comfortable in UK? [84]

Merged: English girl with Polish man but he lacks sexual desire...is this normal in polski men?

Help...i am an English girl with a polish man. We have been together for a year...everything in our relationship is almost perfect...except for sex. He has an issue that my sex drive is too high. He is also cold and doesn't really know how to treat a woman. A major issue is his lack of desire...He can't be bothered and feels sex is just need to off load once a week !!.... is that a cultural issue and I should accept polish men are this way or am I wasting my time with someone who commented by saying he could be a priest??

His past relations have been extremely brief..In his words just to be challenged to meet attractive girls..all polish. He was married but was cheated on.

I don't want to sound confident but I am not an ugly woman...slim ..attractive and extremely caring but somehow he seems to be taking my kind nature to the limit.

Sex is something I feel strongly about and connects people by saving yourself for just one.... We feel more like friends than lovers.
Would love to hear from others as this is driving me crazy. I have talked to him about it and he says he is trying .... He now holds hands..kisses and will cuddle... but the static sex on a Friday only is no longer bearable.

what do you think ?...am I being too pushy in expecting too much ??
Or is it a general thing in Poland... He has brothers and i have seen then with their partners...They don't seem so cold as he is.

Love / English girl. Do Polish men afraid to show their feelings or they are just not comfortable in UK? [84]

Thank you...i have already mentioned this. He said as a tenner get he always had the need but now he doesn't. Doesn't even want to try to create it either.

Love / English girl. Do Polish men afraid to show their feelings or they are just not comfortable in UK? [84]

Thank you all..i have already mentioned his levels . He said as a teenager he always had the need but now he doesn't. Doesn't even want to try to create it either.

He doesn't really know how to touch either..foreplay is a no no. He will accept oral but not give it which isn't a problem to me but shows he is a selfish lover as it's all his way or no way !

I am experienced with men and i never met someone that lacks desire before. I have questioned his sexual it too just in case l.

He constantly watches other women...especially their backsides so i don't think he is gay.

He said when he was with his wife they would have sex sometimes 2 to 3 times a week but that was after not being with each other for a few months. Their relationship was strained and very odd but he loved her.

He says he loves me... He thinks he has demonstrated that enough by the occasional cuddle or text which he says is new for him. Also said if he was a warm with his wife as he is with me she probably wouldn't have cheated and left him

ever since I been with him he has shown his emotions or feelings and when you do so much for someone and they don't reciprocate anything it makes it hard to work out what they want or think.

. Part of me thinks he is just lonely here in uk and just wants company. ..He doesn't have anyone here other than his child that he has custody of.

He isn't a generous man in anyway but I took that as culture so not being wined and dined isn't an issue either but hiw else can I feel he is wanting me if he doesn't talk openly about feelings...show any emotions....not take me out anyway unless free and Sexless?

I fought hard not to love him...i thought he was a good kind family man that stood by his responsibilities ...The reasons why my feelings grew but now in a relationship after a year I can't see he feels anything more than friendship for me.

I get more spontaneous hugs and calls from my best mate...He is a great man but more like my brother...fortunately I can talk to him.

All these negatives make him sound like an ogre...He isn't. He is good looking. .and extremely vain. But for what?
He is proud he shagged 20 women before me in a year so obviously somewhere he has a need !!..plus a f*@k buddy.
I am so confused ... its affected everything about me.... i am afraid of my own image in mirror even though male attention has never been difficult for me. I have returned back to gym...been to doctor for help and see a counsellor to talk of the self esteem issue I now have.

I don't want to give up on him just because of sex but the extent of the damage of him insulting my body and not desiring me physically is hurting me so much. He takes everything from me ...accept help with his home which I helped him get...decorated..cleaned...cooked...cared for his child everyday with food and school runs... and for what ??

I didn't do those things for something back but would have thought he would have felt something ? Love me he says he does....hiw does he ?

Love / Polish girls don't go for one night stands, is it true? [56]

Hi..i am with a polish guy. Before me he dated 100 women in a year..all polish !!..majority all wanted hin for sex but he said he only slept with 20 of them... polish girls are just as open to one night stands as other cultures. The one thing he said is polish girls are not experienced in knowing what to do so just plain sex is all they know..hence my issue with him !!

I think his general response in his own culture is that although they are slim and attractive they lack knowledge of the world and they cheat easily as they always want better than they got... i think that's unfair but it's his own opinion.

He never dated outside of his race until me and now he wants to grow old with me but sexually we are not compatible. ..yet to decide what to do about that!!

good luck

Love / English girl. Do Polish men afraid to show their feelings or they are just not comfortable in UK? [84]

He said sex doesn't bother him.... something he can live without. He is only 35 ...i don't know any man that could say they don't want it or need it. For a woman it makes the relationship complete...connecting with a man in a loving way showing him he want to be with him totally. I don't understand him...i am trying to.

Love / English girl. Do Polish men afraid to show their feelings or they are just not comfortable in UK? [84]

At least i am not the only one that thinks he doesn't love me... i will show him this thread and see what he thinks ...at least he will see other people think same as me. He isn't an evil man but definitely has attachment issues. Thank you all once again. :)