Posts by sankarin

sankarin

23 Dec 2013

Love / Why are Polish girls so confusing? [30]

I've met some poles lately at my past work and besides noticing how beautiful and smiling polish girls can be, they can also become a big headache when it comes to relationships. One of this colleagues and I started chatting and talk about our lives... Then one of her friends came to me and told she was into me. Athough I could not figure she was indeed I decided to trust this mutual friend and asked this girl out, which was accepted in the second attempt (the first one she said her english was not good enough and she wasnt confident about going out by herself yet). Anyways, we headed out and after a while chatting I decided to go for it. Ok, I'm brazilian so I think my approach is a bit more agressive (dont take me wrong by that) than what polish guys are used to have, but it is all about being straight forward. Well, if you like me and I like you than why not kissing each other right? For my surprise she refused to turn her lips toward mine and kiss, saying she had someone and she wanted to be honest with this other guy. So I was just ok with that and said she should have told me that before. Actually it sounded more like an excuse than she had a bf really, but well, the queue goes on. I just left her behind but we still talked.

Something similar happened to another polish girl. My friend who lives with her came to me and said she liked me. We talked a lot about polish music and we sticked together for a good while at a party but then when I tried to approach she just went away. She had to leave early this night so I couldnt do much about, but in the next day she hit me on facebook and went on with the music issue but nothing besides happened even though I told her to let me know in case she would be free for the weekend, which she didnt.

Sometimes I just feel polish girls just like having someone to give them compliments about their beautiful atributes and that's all. In fact I used to do that a lot when I was a teenager but I don't have that much patience anymore. Just a matter of fact Ive been to other two polish girls when I was in Poland, and both acted like what I am describing. To get a kiss out of them I had to spoil and speak a lot until they felt confident enough and went for it.

So I really would love to hear from polish girls what's on their mind when it comes to relationships. I heard that polish guys can be really slow most of the times so maybe thats the way I should behave when I try to approach next time.

sankarin

24 Dec 2013

Love / Why are Polish girls so confusing? [30]

And it depends on what you want, I guess.

Notice I said relationship. It's not about sex. When I say go for it I mean kissing, not going for a rape like sex attempt. Again, don't take this aggressive approach as I'm a latin horny as hell, that sounds a bit offensive. The point is those girls do just the opposite of what they are supposed to when it comes to giving out cues they are into someone according to what Ive learnt along so far.

I'm not that bad looking, nor think Im up for some promiscous fun. Been with girls from other nationalities and none acted like this. If they liked they would show interest and didn't being that confusing (of course there are exceptions for every rule)... I've talked to my friends who dated polish girls who said they all act as such.

apparently according to some very reliable study Polish women in the UK are more "promiscuous" than in Poland, so maybe you should try your luck there :)))

Surprise: I live in Dublin now and there are a bunch of polish people settled in here. Wouldn't say they are promiscuous even because they barely go out around at night. At least in the city centre.

That said, it also looks like you have problems picking up cues that Polish women put out.

You got the point. I think the problem is about picking up their cues and that's what I expect this post to bringing up. They must have such unique cues.

sankarin

24 Dec 2013

Love / Why are Polish girls so confusing? [30]

Well, sankarin, someone who writes sth like this "To get a kiss out of them I had to spoil and speak a lot until they felt confident enough and went for it." doesn't strike me as someone looking for a relationship.

Well, I don't think all of them was looking for a serious one too. Not that I wasn't but I just prefer letting it go and if it turns out it will become serious, then why not? But something I forgot to mention is that one of them had a bf and still used to hang out with other guys (i know cheating is not only among polish girls, just pointing out this one wasnt in fact looking for a serious relationship).

How old are you?
At which date were you trying to kiss them first?

I'm 23 now. And yes it was in the first date, but I knew them from before, so it wasnt like i was a strange.

Why are you so fixed on Polish girls anyway?

Well, I just found out they are the most beautiful in the world =). And yes, they are all nice, kind, even smiley, although some can look really serious and mad. But maybe the challenge of not getting a clue from them is making me more attracted to them.

Doesn't matter, some other nationalities do not have that custom that kiss on the first date is no no. After all if you agreed to date a guy surely at lest you gonna kiss him. Why wait?

Thank you man! Just think the same. People must know how to give and get a no when it's no. Would be much easier than bearing this doubt in mind and wondering what did u do wrong when she went away or maybe.

When they go on a date and they realise they aren't attracted to the guy it is likely they won't make him feel this. They'll try to end this in a nice and most humane way possible in order not to hurt the feelings of the boy or guy in question.

Make sense. But come on, why the hell would she accept hanging out with me just to tell she had a bf when I tried to kiss? I made it clear my intentions. Besides, after this day I kept listening from their friends she was jealousy when I was talking to any of them and even my polish boss came to me to tell this girl was into me. I agree it all sounds very childish, but that's how it all happened.

sankarin

13 Mar 2014

Love / Why are Polish girls so confusing? [30]

Ok guys. after a while off i decided to come back and give a reply of what happened afterwards and my thoughs on the situation i started mentioning in this topic. It turned out i picked up this second girl who lives with my friend and we made it out for like a month.

the point i acknowledged is that polish girls love the game more than any other nationality ive known. i wouldn't like to generalize but it is like common sense just like all brazilians should play soccer. just after my last post here i decided leave her behind. and i would have done that if this mutual friend hadn't called me out to a party saying she was willing to see me. so then i decided myself not to take any advance that night and i did it right. in a given moment she was like "you brazilians are all the same, you just talk a bit and then go for it. you need to seduce more. you're doing it wrong". so i only went for it in the next party we agreed to go and it worked. it was a really nice time. she broke up with her ex french bf after a while...

she was a really interesting girl besides being hot. the downturn came when we were in another party. although i wouldnt call her my girlfriend we were seeing each other every week so this last time we were partying she saw her ex, this french one, and she just left me behind and went talk to him very close. im not jealous but this time i did not feel comfortable. so she came back to me, and i invited her to go to the dancefloor which she refused, and by this point i noticed there was somethign wrong going on that night. after insisting to her come with me she agreed. then suddenly when we were talking she gave me her back, hugged another guy and started crying. i was horryfying not getting a clue of what happened by this point, then she came back to me and said it was better for me to go upstairs which i didn't agree. so she just went away with this guy and left me behind. for my surprise this was her other ex boyfriend, who was brazilian as well.

after this i deleted all the way of contacts we had and never talked back to her. i must admit she was the only person i hated in all my life and i really hope ill never hate anybody again because it was such a horrible feeling. fortunally i got rid of it very soon and we never talked back again.

morals of story: polish girls are the best players ever, no matter if they want to have something with you or not, theyll play anyway and make you think u stand a chance. im saying this cause she told me herself.