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brumdave   
21 Nov 2012
Love / How do I tell her how I feel? Working with a Polish woman. [24]

I had to register to see if there was any advice I could get on a Polish girl from work who I like but is leaving on Friday and going back to Poland.. It's a bit long, sorry.

I've worked with Polish women before but never really seen what all the fuss was about with them from my mates. All that changed when I started work at my current job. From the first time I saw her, I just thought she was perfect and I couldn't stop staring at her. Eventually she noticed me looking at her and we started having lots of eye contact, sometimes too much. This went on for months and I could not tell if she liked me or was staring at me because I was staring at her. So I guess I didn't feel confident enough to speak to her and then one day she started saying "hi" to me in the mornings and the eye contact continued. I finally got to work next to her a few weeks ago and at first she seemed really moody, sitting next to me with her back facing me. For days I could not say anything to her that was not work related until a point where the frustration was driving me nuts, so I just started talking to her about personal things like where she lives etc. After this her body language towards me changed, her body, knee's and toes etc were always polorised in my direction even when she was standing and talking to someone else with little glances over at me. She was much warmer towards me as well, even offering to pour my drink in the canteen during break. There have been lots of other things as well but I can't tell if she likes me or is just really friendly as I know people from other countries have different customs etc so I could be interperating these signs wrong. I'm not even sure what my question is really but on Tuesday I found out she is leaving at the end of the week and I almost fainted on the spot. I guess I just want to know should I take the signs I'm getting from her the same way I would an English girl? I mean how do you know if a Polish girl likes you and is it worth telling her how I feel even though she is leaving, and if so how do Polish girls like to be approached?
brumdave   
22 Nov 2012
Love / How do I tell her how I feel? Working with a Polish woman. [24]

Thanks for the replys guys.

Well, it must have been God's intervention because today I got to work next to her again. We talked more today than we have done in the total 6 months or so we have worked together. She was telling me about her life and the more she talked, the more I liked her and knew she was my "type" Anyway, I asked her what she was doing this weekend and she said 'visiting friends' and then I asked 'what do you normally do on the weekend' and she said 'nothing' and then I asked if she had a boyfriend and she said 'no' and then I asked why not and she said 'it's not just that simple, and do I have a girlfriend and why not' Instead of saying something cool and confident like 'because you're the only woman I want' I just said 'I dunno' lol. Anyway, about 15 mins before the end of the day and in front of 3 other girls, one of which started laughing when she heard what I was saying, it just kind of popped out. I asked her if she wanted to go out with me sometime. She looked kinda stunned but was smiling and said 'what do you mean' I said 'like a date, to the movies or something' She said she is busy with packing and her family is coming over to take her back so she wont have time, but she said thank you for the invite. I said 'cool, I just needed to tell you I like you before you left' She said 'I know' and smiled. It wasn't awkward afterwards, we just kept chatting like nothing was said. To be honest, I would have liked to have taken her out but I'm just so glad I asked because I would have been thinking "what if" for the rest of my life. I think I'm going to just give her my number tomorrow and just say 'if you get time, then give me a call, if not, cool' I actually feel kinda happy in a way because I guess the situation was more about me dealing with my fears than wanted to get with this girl. I'm sad she is leaving but good because I finally know. I still can't believe I did it in front of the other girls and didn't even feel embarassed lol.
brumdave   
23 Nov 2012
Love / How do I tell her how I feel? Working with a Polish woman. [24]

She left today and to be honest, it hurts a little knowing I'll never see her again. But I'm not so upset they will find me hanging in the toilets at work with a sign around my next saying "because of the Polish girl" Life goes on and I don't regret meeting her :)
brumdave   
2 Dec 2012
Love / How do I tell her how I feel? Working with a Polish woman. [24]

I sent her a friend request on facebook about 3 hours after I last saw her which was the day she left work. I was depressed all week at work thinking she ignored it and then the other day I logged on and found she had accepted my request. I felt really happy knowing that we can still have some sort of contact, but sad because I don't know when I will see her again, if ever. I sent her a message trying to explain how I feel about her and why I never talked to her all that time. I'll update when she replies :)
brumdave   
2 Dec 2012
Love / How do I tell her how I feel? Working with a Polish woman. [24]

If she wants to see me then I'll be on the first coach out of here. I'm ready to quit my job if I'm being honest as money has never motivated me, only love does. I'm just trying to work out the cheapest and quickest way as we speak :)
brumdave   
2 Dec 2012
Love / How do I tell her how I feel? Working with a Polish woman. [24]

"inlove" is a bit of a strong phrase mate and I'm not interested in going clubbing as it was never about sex, I was already boning one of the other eastern europeans from work. some women are just special, I hope you too realise this one day. If you thinking going clubbing and preying on druken women is having "game" then I'll leave you to it mate :)
brumdave   
2 Dec 2012
Love / How do I tell her how I feel? Working with a Polish woman. [24]

No, you just brag about blowing the competition away by speaking Polish...blah blah blah :)

I don't brag or try and belittle people in front of an audience, I just state facts.

And not all women are special, some are just boring and ordinary as are most men, but if you're a guy who has not had much experience with women then I guess you would see them all as special "in their own way"

Bro, you said to ask you for advice but like I say, going to a club with lots of cash full of drunk women is not really my style or what I would consider having "game" Like I say though, I'll leave you too it.

'stalker'? dude, stop hating, it embarassing.