Polonia / Poland tourist visa inquiry for Philippines? [8]

Hello..Im Rubie from the Philippines.i have a polish fiance and his family is inviting us(my Daughter) to visit poland. We have a 4 months old daughter.We suppose to get married here in the Philippines but the polish consulate here in the philippines doesnt issue the legal capacity to get Married.You need to go to kuala lumpur as nearest embassy to ask their assistance butt it takes time .So i plan to apply visit visa to poland and get married there and after that well have to process as well the citizenship our daughter in his place.. My questions are

- is it ok to apply tourist visa then get married there considering all my docs for marriage are complete?
-is 90 days tourist visa is enough for this matter?
-if ever we couldnt get married right away with in 90 days.do i have to leave with my daughter out of poland or extend my stay?how to do it?

After we get married in poland,am i legal to stay with my hubby together with our daughter?do i have to apply any permit to stay with him?

-i will go to poland with my daughter ,does she need invitation letter as well ?or shes included in my invitation letter.

hop e you can give me some advice... thANKS IN ADVANCE