Love / Can Polish men date with Chinese women? [23]

As with any two people, there must first be attraction between you two. Are you both good friends? Do you hang out with one another, talk a lot, share a lot about each other, etc?

Get to know him. Get to know what he likes, what he doesn't like, etc ...

Besides, your question is too hard for anyone to answer. Sure, there will be those guys who only date a certain type of woman and stay rigid in their preferences, but you will also meet men who don't or never thought about the race of the person they'd date or fall in love with. The best advice I can give to you is that you should see how well of a match you'd two make, and then it's all a matter of convincing him of the same. :)

I'm from the states, I'm not sure how different that is from Europeans, but the laws of attraction remain the same. I'm Chinese myself, and my boyfriend is first generation Polish. It's funny, because when I first met him in college, it was through somewhat of a mutual friend (he was a suitemate of a friend I had just met) and I thought "No way would he ever like me, he's way too cute!" and then three years later, he's mine! Point being, you never know how things turn out.

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Love / How to read the signals from this Polish Guy? [19]

First, if you do in fact meet him, please be careful. Many relationships now begin online but it is also an easier medium for which people can prey on others. So be cautious, despite what you feel, just to be prepared.

Secondly, I find that when one is interested in another person they haven't really met, it's much more likely they'd speak of ideals (meaning what they'd really like to go for rather than reality). So for him to say that he isn't interested in relationships or marriage (THOUGH it is a common thing to say ... from men ... lol) it's very hard to gauge how much he means that, having not met you in person just yet. I'm not giving false hope, just saying that in general, you may get to know some very basics and very specifics about a person through your conversations prior to meeting, but you really get to know the person after a face-to-face meeting (and those thereafter).

I DO NOT like how he says you can date other men, and you likewise saying he can date other women. You have said a LDR won't work, but often times, relationships started online drag out longer and become LDRs even if you don't mean for them to be. Let's hope that if you two end up meeting and liking each other, that it doesn't become one, because who knows where the boundary might be for you two (especially when you aren't physically together).

And not to poke your bubble or anything, but still be weary. I'm not an expert, but I've found that many people absorb themselves in online relationships but they hold them to a different degree than an actual relationship. While they may show signs of great interest and message you first, it may just be a pasttime thing for them to do that's enjoyable, but they check out once it becomes a true reality. Ideally, if one was so interested, they'd hop on a plane the minute they could just to see you ... but that's not so either. They can have the same hesitations and apprehensions as you might.

I never give good advice because I play both sides, but I guess I'm just saying be weary and cautious when meeting this person but also be smart and read the actual signs given and not ones that you hope to be there.

Love / Can Polish men date with Chinese women? [23]

Be confident.

Love / Can Polish men date with Chinese women? [23]

I think, in part, that's how I feel too (unfortunately). It's not that I myself compare to the beast in fairytales, it's just that I've always had this impression that he went for the typical blonde haired blue eyed girl. So while we are in a committed relationship and he tells me he loves me every five minutes, in my mind I have this image of him dating someone who looks more like the girls his mother would probably want him to date. It's probably a product of being first-gen born; my mother always told me that I should marry Chinese so that we could pass along our language, culture, etc and I am sure it's similar with his mother and family. Besides, I've met his sister and she is the typical blonde bombshell and I wonder if I'm standing in the way of that.

But, as any hopeless romantic is apt to say, true love prevails over everything! I hope things turn out well between both of you, and if they don't ... quite honestly, it wasn't meant to be and I'm pretty sure there's another waiting around the corner.