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Orchid   
27 Nov 2011
Love / Falling for a Polish guy and confused.. [23]

Hi! I'm new to this forum. I actually posted but no one has responded yet so I decided to become a member and repost again. Here's my story- I met this guy and gone out with him about three times. I think I'm falling hard for him and I barely knew the guy. I don't fall easily but apparently its happening. I'm screwed because he is leaving to Poland this month. I don't even know why he keeps wanting to see me and email/text me everyday (for two weeks now since he got my email) when he knows he is leaving. I never wanted a LDR, but I think I'm willing to give it a shot with this guy, but we are not even together. He's such a sweet caring polite shy guy, but again I don't really know him that well so i could be wrong. All I know is that he makes me smile and I felt the connection the moment we first kissed. I just met him and within an hour, he kissed me and I kissed him back! I never kissed a stranger in my life but it felt so right. I never knew that kind of intense feeling exist until I met him (and I've had long term relationships). Should I give LDR a shot if he asks? Or should I just avoid him and prepare for his departure and not say anything about my feelings? I don't even know how he feels about me. I haven't seen him for 4 days, and about two nights ago, he emailed me at 2am asking if he would be seeing me anytime soon. I figured that he wants to see me again and interested but don't know where this is heading (maybe he's just bored). Any thoughts will help.. Thanks.
Orchid   
27 Nov 2011
Love / Falling for a Polish guy and confused.. [23]

Wow! It kinda hurts but I guess I need to hear that. Thanks Ironside..

I'm not that young. Im picky when it comes to guys and don't fall for guys easily (in my experience, guys fall for me first). I don't do one night stand and don't give out my number to any guys I just met. I had two long term relationships in total. I thought I knew love and relationships, the ins and out and everything in between, until I met this guy. Im the person all my friends go to when it comes to advice on anything, but now I feel like my brain isn't working. I don't have any European or Polish friends so I'm trying to get a feedback from this forum.

Pawian, what do you mean by its a written English practice?

Thanks for all the feedback...
Orchid   
28 Nov 2011
Love / Falling for a Polish guy and confused.. [23]

I know that he is just a guy, but based on my experience, culture has an impact on people's values, ways, and how they do things.

@f stop- Yes only to ask when he could see me again. This morning he emailed me at 6am saying he couldn't sleep anymore so he decided to email me. He also insisted in meeting me at work the last time instead of me driving to his area to have lunch which didnt make sense to me because we were having lunch in his area. So he took the bus to my work and we both drove back to his area for lunch. I got nervous at one point cuz I caught him staring at me while I was driving.

I appreciate all the feedback.. I think I'm just gonna have fun and hang out with this guy with no expectation. I never do LDR anyways (although he knows i like europe and willing to move there). I'm just gonna be a good friend and show him around LA, but not gonna be his fling. When he goes back to Poland, hopefully he'll remember that girl in LA that showed him a great time in a short period of time.
Orchid   
28 Nov 2011
Love / Falling for a Polish guy and confused.. [23]

F stop- I have no heart? You are the one that said that he might just want a fling.. We all know that at the end, I'm the one that's going to end up with a broken heart. I think you misunderstood what im trying to say. When I say I'm gonna have fun, I meant I'm gonna continue seeing him and enjoying his company despite knowing in my heart that this is all gonna end soon. Im not gonna overanalyze this situation anymore. I don't want to pressure this guy to define what we are and where this is heading. I have no control over how I feel about this guy, but I'm willing to accept that I have to let him go and I'll end up with a broken heart. I never got heart broken before so maybe it's time for me to have a taste of it. He might try to keep in touch for awhile or not, but im always gonna look back and remember that I once fell madly in love with this guy at first sight but he never knew, and it was the most perfect first kiss created by two strangers.

I have good intention about this guy, but I can't force something that isn't there when he knew I know he's leaving (just like what some of you have said)..
Orchid   
2 Dec 2011
Love / First Dates with a Polish guy who grew up in France [21]

We have the opposite experience. Im not okay kissing on first date, and the polish guy I just met did kiss me on our first meeting and our first official date. I hate to admit this, but I guess with the right person, all those rules disappears. It was kinda nice.. :)
Orchid   
6 Dec 2011
Love / Falling for a Polish guy and confused.. [23]

No he is not married and has no kids. He said he applied for a temporary position here in Los Angeles but waiting to be accepted. He will be working back in Poland for the meantime. He is educated. I don't want to ask him what will happen when he leaves. Ive been seeing him, and he's been on my mind every hour of the day. He is leaving soon and stressed out with the things he has to do before he leaves. I think it's true that Poles are very hard to get know. He does not open up much about his personal lives like his past relationships etc (i guess at this point it does not matter). He does tell stories and experiences working and traveling. He tells me he likes me and he likes watching me while i do things (which I can see from the way he looks at me on different occassions). Anyhow, I'm still expecting less when he leaves. Would it be too much if I give him an early Christmas present that he can open on Christmas day? Would that scare a guy away? I need a guy's opinion on this. Thanks.
Orchid   
6 Dec 2011
Love / Falling for a Polish guy and confused.. [23]

I don't expect anything in return. I'm thinking of getting him a nice watch (maybe swatch), and of course, Im not gonna mention or include the price. I'm just thinking he might go online to check the price and he'll figure that this American girl is that crazy to spend that much on someone she isnt even sure she'll see again!