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canadian_girl   
2 Aug 2011
Love / How do Polish guys feel about having an older girlfriend/wife? [30]

I'm a Canadian girl (obviously, lol) and met a really great Polish guy online (totally by chance... in an online game). When we first started chatting, we were both polite and neither of us asked for each other's age. We had a lot in common and liked a lot of the same music, etc, which made me assume that he was probably somewhere around my age. We really enjoyed our chats and after about 2 weeks or so, I finally asked him for his age and found out that he's 8 years younger than me (I just turned 30 yesterday). If I knew that from the start, I probably wouldn't have bothered continuing to chat with him, as I normally wouldn't go for a guy 8 years younger, but I already liked him so much that I let it slide. Exceptions can always be made! :) He seems very mature for his age and I still have that youthful spark to my personality and everyone thinks I look more like I'm in my early-mid 20's rather than 30, so we certainly wouldn't look out of place together. I asked him if he had a problem with my age and he said he didn't.

After a few weeks of text-based chatting, we began voice chatting (cheaper than paying long distance and nearly as good sound quality) and we would talk up to 8 hours per day sometimes on weekends! Naturally, we've fallen in love, and will eventually end up meeting and I hope we will have just as much chemistry in person as we do now. We've both seen pics of each other and have video chatted and we're very attracted to each other physically too. We were already crazy about each other before knowing what we looked like, so it was a pleasant relief! :)

I know he SAYS my age doesn't bother him. But I sometimes wonder if he's too young to know what he really wants, and it will suddenly hit him one day and he'll change his mind.

I also wonder if his family wouldn't be happy about our age difference.

In general, do Poles look down on relationships where the woman is older than the man?
canadian_girl   
4 Aug 2011
Love / How do Polish guys feel about having an older girlfriend/wife? [30]

Thanks for all the insight.

Don't worry, I don't live in a fantasy world and I know we have to meet first before thoughts of spending a future together can be seriously taken into consideration. I just wanted to get some opinions on the matter.

If our feelings don't change after meeting and become even stronger, I won't care what others think because my happiness comes before pleasing others. But of course it would be preferable if his family was accepting of it. Only time will tell ;)
canadian_girl   
4 Aug 2011
Love / How do Polish guys feel about having an older girlfriend/wife? [30]

Krakowianka, I really appreciate your advice and experience with this.

But your is your husband's dependency on you really due to his age? I think that is more dependent on personality. My father is 6 years older than my mother, but trust me, he wouldn't be able to exist without her. He depends on her for everything!

I'm sorry to hear that things didn't work out for you.
canadian_girl   
4 Aug 2011
Love / How do Polish guys feel about having an older girlfriend/wife? [30]

Why would I make that part up?

You've probably never had a similar experience, so you're closed-minded to the possibility of it happening. But believe me, it does happen.

Anyway, I was looking for any helpful insight, not your judgement. If you don't have anything to add that even remotely answers my question, please move on.