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MinaD   
24 Apr 2011
Language / Need Advice On Polish-English language barrier (my Polish boyfriend and his family) [59]

Hey everyone!
I'm Mina and I'm Romanian/Irish. Before I met my wonderful Polish boyfriend, I knew very little of the Polish language or culture. When I met Lukasz, we got on excellently and his grasp of English was admirable!

There seemed to be no problem regarding culture difference or otherwise until we started spending ALOT of time with his wonderful parents who are delightful and extremely hospitable. They speak VERY little English and I would so love to communicate with them. Lukasz often leaves me alone with them for hours at a time and there is absolutely no conversation between us. I wish it could be different but i always need him at my side to translate for me and I feel quite helpless when he is not around. We also spend alot of time with other elatives and friends of his, all of whom are Polish. They are also sweet people but I feel very left out when they converse and laugh in Polish and i feel like quite the alien. Lukasz says he understands my predicament but he continues talking in front of me in Polish to Polish people who are fully fluent...

Ive tried learning Polish and know basic words and phrases but yet not enough for my liking but my Latin tongue is finding the pronounciation very difficult and different to what I'm used to. I've even tried teaching his mother English but she was never very bothered and gave up many times. I feel very very frustrated!

I love my man and we are planning on getting engaged but I cant imagine living for the rest of my life, unable to converse with my inlaws and the rest of his family and some friends.

Any idea what i should do??

Thank you :)
MinaD   
24 Apr 2011
Language / Need Advice On Polish-English language barrier (my Polish boyfriend and his family) [59]

Esperanto wont help at all, they cant speak it and im having enough difficulty with Polish :/
It would also be nice if they could make more of an effort to learn English to be honest. They have been living and working here for five years and their English is worse than my Polish :/

Also when I speak Polish, Lukasz laughs at me and it discourages me so I give up. Also, he has made no effort to communicate with my Romanian Mum...urggh, tricky topic eh?
MinaD   
24 Apr 2011
Language / Need Advice On Polish-English language barrier (my Polish boyfriend and his family) [59]

Hey there :)
Yes, of course I do mind when he leaves me for ages, there was a barbeque last week, with about nine of us and he disapeared for about an hour while i was sitting there, twiddling my thumbs while his parents and friends laughed together. His mum, Alina tried to cheer me up but didnt have the language capacity to do it. When Lukasz came back, i heard her shouting at him, telling him to go back to me and stop leaving me alone!

And I dont want to seem ignorant to his parents, when I dont visit them everyday with Lukasz, they are always enquiring, wondering what Im doing and why Im not there :/

And yes, I have yelled at his for teasing me, but he just doesnt understand how I feel. When we are with his friends and they are joking in Polish, I keep asking him to translate for me but he forgets alot :/

And his parents wont ever get lessons, they only hang out with fellow Poles and shop only in Polish shops...They are working here but rarely communicate with Irish people :/

Wish it were this easy, my Boyfriend says Polish is one of the hardest languages-I am already fluent in 6 and never had any trouble. This one seems too bloody hard for me.

His parents asked us if we had kids, what language would they speak. I didnt know what to say. I wouldnt like my kids speaking a language that I cant. I would feel even more alienated. Im already living 180 km from home, in a strange town. I moved here to be with my man and the only people I know here are Polish :/ I really wish it was easier to communicate
MinaD   
24 Apr 2011
Language / Need Advice On Polish-English language barrier (my Polish boyfriend and his family) [59]

Thank you Justysia, thats very helpful!! :)
Yes you are right, we have argued about this but he never really gets worked up. When we are in the kitchen with his mum, he gets up to go get something from the shop or help his dad with work and keeps mouthing at me to stay with his mum and keeps saying "talk to her!" but I cant do that!! I keep telling him how i feel but he does little to help :/

Hopefully the situation will improve but my mans sister in law studied English in college and yet keeps saying polish greetings to me or just ignores me outright...I think his family would much prefer if i were Polish ;/
MinaD   
24 May 2011
Love / Why do Polish girls think they are fat all the time? [42]

I cant say i dont agree to that
Alot of polish women I know are skinny but are constantly on diet pills
Or are fat and dont care
I love Polish men, they are funny, cute and definitely have a spark
But the polish women i have met, they were nothing impressive :/
Maybe someday i will be proved wrong!
MinaD   
24 May 2011
Life / Why do people think that I'm Polish ? [92]

Im Romanian but people have said I look Spanish, Italian, Irish, Greek.....
And when I meet Polish people for the first time, they automatically start talking to me in Polish before Ive even opened my mouth :)
My boyfriend is a full blooded Pole and yet he looks VERY typically greek with deep golden tan, long straight aristocratice nose and big brown eyes!

(hmmm think Im getting carried away here...)
BUT no culture has a definite "look" or way how to tell someones nationality. Its up to your gene pool i think
MinaD   
2 Oct 2011
Love / How many Polish men are Violent how much is domestic abuse reported. [129]

My Polish man never would hit me but he can be a bit rough, shoving, pushing and screaming when angry. He sounds like a rottweiler when angry!

But I wouldn't say they are more abusive then men of any other nationality. It comes down to your personality, not the place you were born.
MinaD   
2 Oct 2011
Love / Are polish women competative about men? [20]

I dont get on well with most polish women, they seem arrogant and a little too easy for my liking. Even my polish man says this! Then again, I have met a few nice ones too.
MinaD   
2 Mar 2012
Language / Need Advice On Polish-English language barrier (my Polish boyfriend and his family) [59]

Merged: Anyone willing to help me??

Hey everyone!! I am a Romanian girl with a Polish boyfriend and I am very eager to learn some Polish!
I know some simple words (alot of insults!) :P But I really would like to get to a better speaking level.
As great as my boyfriend is, he is not so keen on really teaching me much, He has not as much patience as I would like!

I'm a slow learner but when I do learn, I dont forget in a hurry.
So is anybody keen on helping me pick up some tips??
Maybe via Facebook or Msn???
MinaD   
2 Mar 2012
Love / Met this gorgeous Polish lady [27]

This is cute!! :D But just because she is Polish, does not mean you have to make different precautions then you would with a girl of your own nationality.

Just be polite, dont rush anything, be interested in her origins and listen occasionally :P