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galford   
21 Mar 2011
Love / The importance of Catholicism during marriage with a Polish girl [44]

I have been dating this polish girl for almost 3 years and among the strong difficulties, e.g. distance (I am in germany) and she in Poland, and only visiting each other for a few day every 2 months, the religion is a big deal, in my point of view. This is because I am not into the religion as she does. I do believe in god, but not in such a strong way, for me it is not important the church/place and all festivities around it, I try to follows what is right based on the human common sense. At the begin was great, promises from her side, to follow me event to my place, time & separation change her mind, and now I am restricted to stay in UE. Sometime I feel a bit of immaturity, anyway I am deviating my question. Maybe another time!.

One question to the audience is about: if my character as a liberal will bring more troubles of understanding in the future as a couple, maybe even during a long-term marriage.
galford   
22 Mar 2011
Love / The importance of Catholicism during marriage with a Polish girl [44]

I did understand her reason, in part I am a bit like her in other issues, my career and dreams/action to stop people damaging themselves and our world. I feel a bit responsible for that and thus I follow blindly strong moral principles. We are similar in a coarse picture, just in the local day-and-day we have different perspective. I wish people could organize better the global part of the live, project and try to help each other. So far, I am patient and try to adapt myself to her ideas, it cost a lot and sometime I feel that I will get tired one day. Hopefully, she might understand if not too late the importance of the partner "above everything" , his dreams and wishes for both. I do and try to help us as much as possible!.
galford   
25 Mar 2011
Love / The importance of Catholicism during marriage with a Polish girl [44]

I did not mean that, she is totally free to continue having her religion and put it above our relationship.[this is perhaps where I do not get the point of the religion&long-term relationships, are they equal for some Catholics, someone who is into that can explain it to me] Honestly, I believe it is right because one cannot change my girlfriend's mind, what I am asking whether she could open a bit more her mind, for sure there is plenty of space and there I would like to see us, and no more religious constrain, for example: The fact that sex (i.e. make love) has to be waited until the marriage or some no tolerance to other people's behavior, while I spend more time in this relationship I see both sides, beautiful to find someone who believes in family,supports the boyfriend (in the future husband) project of life and above all security that she will love you truly for who you are and not cheat on you with the first fancy guy. On the other hand, to be limited by such ideas, no possibilities to explore everything together makes me sad.