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nyx   
12 Jan 2011
Love / Culture of Polish people (searching for a Polish guy who is the father of my baby) [45]

Hi..

I am very new to this site and I would like some advice on the culture of Polish people. I am searching for the address of a Polish guy who is the father of my 2 year old daughter. I believe if I get an idea of the culture there, I might be able to understand the way he has done things since our daughter was born. There are certain facts about his life that I do know and I am in the process of trying to make a decision as to whether to launch a full search for him to be able to sue him or not, or if to just believe what he says.

If there is anyone who can tell me about the culture of Polish people regarding relationships, marriage, kids outside marriage, please, I would really appreciate any information I can get either here or PM. Because of the nature of the situation, there may be certain information that I would rather share via private mail and not here on the open forum.

Thanks all

Merged thread:
Child Laws in Poland

Hi,

Can anyone tell me about the Laws in Poland regarding children who are born to Polish father but foreign mother?

I have a 2 year old daughter who's father is Polish. However, he was not present at the registration of my daughter so his name is not on her birth certificate. We have kept in contact via email and he has contributed to her upbringing once or twice financially, but for the most part, he has not lived up to his responsibility, financially nor emotionally. I would love to know what are my chances of claiming support for her from him.

Of course, firstly I would have to find him, cause I do not know his address.
nyx   
12 Jan 2011
Love / Culture of Polish people (searching for a Polish guy who is the father of my baby) [45]

^^ That Your boy? Looks a bit youngish, but who knows.

Hi.. I have no access to Facebook here at work.. so I'll have to check that when I get home but I'm almost sure its not the correct person. He had a facebook account when we were together but soon realised it was leaking too much information to his wife who he wanted to get a divorce from...
nyx   
12 Jan 2011
Love / Culture of Polish people (searching for a Polish guy who is the father of my baby) [45]

He would be 33 this July. He used to work with a company called Intec. I dont know which city he was from but I know that the Representative for that company is in Gdansk, so I believe he's from somewhere there or close to.

He's married to **** (I dont know if that is how its spelt) and they have a son whose name is ****. The son might be about 13 or 14 by now. Lukasz' dad served in the Polish Army and is retired I think, but he lives in the UK somewhere.

edited: other family names removed.
nyx   
12 Jan 2011
Love / Culture of Polish people (searching for a Polish guy who is the father of my baby) [45]

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In response to the above:

2. Like most women who fall in love with married men, I was "fed" that bull crap in order to keep me holding on.. I know that. I take full responsibility for getting involved in this kind of relationship as I know its wrong but I do believe that my daughter still has the right to a father.

3. I never knew that. I honestly believed that the same responsibility and commitment he feels towards his family, that he would feel for our daughter.

4. I would love to meet his family. I am sure his dad and mom would love to meet a grand-daughter! His mom and dad are divorced and live in separate countries and his mother knew about us. I dont think she knows that I had a baby tho..

If they think of my as the wh**e of Babylon... well, too bad for them. It was not a planned pregnancy, as a matter of fact, we were quite careful the couple times we were together, but this one time we werent and obviously our daughter is a result of carelessness on both our part.
nyx   
17 Jan 2011
Love / Culture of Polish people (searching for a Polish guy who is the father of my baby) [45]

ok... now I dont like being called names and Ms IAMPERFECT sh*t.. making judgments on people you have no clue about, is something that "Perfect" people wouldnt do!

FYI.. the man in question has never said that he doesnt want to have anything to do with his daughter, as a matter of fact when I told him I was pregnant, he was adamant that he wanted to keep the kid and get a divorce from his wife. Of course, now I know that he was not even being true to himself. Another fact is that I received an email from him a couple days ago saying that he wants to send money for her, and that he just cant give her a relationship right now! But you know what? I DONT WANT HIS MONEY!! I want my daughter to know who is her birth father. I want him to be a REAL man and own up to the responsibility of our shared irresponsbility! Money is not the only responsbility a man has to his child. In case you dont know, he also should provide his love and care.

Just as you, Ms IAM.. I hate people who judge other people! You sitting there, wherever you are and calling me a "hoe" (the correct spelling is *******"), is by far the dumbest thing I've read in quite a while. I never realised how stupid some people in this world can really be. Were you there when he held me at nights saying how unhappy he was in his marriage and crying because he knew he may never be able to get out! Were you there when I told him I was pregnant and he vowed to be the best father to our kid? No! YOU werent!

I agree, it was wrong of me to get involved with someone who is already in a marriage, but you know what... I AM NOT PERFECT! and neither is he! So we did something that was wrong and out of that, came a beautiful little girl who is my world. I cry each night knowing that because of my irresponsible behaviour, she may never experience her right to have a normal relationship with her father. But I WILL NOT sit here and watch you or anyone else (who doesnt know me) to judge me or my character, without defending myself.

I handle my responsibility. I take care of my little girl and I give her all the love and care in the world. She may never even realise that he is not in her life until she is an adult, but I will not stop hoping that she can have a relationship with him.

To all the rest of you who have had positive responses, thank you.. and God bless!
nyx   
15 Mar 2012
Love / Culture of Polish people (searching for a Polish guy who is the father of my baby) [45]

I am here once again, but only to issue a public apology for posting his name on the internet. I understand now that it is very detrimental to his livelihood that this thread even exists and for this I am terribly sorry. It was never my intention to hurt this man, only to find him. I have asked the moderators to remove the thread but unfortunately I was told that it cannot be done. I have heard from him and he has been occasionally assisting his daughter, and I have apologised to him for this thread. I would appreciate if this is not used against him in any way, as it was never my intention for this to hurt him. Once again, I am sorry!