Love / Long-distance attraction. I am attracted to a Polish guy. [42]

@RubasznyRumcajs: thanks for the reply!

He has already added me into his skype list (and I've added him too), but I will be able to chat with him in 2weeks time. He is still out on vacation.

Just that, I will be able to chat with him as friends... but I wish I can do more or say more to see whether he is into me or not. He has mentioned that he is not committed now, but I'm not quite sure whether he will be open to like Asian women.

If we start chatting in skype, how do i get to tell him that I like him? do polish guys like it when women are direct? just wondering... advise pls.

Love / Long-distance attraction. I am attracted to a Polish guy. [42]

@skysoulmate: thanks for the reply too...

If ever we ge to start chatting, i can do webcams too.. just that, I'm not so sure whether his way of saying, "we'll keep in touch" is just for politeness sake, or for real.

I'll wait and see... :) Anyway, .. the nymph screen name was derived from the ancient myth, not the modern connotation :) in ancient myth, nymphs were believed to live in places away from humans.... tantamount to living on my own bubble in the modern world, i guess :)

thanks for the advise! I'll update u guys!

Love / Long-distance attraction. I am attracted to a Polish guy. [42]


For a month that I've known him, there were times when he was charming. Though there were times too that he is rather aloof, or went on by himself. He sometimes have this stoic facial expression that makes me wonder, "is smiling really a hard thing to do?" :) Though, I've also seen him smile or even laugh when he talked about something funny. That made me think that probably, he just didnt get some of the jokes on the table sometimes... i hope my analysis was correct :)

Hi Wildrover...thannks much! I believe your case is rather in an advanced state that where I am now... at least you are in a romantic relationship...:)

I was too shy to show or even talk to him about how i felt when we were still together in the program... that was a month of chance, but I was hesitant. This could be due to my asian background, where by tradition, women will wait for the guy to approach her, not the other way around. Yet, I do not have anything against women doing the first move in our time now, but I don't have the confidence to do it yet...

so i just sat by and watch things unfold. But I was unfortunate that a month's time is not enough for things to develop... probably there was not initial attracted to me... though I can see he took care of me during some eventful moment when I needed him, as well as, I can see in his face that he was glad to be with me during the party. I hope it was not just because of alcohol supply... hahaha...

There were sweet stare and glances too, but because we were always surrounded by colleagues, I can't really see things in good perspective. I may just be reading him too much now...

The anticipation to chat with him is worst that the actual chattin'.... it makes me always wonder... urghh.. i just cant stop thinking...

Lastly, on our last talk over the phone, when I asked him if he misses me.. he replied after 2 seconds, "Yes". I can't be sure whether he was just being polite, or, that he really misses me...

Additional question: Would the guy be pissed if a woman who, out of nowhere, starts to send him short messages, like, "Have a great day.. I hope you enjoyed ur vacation in ... " when like, a week ago, he didnt even think this can happen?

Wow, i sound soooo eager, when I can only talk to him 2 weeks from now... that will also depend on whether he will reply to my chat messages... even now, he doesnt reply to text messages... i'm just consoling myself to think probably because he is on roaming and charges can be costly... well...i hope i'm right.. :)

Nevertheless, thanks for the wishes... i hope things will turn out well when I chat with him...haaa....time will tell... :)

Love / Long-distance attraction. I am attracted to a Polish guy. [42]


hmm.. :) how would you feel if someone you're not interested to, chatted with you, and later sent you this link? well, probably, i'll send this as good-bye email if things don't turn out well. :)


hmm :) i am one of the exception to the rule.

I'm an immigrant to north america, but I'm staying here in asia for work. I've managed different projects (in asia) and worked with people of different cultures, and I would still bring the smile i've grown up with :)


i'm neither of those mentioned :)

Love / Long-distance attraction. I am attracted to a Polish guy. [42]

When I say exception, i refer to skysoulmate's note earlier that there are 2 more races in Asia who do smile more than the rest of the asians mentioned above :)


That's really sweet to hear. I feel the same way too, after having traveled to different places in asia, north america and europe for work. The food choices, beliefs, cultural differences fascinate me more and more. Traveling indeed made me appreciate the differences in each individual!

Though, when it comes to falling for someone... i'm just back to basics :) I guess I've spent too much time in work that now, i sound so naive in this matter and i had to post it up! :)


hahaha... i think probably i was reading him tooo much :) well, if you like someone you'd always want to see how he'd look like when he's happy isn't it? :) for now, since we are far from each other, I would be glad to know if he smiles while chatting with me.. but my first wish, is for him to keep in touch (e.g. chat) with me first in 2 weeks' time :) hahaha... a wish tantamount to hitting the moon! oh well...

Love / Long-distance attraction. I am attracted to a Polish guy. [42]


I was born in the Philippines. And have lived in Singapore and Canada for the past decade now. :) Though people in Singapore do not smile a lot, it's a good place to work especially in IT and banking industries :)


I wish i can come by too, but there is no plan for now. The company that I work for has presence in the UK, and I know some friends from there (from Manchester too). We kept in touch as well..

Love / Long-distance attraction. I am attracted to a Polish guy. [42]


hey thanks for the encouragement. But I can only start doing something, or, to find out whether he was just being polite, when he is back to Poland in, say, 2 week's time..

well, does anyone know or have been to Bydgoszcz? He is from there :) I've searched in the net to find the culture and the likes of Bydgozczcin, but I can't find much info. :) Maybe if things will work out will, i can take another short vacation and fly there in the next 2months :) As Amathyst has said, take the bull by the horns :)


I believe you, though I haven't been there, i've had some interactions with some. My colleagues who are based there, are just as nice and dependable. And funny too, in an intelligent way :) I believe that you have good looking men as well. Inside and out :)

Well, i think it applies everywhere, yah. There are always good and bad in every place...

I just hope I'll find a good one to settle and be with for the rest of my life.. so that no time will be wasted, and every minute is worth spending :) Cheers!

Love / Long-distance attraction. I am attracted to a Polish guy. [42]


yah, this will be one of the first topics i can open with him :)

Love / Long-distance attraction. I am attracted to a Polish guy. [42]


Noted :)


We'll see to that :) Though we've already shared some previous relationships stories to each other,that's when we knew that we are both available.

Love / Long-distance attraction. I am attracted to a Polish guy. [42]

:) yah, i'd find it out when I get to talk with him.. if it doesnt work it, then I'll probably just send the link to this thread to him as a remembrance then I move on :) life's like that, anyway :)

I'll keep you updated guys!

Love / Long-distance attraction. I am attracted to a Polish guy. [42]


yup i did :) though that's based on your pseudo-scientific findings, i agree to that!


really? even if you are not interested with someone who posted the thread? ;) well, that's good to hear :)

Yup, i love the Philippines too, inspite of everything there is hahahah... i mean, how sad the government has performed :) well, that's another story, and each country has its own yah. But generally, filipinos are known to be friendly folks... many thanks for your compliments :)

As for Singapore, it's indeed a man-made heaven, where convenience and safety are the topmost priority. The place is great, and everything is in place in terms of governance and policies... and well adhered to. True, there are a lot of Europeans here now. And they seem to be enjoying the sun more :)

Though I don't get to spend more time here in Singapore lately, as I am doing a project in Malaysia, so I only get to come back here on weekends, and yes, like airports now are my second home!. When the project is done, then I'll get to hang out in Singapore as often again (for the in-between project break) :)

Hopefully, I'll get to invite him here in Singapore if things turn out well too... ;)

Love / Long-distance attraction. I am attracted to a Polish guy. [42]

oh yah, that's a good idea :) I'm not just sure if he is into that yet. I know he likes skiing tough :)

By the way, I guess he is now back in Poland... I've received a message in skype "Greetings from Poland!". I was still sleeping then :) With the time difference, I hope I'll get to be online when he is :)

Love / Filipino guy with a Polish girl.. [60]

I'd like to think that this will work out too... i, for one, have met a polish guy in one of our work programs... i like him though i can't tell whether he likes me too. I hope he does, or if not now, he will :)

i'm just not so familiar with how poles see having a filipina as a partner...

anyway, good luck to you! :)

Love / Polish professional man in interracial dating relationship...withdraws [27]


what does this mean? if he is not calling you then you probably would have relationship? Sorry, i don't understand... would you elaborate?

It's difficult if the guy gives mixed signals... especially when you are from different countries... sometimes the meaning of his words and actions, maybe translated differently? But if you're saying that he is now back to being online all the time.... is it because he is making himself available to new relationship?? I'm not sure about this.. but .... I hope you'll get to see things clearly, or even clarified with him...

I'm also falling for a polish guy... i'm asian.. and we are still at the chatting/getting to know u stage.... it's hard cos there are times when he can joke and have fun during conversation... but after awhile, he is back into the serious mode... he is a traditional and serious guy... now, i'm even thinking, if only i can teach my heart to like someone else, i would have done it already...

bit everyone has to follow the time... except for love... For love, has it's own time.

Maybe he just need time.... so i'll give him time.... and wait.. if he can come looking for me...

Fate... we only get one chance to get it right... i don't want to lose this chance of being with someone i hold dearly.. .so I'll wait...

Love / Long-distance attraction. I am attracted to a Polish guy. [42]

hey guys,

just a short update to end this thread....

We continued to communicate online to this day... whether something good will come out of it... i don't know yet. All I know is, I like him... even more than he likes me. Though, he does maintained a level of politeness and respectfulness in most of our conversations.

We are yet at the getting-to-know stage. I find him to be a traditional guy. A little bit slow paced. As to how he perceived me to be... this i am not sure. If only there is a book to read all the signs, haa, it would be such a relief...

For now, well, i can wait... for true love, i believe, has it's own time...

thanks everyone for all the replies... i really appreciate those.

Have a fine week ahead!

Love / Polish professional man in interracial dating relationship...withdraws [27]

zej
i was told by a friend that if a guy is really interested, he will definitely try to call or see you....

yet when the relationship is one-sided, or that, if you love him more than he loves you... and if you want to wait to develop what's left... you may wait..

whatever your choice would be, love yourself first... i know that when we love someone, sometimes we forget loving ourselves first :)

good luck!

Travel / NYTimes - Next stop - Wrocław, Poland [12]

nice... quoted: “If you look behind the dirt and the collapsing facades, you’ll find beauty.”

i wish, i can have a charming polish guy to tour me around this place when i get my off days from work :)

thanks for sharing!

Love / Are Polish men romantic and caring or... "plain"? [85]

well, i guess some thoughts in this thread are based on experience :)

based on my limited interaction with a pole guy, i find him cold... and somehow, polite...he tries to not offend someone by using polite words, but the attitude is.. well, slightly caring is an overstatement.. :)

i have little knowhow as to the working life in Poland... but i have a feeling he is tooo serious at work... and well, he loves to walk with his dog during free time and visit the lake... i suppose... what else can someone do living in a country home in poland? :p

generally, i find him polite.. not so romantic, nor caring... plain is an overstatement, i guess, cos as for now, there is no easy way to decipher him :)

Travel / NYTimes - Next stop - Wrocław, Poland [12]


sky, that's really cool! :) I'll be back in KL for 3 more months of proj, by this week :)

and yah, glad to show u around..SG? :)
in KL, i'm not so familiar with the place even after 1.5 yrs of stay.... i usually focused on the hotel to office route everyday.. and whenever I get the chance, i go back to SG every weekend :)

hmm.. this charming guy.. is just... urgghh... i don't know ... i'm just guarding my heart for now :) until he's ready to at least... open up :)

hv a good weekend yah!

Love / SAYING "SORRY" TO A LADY RAISED IN POLAND FOR SOMETHING I SAID [17]

You've offered with good intentions... And you've said sorry
feeling that she would have been hurt? Hmm... Yes,
usual politeness can be done from now on... Maybe
this is a way of life events telling u that there are still
stuff you gotta know from a friend coworker 

friendship grows deeper in such encounters... As long as
actions done with good intentions...

Love / How real is your international (Polish-other) relationship ? [53]


good for you :) nice!

Love / Can 'engaged' soon to marry Polish men say I love you to their female friend? [62]


Agree ... :)

Also, heed what your instincts tell you. Take some time off and be on your own for awhile. Thoughts and opinions of our friends here really open up our minds in decision-making, but at the end of the day... it's gonna be you and your heart and your brain that make all the reflections and decisions... take time to recollect the happenings and encounters you had together before, and until the engagement... as well as to-date.

True enough, that once trust is broken, it's really hard to patch up and carry on with good faith... but... we are just people... bound to make mistakes...

Though it gave you this opportunity to see that side of him, reading his emails is probably not very advisable to do... Regardless, if you are willing to go through life as being married to someone, both parties have to trust each other... respect each other's privacy, as well as, no cheating :)

I hope you'll find the best move for yourself... no hurry as decisions like this one can be taxing... take your time.

Be it moving on without him, or, trying to patch things up... either way, whatever makes you happy....

After all, life is too short to wish you've lived it differently. Take care!

Love / Polish men what is the worst thing a girl can do upon first impression? [360]


true.... agree to that! :)

Love / Filipina having a relationship with a Polish Man [95]

Hi Jen, this online experience with a polish guy is surely exciting for you now. Of course PH can also be an interesting place to visit esp we have good beaches and stuff. It's best for u to spend some time knowing him more, and see if you both click. And whether he is telling the truth when he said he will marry you, only u can find a way to know that... I wish you well...

If he is actually taking u to Poland, think about it deeply, as it takes courage, strength, exemplary compromises perhaps and add in determination to be able to live in a foreign land... Esp away from your family.

On the surface, it may look great and fascinating... But if you're uncertain of something in terms of this relationship, it can get more difficult day by day... And life still has to go on... 24hrs a day.

P.s. On the other hand, you can also visit Poland as long as there are planes operating in the skies  I might pay a visit to

Poland mid-next year during my EU tour.

Most often, a screen saver is a lot more fascinating and animated compared to the
static wallpaper 

Enjoy the process, wish u well!

P.s. If he is ac

News / Philippines' tourism logo "borrowed" from Polska? :) [5]

Ooppss.... Oh well, let's just say that indeed, imitation is the deepest form of flattery! :)

I'm pretty sure that with poles' good looking features, it's not impossible to get discounts down there :)