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Finka007   
14 May 2008
Love / Polish Girl & an Arabic Guy - at first it was hard, but now it's great! [46]

Hi!

I am currently engaged to an Arabic guy (he was born in Kuwait & his background is Palestinian); he came to Canada when he was a kid. So he consider himself more Canadian, who love hockey very much, & the Canadian life-style.

I met him during high school & we started dating (we are together for about 6 years already). He is one of the nicest guy that I've ever met. At first of course; my parents were having a hard time (they wanted me to have a Polish guy) but now they don't mind him anymore =) my babcia love him dearly! he is a sincerely sweet person & is a very laid back person. He get along with everybody very easily & it is hard not to like him =)

I don't understand some people I heard have said that Arabic guys are controlling? they want the girl to be Muslim? kids got to be Muslim...etc. Yes my guy is Muslim but he doesn't really practice (he's very open-minded) in fact we're having a Catholic ceremony in Poland. He even said that its fine if we baptized our children... He does drink socially (I know Muslim shouldn't drink alcohol but he doesn't mind drinking beers with my father =P & eating our some of Pork food (he said b/c it is our cultural food that he respects it =) it made my babcia very happy to know he love our food LOL) I don't think many men from outside religion/culture would be this willing to do that. I am not that religious too (just follow my practice & I try to have an open-mind). Yes he been to Poland to visit my family & my family love him =) he was soo sweet with them, tried his best to speak Polish with them...I couldn't believe how much effort he really tried.

Yes I am going to admit that I can be a stubborn person who likes her way =P & he doesn't mind it! =) He actually try his best to do things my way LOL...soo Arabic/Polish relationship aren't common out there?? do you know anyone who is in one???
Finka007   
16 May 2008
Love / Polish Girl & an Arabic Guy - at first it was hard, but now it's great! [46]

He told me he doesn't like some things in his religion & he want to have an open mind. For instance he told me he's not fond of women wearing 'hijab' (he grew up in a really liberal home) I met his family; very laid back people. I didn't feel odd =)) they were very easy to get along. His mom & most of female relatives doesn't wear a 'hijab'. Most people that met him for the first time (they would ask him what is his background? Italian? European mixed?) he's pretty pale, hazel eyes, 6'3 (tall for an Arab), no hair on his chest at all...most Arabs (men) that I met are average height or short, got hair on chest or lots on their arms. I met some of his relatives (some of his cousins are blonde, blue eyes, or red hair) he told me Palestinian people can look different. Some I thought looked Polish too =P pretty interesting family he has =)

About the children? he told me he doesn't want to force his children into a religion; he want them to choose for themselves. He want them to have an open mind too; but to believe in God. He is fine with baptizing them. He want a liberal up bringing family; with a worldy view. So I guess I am pretty lucky =))
Finka007   
16 May 2008
Love / Polish Girl & an Arabic Guy - at first it was hard, but now it's great! [46]

i advise you to have a look on the translated coran you will know the the truth

ahh, now I understand...here's a Muslim man that would control his gal & is a pretty hard headed ;) I see what others are saying...

The 'hijab' is NOT mandatory! what are you talking about?? Yes I have already read the Koran (I had to) I took the World's Religion at my University. My prof who visited some of these countries for instance Saudia Arabia (these women are forced to wear the 'hijab' because that their rule). That is pretty sad because Prof said 'hijab' isn't mandatory but a cultural thing...most women are forced to wear it (however some women chosed to wear; their decision).

My guy's mother told me that her family & her are not fond of Saudi Arabia or Pakistan. She said these countries make Muslims look bad & it is not the religion that is making things bad is the up-bringing culture place they were brought up making them look bad :P

I guess you were brought up by a family believing that women have to wear it. So in the end a 'hijab' should be a women's decision but not to be forced upon. Isn't Koran teaches you that both men/women are to be treated 'equal'? you should know that better IF you read the Koran ;) seems like in your view that women aren't treated any equally like men. That doesn't seem like Koran would teach you this. Only your up-bringing culture would do that. I've met enough people who were like my guy or were like you that my guy doesn't want to know them.
Finka007   
17 May 2008
Love / Polish Girl & an Arabic Guy - at first it was hard, but now it's great! [46]

christian woman (sisters) in the church are always covering teir head
and never their wearing apparel is exiting

These women chooses/voluntarily to become nuns. It is their "choice"

[33:59] O prophet, tell your wives, your daughters, and the wives of the believers that they shall lengthen their garments. Thus, they will be recognized (as righteous women) and avoid being insulted. GOD is Forgiver, Most Merciful

Where does it say that you need to cover head to toe?? need to cover their faces? or head?? seriously are you joking me (please read it carefully!) :P

Of course; don't go naked in public! lol Yes respect your body; cover your personal areas...does that include head? face? hair? seriously? where does it say? lol

Whether you like it or not...but I am sorry to disappoint you big time but "Hijab" is NOT MANDATORY! :) please again READ CAREFULLY! and point to me where does it say cover head to toe? where does it say hijab is mandatory??