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spiritus   
15 Apr 2017
Love / Urgent Relationship help - wife wants to stay in Poland [118]

Don't steal 5 mins of conversation with her. Tell her next time we HAVE to talk. This is important.

We are assuming you want to stay with her but if you don't then advice is pointless-just get a divorce.

I have some good friends here in the UK. The husband worked in the UK for some years whilst his wife worked in Poland although the reality is that she didn't work that much over there as she knew he would support her financially.

After a few years there was an ultimatum, either she come to the UK or the marriage was over. They're now living over here and both working
spiritus   
15 Apr 2017
Life / Why are Muslims seen as a deterrent to Poland? [564]

@Harry
@jon357

"And let's reverse the role here and say a couple million Christians moved into a poor Muslim country and set up shop demanding free handouts, praying Christianity prayer by blaring it over loud speakers down public streets, having women showing their bare arms and legs walking in public without their head not covered with their hair blowing in the wind wearing lipstick, insisting that pork be sold in their meat shops and to demand Western laws be implemented so the Muslims would be required to honor them......just how do you think the Westerners would be treated by FORCING their culture and religious beliefs on a poor Muslim country ?"
spiritus   
14 Apr 2017
Love / Urgent Relationship help - wife wants to stay in Poland [118]

If there is no consensus, then I'll meet a divorce lawyer to see where i stand. Does anyone know how long divorce takes in Poland?

@BritboyByd

It sounds like your mind is already very made up.

You got some good advice from someone already here which was to withdraw from the forum for a while and think about what YOU want to do. We will give you our opinion but it will be tainted by our own life experiences. We cannot walk in your shoes.

Communication is the key to most human problems or EFFECTIVE communication at least.

When you tell your wife that the option of living in Poland is non-negotiable I have a feeling that this is a red line for you. What was your original agreement together ? That you would marry and settle down in Poland ?

When you do meet every six weeks or so then does it feel good to be together ?

You say that when you visit she then uses your presence as an opportunity to do the things she can't do when you're in the UK. I have to conclude that either she doesn't care about you OR she doesn't really believe that you are unhappy enough to divorce her.

If you feel that unhappy then make sure that she makes time for you when you're in Poland. Take her somewhere that you can speak to her privately and tell her how you feel. Of course if you don't love her anymore then there is nothing really to salvage.
spiritus   
14 Apr 2017
Life / Why are Muslims seen as a deterrent to Poland? [564]

......just how do you think the Westerners would be treated by FORCING their culture and religious beliefs on a poor Muslim country ?

This is not a rhetorical question. Can the liberals on this board (you know who you are) please answer Johnny's question ?
spiritus   
13 Apr 2017
Life / Why are Muslims seen as a deterrent to Poland? [564]

there will be more presently Third World societies streaming en masse, unwanted (albeit invited) into the European continent!@ Lyzko

"invited" ? The masses of migrants from the African continent are certainly NOT invited. Why did you say that ?
spiritus   
13 Apr 2017
Love / Urgent Relationship help - wife wants to stay in Poland [118]

@BritboyByd

Atch has written two very sensitive and thoughtful posts in response to your predicament. You'd do well to heed his/her advice. Take time to think about some of the advice but please be acutely aware that none of us here on the forum have to walk in your shoes so dishing out advice is easy.

It's your life, your marriage. If you love each other then it's worth reminding both of yourselves what is at stake. Good luck
spiritus   
13 Apr 2017
Love / Urgent Relationship help - wife wants to stay in Poland [118]

What you describe is simply not sustainable.

Can I ask if your original plan was to move to Poland together ? How long did you live in Poland before deciding to move back to the UK and was it a mutual agreement ? If not, then maybe the seeds were sown then.

You say you have pointed our the pros and cons of living in the UK but I think this misses the mark. You need to point out that that your marriage has reached a fork in the road. Both of you will have to compromise for it to work.

Do you see your family often ?
spiritus   
12 Apr 2017
UK, Ireland / University Research of Polish communities in the UK [6]

Merged:

Asian shopkeeper defends Polish boy



Amo Singh - a shopkeeper from Stroud, Gloucestershire - was badly beaten after defending a Polish teenager from a gang attack.

The Polish community have responded by donating money online, and even called for Amo to be officially invited to Poland as a VIP

bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-39557535
spiritus   
10 Apr 2017
Life / Why are Muslims seen as a deterrent to Poland? [564]

Problem is, the world's changing, perhaps the worse

That's certainly the direction we're heading in.

I wonder if the fall over the edge of the cliff is inevitable or is there still time to redress the balance.
spiritus   
6 Apr 2017
News / How will BREXIT affect the immigrants in UK and Poland. [1114]

Well the bloody Remainers were/are guilty of little more than completely IGNORING legitimate concerns of the voters, it's that simple :-o

Yes and both points are correct.

I personally blame David Cameron as we should never have been given a referendum in the first place. It was entirely voluntary. Ok-he had some pressure from within the Tory party but it there was no pressing need and with Corbyn as the only feasible alternative to Tory rule then Cameron could have gone on leading the country for years to come.

Instead the people were asked to buy a cat in a bag.
spiritus   
5 Apr 2017
News / How will BREXIT affect the immigrants in UK and Poland. [1114]

But do bear in mind that the UK also has a terrible problem with people thinking that they're too good for certain jobs

You've got that right.

The real kicker though is that this school of thought is popular NOT amongst people who have a history of employment and believe they are worth more than certain jobs but from people who have never worked and would prefer to claim benefits instead.

I know I bang on about how muslim families are culturally wired to claim benefits here in the UK but I also have to be balanced and admit that English families are just as bad.

How do you know that excalty, were you one of them or is it you mix with those like that or are you just presuming after your daily read, of the Guardian ?

You make a lot of presumptions don't you ? There was no substance to the Leave campaign so they focused on a few touch points that they knew the public were sensitive to (Trump became President of the USA using the same tactic).
spiritus   
5 Apr 2017
News / How will BREXIT affect the immigrants in UK and Poland. [1114]

You don't win referendums with emotional arguments.

The Brexit referendum was decided on emotion. There were no facts put forward by the Leave campaign as they didn't have any so they used fear as their trump card. The Remain campaign had to try and polish a turd and make out that the EU in it's current form is something that we should all want to be a part of.

When people think that things are going t*ts up then it's easier to persuade people to change the status quo rather than work within the establishment and make marginal changes that usually turn out to be hollow victories.

The Leave campaign just injected a few key words into the debate and the people filled in the blanks with their own fears, prejudices and hopes.

The over riding theme was immigration. People fed up of failed multiculturism even though voters failed to join up the dots and realise that creeping Islamification would not be affected by a Brexit. It's better to expel Poles and Hungarians who are "taking your jobs" than the muslim families where the women don't threaten your job because she's too busy claiming benefits for the rest of her life.

All of this against a backdrop of seeing thousands of migrants arrive illegally on the shores of Europe and the EU telling member countries that they HAVE to house them.
spiritus   
4 Apr 2017
Life / Why are Muslims seen as a deterrent to Poland? [564]

alienated and unsettled muslims deciding that if the locals are too wussy to make sure their culture is dominant then they will make _their_ values dominant

100% agree with this
spiritus   
4 Apr 2017
News / How will BREXIT affect the immigrants in UK and Poland. [1114]

Reading this thread with interest and I note with alarming interest that I tend to agree with both sides of the argument at times-goes to show what a screwed up world we have to live in.

Does anyone know if Brexit is reversible ? I just cannot imagine May leading us over the edge of a cliff and everyone believe we're going to fly.
spiritus   
4 Apr 2017
Life / Why are Muslims seen as a deterrent to Poland? [564]

The prejudice has got to stop in order for ISIS and all other similiar cancers to be nipped in the bud ONCE AND FOR ALL!

Interesting. Which prejudice is this then ? I presume you're not trying to say that prejudice found on some internet forums, like PF, is holding back the annihilation of ISIS ?

For the record, I agree with you that not all muslims are bad. I would even agree that most muslims are good and want a peaceful life but they consider themselves muslims first and your neighbour second. Their allegiance is only to Allah not to their fellow country or country men and if they have been taught by their local madrassa or mosque that Allah demands that a good muslim respects their non muslim neighbours and respects the country they live in then we're all happy. But if some mosques are teaching them that it is their duty as muslims to make Islam the dominant religion in their country then it's not so good.

As I've said before, Islamic violence is the tip of the iceberg and actually causes more harm to the Islamic quest to become the dominant religion in the world as it causes people to turn the spotlight on the religion and the causes of the violence and sparks debate, sometimes prejudiced.

Islam's goal would be better served if they continue with their non-violent method of each family having 5-7 kids, living in western societies but almost totally failing to integrate and slowly but surely changing the fabric, culture and politics of the host nation. This strategy will reap rewards in another 50 years or so
spiritus   
1 Apr 2017
News / How will BREXIT affect the immigrants in UK and Poland. [1114]

That's not entirely true: an EU citizen can also be removed on the grounds that one poses a serious and demonstrable threat to public safety,

On my last trip to Poland I observed a Pole with deportation papers being escorted onto our plane, Some of the mothers were not happy when they realised they would be sharing air space with him !
spiritus   
30 Mar 2017
Travel / Warsaw in May, Auschwitz, Kantor in Old Town [33]

@Reeko
My friend. Do not fall into the trap of thinking you have to answer all questions about your personal life on forums like these. We know all we need to know to help with your question :)

As for the proposal.........it depends on your personality and your knowledge of your partner.

Perhaps try to contact the organisers of the piano recitals at Łazienki and with their permission propose under the statue of Chopin right next to the piano with the pianist then playing a romantic piece from Chopin just for you two ?

I haven't been for a few years but the view from the Palace of Culture is not what many people anticipate-it can be quite dull.

There is a nice restaurant within the grounds of Łazienki park so that could be combined with the Chopin recitals.

Another idea is the "Love heart bridge" karolinapatryk.com/warsaw-romantic-guide-couples/. A little cheesy but what the hell ?
spiritus   
30 Mar 2017
Travel / Warsaw in May, Auschwitz, Kantor in Old Town [33]

I would advise against trying to travel to Auschwitz from Warsaw and back again in one day. Why not book a hotel in Krakow for two nights and you then have more options for a marriage re-proposal.

Łazienki is beautiful especially in May. Find some restaurants or venues and contact them about your idea. They may help to create a romantic moment for you.
spiritus   
25 Mar 2017
News / Observance of Warsaw Uprising [17]

Merged:

Warsaw-2017. Observing "Godzina "W"



My elderly mother is extremely sentimental when it comes to Polish history and I have been thinking that she might really love being in Warsaw on the 1st August to witness the traffic stand still, the sirens go off, flares lit and see people show their respect to the fallen from the Uprising.

One of the places that I see do this quite often in Warsaw appears to be next to the Palace of Culture and I was wondering if anyone can confirm this and also whether the Polonia Palace would therefore be a good base for us.
spiritus   
24 Mar 2017
News / Berlin terrorist attack -- Poland's ethnic homogeneity a true blessing [436]

You only need to take a look at the problems caused by Tunisians/Algerians in France and by Somalis in London to see why they're simply not good news .

Seriously.....WTF ?!

Someone has kidnapped Delphian and making him write under duress !!!

Please release him immediately !
spiritus   
24 Mar 2017
News / Berlin terrorist attack -- Poland's ethnic homogeneity a true blessing [436]

I wouldn't cry if we completely banned unskilled labour arriving from Muslim-majority African countries for instance.

Right-that's it.

I'm going to lie down in a dark room until I feel better. I think I agree with you on something. I hope this feeling passes soon as I don't like it.
spiritus   
24 Mar 2017
News / Berlin terrorist attack -- Poland's ethnic homogeneity a true blessing [436]

Course it did. Haven't you read the memoirs of people in the IRA?

Not the same thing. The acts of terrorism were not motivated by religious belief. See my question below which I fully expect will be sidestepped....

Can any of you show me when the IRA explicitly (or even vaguely) justified their murders as part of their Catholic beliefs ?

spiritus   
24 Mar 2017
News / Berlin terrorist attack -- Poland's ethnic homogeneity a true blessing [436]

I can't decide if I am just genetically engineered to disagree with you or we just cannot agree on anything :)

The racist idiots in Polish society are not a global problem nor do they present a threat to the same degree that Islamic fundamentalists do. If Polish thugs were doing that then I would fully expect the Polish majority to openly condemn them and to make efforts to get their house in order.
spiritus   
24 Mar 2017
News / Berlin terrorist attack -- Poland's ethnic homogeneity a true blessing [436]

The IRA were not real Catholics

As pointed out by Mafketis, you are not in any position to judge whether someone is a real Catholic or not (nor are any of us). Perhaps explain to us all here how "real Catholicism" works. To your mind does a person stop being a real Catholic when they commit a sin ?

it would have been completely wrong to call the IRA's work Catholic terrorism, it is wrong to call the current terrorism Islamic terrorism.

The IRA weren't doing it in the name of God-they were doing it for political reasons-I've explained that before on another thread. Are you saying that every act of terrorism carried out by Al Qaeda and ISIS were not carried out by any muslims ? It's quite an original theory Harry so I will give you that but the reason why a theory isn't shared by millions is usually because the theory is wrong. However, I accept that you don't like the facts to get in the way of a good debate :)

Am I supposed to feel better looking at the victim's grave because they weren't killed in the name of God?

With all due respect Lenka but this is irrelevant. Atch was not making the point that you should be bothered. Atch was making the same point I made that the IRA were motivated by political reasons rather than by religious reasons and THAT is why the comparison Harry makes is not valid

Comparing the two situations is valid not because they commited act of terrorism for the same reason but to show that Catholics are as capable of doing it as Muslims.

Nobody is denying that Catholics are capable of committing acts of terrorism-every creed is capable of it. I respect your right to deny that Islam has nothing to do with terrorism carried out by people who happen to be muslims and who commit these acts by crying out "Praise be to Allah" and are often seen in videos released after their death proclaiming their obedience to Allah and quoting from the Q'ran. I respect your right...but you'd still be wrong.

Can any of you show me when the IRA explicitly (or even vaguely) justified their murders as part of their Catholic beliefs ?

There is plenty of Muslims that live normal lives yet we want to push them into one terrorist lot.

True but if a western country fell under overall muslim leadership (wait a few decades) and non-muslims were told they had to cover up, eat only halal, be banned from Christian worship then I am pretty sure not many of the peaceful majority would shed a tear for us. Being tolerant towards people who are extremely intolerant towards Jews, gays, women, other religions etc perhaps makes you a better person than me but I don't apologise for my pragmatic view on how Islam has "integrated" into western society so far.