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3 Feb 2010
Life / You are Polish if... [433]

... if you always have seat covers in your car
... drink 15 cups of tea per day
... will pick up a discarded broken bicycle and try to fix it, even if you don't need another one
... have to have a live plant in the window
... don't mind cabbage or potatoes with every dinner
... think all American desserts are too sweet
... throw away the cap after you open a bottle of wódka
... do not like to wash your hair every day
... compulsively shop for and send post cards on your vacations
... think any breeze is a draft and it will be the death of you
... ask for a cocktail with no ice
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2 Feb 2010
Love / How to please Polish women? [216]

Sounds good.....until it's time to pay for dinner. Funny how the liberated "empowered' women suddenly turn traditional isn't it?

ZIMMY - do not try luring any women to go to dinner with you. It's a win-win!
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2 Feb 2010
Life / You are Polish if... [433]

That was pretty good, pgtx!
The paper towel thing is true. I feel validated.
And spotting another Polish person.
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1 Feb 2010
Food / Do Polish restaurants use dead dogs fat as a delicacy for you to eat? [41]

First, there are backward people in every country. I am astonished daily how gullible some people around me are!
Second, coining this a delicacy is a deliberate attempt to sensationalize this sad story - as far as i know, it was a shameful cure, again, for most desperate.
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1 Feb 2010
Love / Do you think that Polish should stick to Polish? [128]

I'm bringing my too-laid-back surfer dude son to Poland for vacation, in hope that he will fall in love with a smart Polish girl that will motivate him to get his ass in gear.

What's the worse that can happen, huh??
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1 Feb 2010
Real Estate / Buying a house in POland from "gmina"? [6]

My mother's family farm house became possession of local gmina many moons ago. All the surrounding farmlands were given back to the government while my grandmother was alive, for her to be able to collect 'rent' (government pension?). After her death, the neighbor wanted to buy the house, 'stodola' (feed house?) and chlew (animal house?) and the orchard, but they backed out due to price being to high.

I keep thinking about (and google-earth) that beautiful, fertile piece of land that I spent first 6 years of my life (bucolic, in my memory), and every summers until I was 16, and keep wondering if there is still a chance in hell that I can get it back into the family, with reasonable amount of effort and money (I know, that's a nebulous measure). The house is just about completely caved in, it never had any plumbing, the stodola has been taken apart by neighbors for fuel, as some of the most incredible selection of fruit trees in the orchard on the back of the house.

Anyway, I have no idea what I would do with it, except spend my summers there. If the law required that I build something up to the current code within two years, for example, I probably would not be able to do it, but considering what shape the property is in right now, I think I can do better than that. At least I would clean it up and clear enough land to pitch a tent there, to start. That's a joke... but not far from the truth, really. So, what do you think? Is it worth to get my family in Poland in uproar about it, or do you think it's just a stupid pipe dream? Oh, about 10 years or so ago, my father went there to see what can he do to keep the land, only to find, according to him, a long line of officials with their hands out, expecting heavy bribes from the "rich American". He left disappointed. I'm planning to travel there this summer. What should I expect? What is the best approach?
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31 Jan 2010
USA, Canada / My wife wants to return to Poland...but I want to stay in the US [155]

Josef, I'm just saying that you seem to want your wife to be happy and also it looks like you don't think you can be happy in Poland. You might be right, and you might be wrong. It may be worth finding out for sure. If nothing else, you'll earn the right of comparing the two from your own experience. And I'm sure you'll score some huge points with your wife.
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31 Jan 2010
USA, Canada / My wife wants to return to Poland...but I want to stay in the US [155]

easy, seanus. I thought his aim was to seek advice on how to keep his family, not on divorce.
My fist instinct was to tell him to get out of Chicago - personally I don't think anything cures the blues as fast as palm trees, blue skies and a walk on the beach, but I didn't want this to veer into Florida bashing, or defending Chicago, for that matter.

The fact is that he posted here, where english speakers living in Poland frequent. That's saying something.
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31 Jan 2010
USA, Canada / My wife wants to return to Poland...but I want to stay in the US [155]

What part of "I want to stay in the US" don't you understand?

I think you're missing the first part of that statement. I also sense that you have a hard time imagining that someone might like living in Poland better than the US. That's fine. Jozek might be one of those, too. And it's precisely because of the marriage and the child that I'm suggesting he considers some tough choices to try to save the marriage before calling the lawyers.
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31 Jan 2010
USA, Canada / My wife wants to return to Poland...but I want to stay in the US [155]

Go to Poland with her, Jozek.
She had the courage to try US for you, you don't have it in you to at least try and reciprocate?
Look around this board - the few that have the balls to try another country for their love seem to be well adjusted here. The rest seem to blame everything else but themselves.
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31 Jan 2010
USA, Canada / My wife wants to return to Poland...but I want to stay in the US [155]

Has Jozek mentioned his wife's profession? Does she have means of supporting herself and possibly even her family, in Poland?

I'd like to think that we're talking about two people that fell in love and are trying to make it. He admits himself that sees how miserable his wife is. I don't think she planned to have unhappy two years in Chicago in order to "steal" his child and end up where she started from, minus the child's father. Sometimes we try our best and and if we're still unhappy, we're supposed to be able to turn to our partner and ask for reconsideration.

So, unless she has no earning power whatsoever, he should try to see how it is when the shoe is on the other foot, and give her couple of years in Poland.
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30 Jan 2010
USA, Canada / My wife wants to return to Poland...but I want to stay in the US [155]

Lot of people turn to internet with their problems just so they won't feel all alone. Most of the time it's good to hear a story from someone who was in similar situations, what they did and how did it turn out. Sometimes it's good to hear a wide range of responses.. Might save one from getting totally blindsided, or one may realize that their situation might not be that tragic.

What I missed about Poland the most during my first 2 years in US was people - social life, being able to discuss my experiences, bounce ideas, just share everyday struggle... that was missing in my new life. Sometimes family and friends are more important than creature comforts..
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30 Jan 2010
USA, Canada / My wife wants to return to Poland...but I want to stay in the US [155]

granted, first he's got to make sure that she's not just trying to get away from him. After that, it really does not matter who's right and who's wrong - but who's going to be less miserable - her in Chicago or him in Poland.
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30 Jan 2010
USA, Canada / My wife wants to return to Poland...but I want to stay in the US [155]

In case it's not just the Chicago Poles that are getting her down, you might have to step up your game, Jozek. In order to start out at equal footing again, you might have to "do" two years is her country of choice. Wouldn't that be fair? And honestly, if you didn't have a bit of that "I can make it anywhere" insanity, you would have married an american.
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27 Jan 2010
USA, Canada / My wife wants to return to Poland...but I want to stay in the US [155]

women will react more emotionally than men to anything that is centered around them. I would video the counseling between the two of you and if necessary play it back to her as needed.

OMG... I'm at loss for words.. you are one sick puppy.
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27 Jan 2010
USA, Canada / My wife wants to return to Poland...but I want to stay in the US [155]

I went back to Poland after 2 years of pining for my homeland, my family and friends... and I got cured! I did appreciate much more what I had in US after that.

Besides the trip back, there were few other factors that changed my mind: moving out of Chicago was a big one, another one was that in two years I've learned enough english to expand my circle of acquaintances beyond Polish expats.

Take from that what you need.
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25 Jan 2010
Genealogy / How hard is it to get a Polish passport? [74]

The USA for instance requires that you give up your US citizenship if you are naturalized in another country.

I have heard that if you make it known that you do not want give up the US citizenship, they'll let you keep it. Especially if the second country is a small, peace loving island. ;)
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24 Jan 2010
Genealogy / How hard is it to get a Polish passport? [74]

I keep hearing that Poland does not allow dual citizenship. I assume that means that if you already have another citizenship, you have to give it up if you want to become Polish (I don't think it's true the other way around - you don't loose your Polish citizenship when you get your US one, for example). What, exactly, does Poland require as giving up the other citizenship? Handing in the passport, or official request to be stripped off the other citizenship?
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23 Jan 2010
USA, Canada / What do the Poles hate and love about the U.S.? [170]

In my neck of the woods, when cops have nothing to do, they hide around the stop sign intersections and gather revenue for the town.

Somewhat related: a friend of mine told me a story about riding a bike in Daytona last weekend: late at night, no cars in sight, just him at a traffic light and a cop car parked caddy corner from him, the light was weight-controlled and would not turn, so after twenty minutes of my friend rolling the bike back and forth along the sensor, he runs the light. Cop, with a big smile on his face, followed him gave him a ticket.
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23 Jan 2010
USA, Canada / What do the Poles hate and love about the U.S.? [170]

What I love about US is the ease of everyday life. It's also a reason for a lot of what's wrong with this country.

Saw a bumper sticker last night: "I'm not bossy, I just know what you should be doing". haha ha.
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23 Jan 2010
Love / How to please Polish women? [216]

a secret to any relationship, not just with a polish woman, is an ability to compromise. Give and take, on both sides, is like a dance. An art. That's assuming both partners love/deeply care for each other. Floripa makes a lot of sense and seems to be happy with his relationship.
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22 Jan 2010
Life / Are surf/skate clothes popular among Polish kids? [15]

another question I'm sure I'm going to get blasted for somewhere.. sometime.. since I am really ignorant about this process.
How does ordering something in Poland through the internet, from US company work? Is the currency exchange, import taxes, declarations etc... a seamless process? Do you have to pick up the package at customs?