JustysiaS
15 Aug 2010
JustysiaS
15 Aug 2010
Language / "do I" usage in a question? [50]
whether and if used in a question mean czy
but if means also jeśli (or jeżeli) that's why I used word whether.
whether and if used in a question mean czy
JustysiaS
15 Aug 2010
Language / "do I" usage in a question? [50]
whether = if = czy
That is exactly what I've meant by saying that czy is equivalent of whether (but some can argue with that)
whether = if = czy
JustysiaS
15 Aug 2010
Language / "do I" usage in a question? [50]
I was wondering whether you got my message.
Czy otrzymałeś moją wiadomość? = did you get my message
Zastanawiałam się, czy otrzymałeś moją wiadomość? = i think i got my message
I was wondering whether you got my message.
JustysiaS
3 Aug 2010
Love / How easy is it to pick up a girl from a club/bar in Warsaw ? [65]
this kinda bullsh*t works on any bimbo in any country i'm afraid, so no points for you
this kinda bullsh*t works on any bimbo in any country i'm afraid, so no points for you
JustysiaS
1 Aug 2010
Love / What are Polish Women like? Just started to date one. [256]
maybe that ONE in particular whom your husband had the misfortune to meet but surely not all. i know it hurts but please, i'm a Polish girl and i never broke up a marriage.
Polish girls are *******!!
maybe that ONE in particular whom your husband had the misfortune to meet but surely not all. i know it hurts but please, i'm a Polish girl and i never broke up a marriage.
JustysiaS
31 Jul 2010
JustysiaS
31 Jul 2010
UK, Ireland / Polish immigration in UK [491]
last time i checked it was the Nigerians and Afghanis living in luxurious houses and getting all the benefits, the Poles at least work. i'm all against benefits and council housing for people who don't deserve it but don't blame the people who take advantage of it, blame your dumbass government. too many lazy asses native Brits too, because it pays better to stay at home and collect the dole. the tories are not gonna change anything, last time i checked the were giving the thumbs up for turkey joining the EU. guess what's the first place they're gonna come once the gates of Europe are all opened.
They come over here and take our housing,claim our benefits and all they have to do is work for 11 months.
last time i checked it was the Nigerians and Afghanis living in luxurious houses and getting all the benefits, the Poles at least work. i'm all against benefits and council housing for people who don't deserve it but don't blame the people who take advantage of it, blame your dumbass government. too many lazy asses native Brits too, because it pays better to stay at home and collect the dole. the tories are not gonna change anything, last time i checked the were giving the thumbs up for turkey joining the EU. guess what's the first place they're gonna come once the gates of Europe are all opened.
JustysiaS
29 Jul 2010
Law / Non-EU, wanting to marry a Pole, living in Germany, confused with visa & citizenship [7]
don't do it then
of course why else would you get married to an EU citizen, right!
It seems too complicated for me
don't do it then
we are thinking to get married (for me to stay here)
of course why else would you get married to an EU citizen, right!
JustysiaS
23 Jul 2010
Love / Why do Polish women prefer foreigners for boyfriends and husbands? [418]
ha ha yes i need a knight like you to rescue me from my ugly boyfriend ha ha! all my female friends fancy him actually and girls are checking him out on the street so i think i'm not doing too bad for myself :).
ohhh it p*sses you off so much that even the mingers get laid doesn't it! it's hilarious that you think you deserve attention and appreciation from women. with your attitude, you don't even deserve a dog.
and you're still not getting any! i've never been attracted to black men (apart from will smith corrr ;-D) but i would probably go out with one just to spite you.
Your reaction tells me this example applies perfectly to you.
ha ha yes i need a knight like you to rescue me from my ugly boyfriend ha ha! all my female friends fancy him actually and girls are checking him out on the street so i think i'm not doing too bad for myself :).
ohhh it p*sses you off so much that even the mingers get laid doesn't it! it's hilarious that you think you deserve attention and appreciation from women. with your attitude, you don't even deserve a dog.
No, i'm sure most Polish girls like brave warriors against multicultural detoriation of Polska/Europe. :)
and you're still not getting any! i've never been attracted to black men (apart from will smith corrr ;-D) but i would probably go out with one just to spite you.
JustysiaS
22 Jul 2010
Love / Why do Polish women prefer foreigners for boyfriends and husbands? [418]
then you look in a mirror yourself and think "at least she's got a friend and someone to f*ck unlike me boo hoo hooo"
then you look in a mirror yourself and think "at least she's got a friend and someone to f*ck unlike me boo hoo hooo"
JustysiaS
22 Jul 2010
Love / Why do Polish women prefer foreigners for boyfriends and husbands? [418]
somebody sounds like they were screwed over by a few Agnieszkas! i bet you're still single too. i found it hilarious how most of you foreign "buzznessmen" only ever get the slutty Polish women, i am totally not familiar or accquainted with the kind of girls you talk about, with 'cream in their pants' at hearing about money. i suppose you only attract that kind of woman because if all you talk about is your job and your wealth then a smart girl will get bored. you can impress a woman with money and being well off but no good woman will go to bed with you just because of that. i am very sorry that this is the only type of Polish woman you know and in turn demean and despise, i don't blame you but i still stand by my statement that they do not become golddiggers because of communism rooted inside of their brain.
as for British girls, oh boy! you never bumped into a Chantelle who hops into bed with anyone who claims to be a footballer? this seems to be the ambition of many young women in Britain these days. gold digging is not unheard of, maybe not so much as in other countries though because of the generous benefits system...
If a British or American male boasts to his mates about sleeping with a black girl, is he suffering of post communism trauma too? Come on you can't be serious.
It's funny how so many women think they are becoming more equal by acting like thick, arrogant men. It's actually making things worse. But still, it's usually the men who are sluts themselves who call women names when they behave the same way.
It sucks when a woman steals your money but at the end of the day you only have yourself to blame for being naive and letting her have it... The communist b*tch! ;-D
It's not that we're brainwashed or forced into it, if we were hairy, smelly with frizzy hair and spotty faces you men wouldn't like us! :D So maybe men are the brainwashed ones because you don't fancy the cavewoman look anymore ha ha.
It's always a good idea not to befriend your exes on facebook because all of those unneccesary thoughts and hopes will creep back into your head everytime they update their status. You have to let the past go whether it was a bad decision to break up or a lucky escape! I count mine as a lucky escape, wouldn't waste another breah on the tosser and feel sorry for any females who make the mistake to get emotionally involved with 'it' in the future :)
Midas
somebody sounds like they were screwed over by a few Agnieszkas! i bet you're still single too. i found it hilarious how most of you foreign "buzznessmen" only ever get the slutty Polish women, i am totally not familiar or accquainted with the kind of girls you talk about, with 'cream in their pants' at hearing about money. i suppose you only attract that kind of woman because if all you talk about is your job and your wealth then a smart girl will get bored. you can impress a woman with money and being well off but no good woman will go to bed with you just because of that. i am very sorry that this is the only type of Polish woman you know and in turn demean and despise, i don't blame you but i still stand by my statement that they do not become golddiggers because of communism rooted inside of their brain.
as for British girls, oh boy! you never bumped into a Chantelle who hops into bed with anyone who claims to be a footballer? this seems to be the ambition of many young women in Britain these days. gold digging is not unheard of, maybe not so much as in other countries though because of the generous benefits system...
If a British or American male boasts to his mates about sleeping with a black girl, is he suffering of post communism trauma too? Come on you can't be serious.
Unfortunately, nowadays equality often means adopting men's bad habits and behaviors rather than for us men to improve our own behavior.
It's funny how so many women think they are becoming more equal by acting like thick, arrogant men. It's actually making things worse. But still, it's usually the men who are sluts themselves who call women names when they behave the same way.
It sucks when a woman steals your money but at the end of the day you only have yourself to blame for being naive and letting her have it... The communist b*tch! ;-D
They're flooded with images of what's expected of them, tv shows, magazines, friends, etc., etc. from early on.
It's not that we're brainwashed or forced into it, if we were hairy, smelly with frizzy hair and spotty faces you men wouldn't like us! :D So maybe men are the brainwashed ones because you don't fancy the cavewoman look anymore ha ha.
Yes, they do turn down many good guys but we guys turn down many good ladies. Every now and then I get a facebook update on a friend, ex-girlfriend announcing the birth of their child or marital status update and I think, what the hell was I thinking? Why did I break up with her?
It's always a good idea not to befriend your exes on facebook because all of those unneccesary thoughts and hopes will creep back into your head everytime they update their status. You have to let the past go whether it was a bad decision to break up or a lucky escape! I count mine as a lucky escape, wouldn't waste another breah on the tosser and feel sorry for any females who make the mistake to get emotionally involved with 'it' in the future :)
JustysiaS
21 Jul 2010
Love / Why do Polish women prefer foreigners for boyfriends and husbands? [418]
Put it this way, it makes a girl stand out more when she dates/sleeps with several men or if she's just acting slutty when she lives in a country that is still very conservative, full of persumptuous, old fashioned and condescending people. Now in western countries it seems to be more acceptable for women to be 'loose' and do just as men do, and men kinda expect them to be that way too. Not saying it's a good thing, quite the opposite i think it's sad but at the same time if men are sleeping around just for the sake of having sex and topping up their score (sometimes at the price of braking a few hearts too), why is it still so shocking to you that some girls choose to do the same and if men are paying - take advantage of it? If a woman EXPECTS money, jewelry, gifts or holidays then you know what kind of woman you're dealing with and you are free to walk away. If guys want *something* from you they will use every charm and mind game they know to get it and that in my opinion is much more hurtful.
Also, if you walk into a bar and flash some cash or an expensive watch, guess what kind of girls are gonna be swooning all over you. Same goes for women, if a girl walks into a bar with her boobs on show and a belt for a skirt, guess what kind of men she's going to attract. Bars are not good places for meeting potential partners anyway...
Ha ha how many times are you people gonna bring this comunism issue up? Golddiggers are golddiggers they want your money and they are all the same in every corner of the world. Comunism has NOTHING to do with it, the pretty young things in Poland today don't even remember it, i'm 25 and i don't.
And another stupid statement, i'm surprised that somebody who claims to be a travelling businessman comes up with so many ridiculous ideas. If a Romanian guy boasts to his mates about sleeping with an asian girl, does he have deeply rooted comunist issues too? Ones that he doesn't even know about? Or does it only apply to Polish women because you lot need to:
1. Demean and patronise someone who has blatandly taken you for a ride. It's pretty immature if i may add.
2. Have some sort of an explanation, a source, just about anything to explain why you didn't see it coming, why you let them milk you dry and walk away laughing.
And for the record, no i never slept with a black man, or an asian guy. I just find attempts to link the Polish golddiggers with the comunist state or anything stupid like that absolutely pathetic.
Poland is blessed/cursed with a percentile of sluts in the general population that is greater than in, let's say, Germany or U.K. Pretty much typical for all of Eastern Europe, really.
Put it this way, it makes a girl stand out more when she dates/sleeps with several men or if she's just acting slutty when she lives in a country that is still very conservative, full of persumptuous, old fashioned and condescending people. Now in western countries it seems to be more acceptable for women to be 'loose' and do just as men do, and men kinda expect them to be that way too. Not saying it's a good thing, quite the opposite i think it's sad but at the same time if men are sleeping around just for the sake of having sex and topping up their score (sometimes at the price of braking a few hearts too), why is it still so shocking to you that some girls choose to do the same and if men are paying - take advantage of it? If a woman EXPECTS money, jewelry, gifts or holidays then you know what kind of woman you're dealing with and you are free to walk away. If guys want *something* from you they will use every charm and mind game they know to get it and that in my opinion is much more hurtful.
Also, if you walk into a bar and flash some cash or an expensive watch, guess what kind of girls are gonna be swooning all over you. Same goes for women, if a girl walks into a bar with her boobs on show and a belt for a skirt, guess what kind of men she's going to attract. Bars are not good places for meeting potential partners anyway...
Now some of these sluts are golddiggers and due to communist mentality
Ha ha how many times are you people gonna bring this comunism issue up? Golddiggers are golddiggers they want your money and they are all the same in every corner of the world. Comunism has NOTHING to do with it, the pretty young things in Poland today don't even remember it, i'm 25 and i don't.
Another part of said sluts has an inferiority complex stemming from being raised in the bland environment of communism/early economic transformation years.
And another stupid statement, i'm surprised that somebody who claims to be a travelling businessman comes up with so many ridiculous ideas. If a Romanian guy boasts to his mates about sleeping with an asian girl, does he have deeply rooted comunist issues too? Ones that he doesn't even know about? Or does it only apply to Polish women because you lot need to:
1. Demean and patronise someone who has blatandly taken you for a ride. It's pretty immature if i may add.
2. Have some sort of an explanation, a source, just about anything to explain why you didn't see it coming, why you let them milk you dry and walk away laughing.
And for the record, no i never slept with a black man, or an asian guy. I just find attempts to link the Polish golddiggers with the comunist state or anything stupid like that absolutely pathetic.
JustysiaS
21 Jul 2010
Love / Why do Polish women prefer foreigners for boyfriends and husbands? [418]
Um no, Polish women i know who are friends, family or work colleagues, the great majority of them actually, are into Polish men only.
When it comes to dating it's all about standing out a bit and you jarnowa sadly don't stand out from the common crowd at all. You're not exceptionally smart, you're definitely lacking in the sense of humour department and most likely are just about average or below average with looks. So unless you can come up with something that will make women want to date you, trying to pin down your lack of success on everyone and everything else but yourself is really not gonna work. Nor are these stupid threads.
let's go back to the subject, do you agree with ts that Polish women prefer foreigners?
Um no, Polish women i know who are friends, family or work colleagues, the great majority of them actually, are into Polish men only.
When it comes to dating it's all about standing out a bit and you jarnowa sadly don't stand out from the common crowd at all. You're not exceptionally smart, you're definitely lacking in the sense of humour department and most likely are just about average or below average with looks. So unless you can come up with something that will make women want to date you, trying to pin down your lack of success on everyone and everything else but yourself is really not gonna work. Nor are these stupid threads.
JustysiaS
30 Jun 2010
Language / będzie potrafił? [34]
Nie umiem mówić po rosyjsku.
or
Nie znam rosyjskiego.
Nie mogę iść razem z tobą do kina.
potrafić and umieć are synonyms, but móc, which also means 'can' in English is not their synonym. potrafić and umieć mean to have ability/skill to do something. móc is used to describe will or power.
Nie mogę się doczekać. - I can't wait.
Czy mogę w czymś pomóc? - Can i help with something?
Potrafię grać na gitarze. - I can play the guitar.
Mógłbym pograć na gitarze, gdybym ją miał. - I could play the guitar if i had one.
See the difference?
Nie UMIEM po rosyjsku.
Nie umiem mówić po rosyjsku.
or
Nie znam rosyjskiego.
Nie POTRAFIĘ razem iść do kina.
Nie mogę iść razem z tobą do kina.
potrafić and umieć are synonyms, but móc, which also means 'can' in English is not their synonym. potrafić and umieć mean to have ability/skill to do something. móc is used to describe will or power.
Nie mogę się doczekać. - I can't wait.
Czy mogę w czymś pomóc? - Can i help with something?
Potrafię grać na gitarze. - I can play the guitar.
Mógłbym pograć na gitarze, gdybym ją miał. - I could play the guitar if i had one.
See the difference?
JustysiaS
30 Jun 2010
Language / będzie potrafił? [34]
about the same difference as the difference between 'can' and 'be able to to' :). they are synonyms and can be used alternately
this is a different kind of distinction. while those two words translate to 'know' in English they are used in different situations in Polish.
Wiem o czym mówisz. - I know what you're saying. (you can't use znać in here)
Znam go. - I know him. (you can't use wiedzieć in here)
Wiedzieć is consistent with posessing information about something. Znać is consistent with being familiar with something or someone.
'umieć' vs. 'potrafić'
about the same difference as the difference between 'can' and 'be able to to' :). they are synonyms and can be used alternately
'wiedzieć' and 'znać'
this is a different kind of distinction. while those two words translate to 'know' in English they are used in different situations in Polish.
Wiem o czym mówisz. - I know what you're saying. (you can't use znać in here)
Znam go. - I know him. (you can't use wiedzieć in here)
Wiedzieć is consistent with posessing information about something. Znać is consistent with being familiar with something or someone.
JustysiaS
28 Jun 2010
Love / Love without chemistry? (Asian in love with a Polish woman) [195]
she's not your woman and i bet she would freak out if she knew you claimed she is
oh yeah they always say that they have problems to solve, probably her main problem is how to get rid of you without it ending in your suicide
but yes you'll do exactly as you say and cling on to this woman and try to brainwash her into thinking that you are god's gift to her. this is your asian logic. you need a reality check.
my woman
she's not your woman and i bet she would freak out if she knew you claimed she is
She has her own problems and has to solve them.
oh yeah they always say that they have problems to solve, probably her main problem is how to get rid of you without it ending in your suicide
but yes you'll do exactly as you say and cling on to this woman and try to brainwash her into thinking that you are god's gift to her. this is your asian logic. you need a reality check.
JustysiaS
28 Jun 2010
Love / Love without chemistry? (Asian in love with a Polish woman) [195]
Desperation, delusion and fixation do not equal love.
Desperation, delusion and fixation do not equal love.
JustysiaS
28 Jun 2010
Love / Love without chemistry? (Asian in love with a Polish woman) [195]
I believe that in this film the girl actually fancied Eddie Murphy's character, after all she dumped her boyfriend for him. With you though, you've been told that there is no physical attraction involved and you are hoping that she will learn to love you with time. You are just a friend to this woman and as soon as you accept it instead of sticking to your deluded idea that you can make her feel stuff that is not there between you two, the better. Have some respect for yourself, just because she didn't throw you out (because you are a friend to her) doesn't mean that she wants you to pursue her, take the hint and look for someone who is interested in you the way you are interested in them. Why waste months of your precious time on something that YOU yourself know will not happen. I'm sick of reading your drivel and people are right on here, she will only ever stay with you because of convenience, not because of love. This is not India or Turkey where falling in love seems to be the last thing happening between a married couple. How will you feel if one day she'll bring a guy round and say hey, this is my boyfriend. Would that finally make you see straight and give it up, or would you wait around some more hoping they break up? This is a very unhealthy fixation not love that you feel, you want her only cos you can't have her and you daydream about how she will fall in love with you one day like in some movie. You're a grown man, stop being such a doormat, grow a pair and get a life! What does this drivel of yours have to do with Poland apart from a Polish woman in question who has no romantic interest in you?
If you prefer humor to classic romance, watch the movie "Coming to America" starring by Eddie Murphy. Same situation, different ways of getting things done.
I believe that in this film the girl actually fancied Eddie Murphy's character, after all she dumped her boyfriend for him. With you though, you've been told that there is no physical attraction involved and you are hoping that she will learn to love you with time. You are just a friend to this woman and as soon as you accept it instead of sticking to your deluded idea that you can make her feel stuff that is not there between you two, the better. Have some respect for yourself, just because she didn't throw you out (because you are a friend to her) doesn't mean that she wants you to pursue her, take the hint and look for someone who is interested in you the way you are interested in them. Why waste months of your precious time on something that YOU yourself know will not happen. I'm sick of reading your drivel and people are right on here, she will only ever stay with you because of convenience, not because of love. This is not India or Turkey where falling in love seems to be the last thing happening between a married couple. How will you feel if one day she'll bring a guy round and say hey, this is my boyfriend. Would that finally make you see straight and give it up, or would you wait around some more hoping they break up? This is a very unhealthy fixation not love that you feel, you want her only cos you can't have her and you daydream about how she will fall in love with you one day like in some movie. You're a grown man, stop being such a doormat, grow a pair and get a life! What does this drivel of yours have to do with Poland apart from a Polish woman in question who has no romantic interest in you?
JustysiaS
28 Jun 2010
Language / będzie potrafił? [34]
it's in present tense, so no
that's what the auxilary verb is there for, to mark a future imperfect tense. a bit like 'will' in English.
Doesn't 'On potrafi' alone already mean 'he will manage, be able...' without the addition of a superfluous będzie.
it's in present tense, so no
będzie potrafił?
that's what the auxilary verb is there for, to mark a future imperfect tense. a bit like 'will' in English.
JustysiaS
27 Jun 2010
Love / Love without chemistry? (Asian in love with a Polish woman) [195]
if i tried and tried and tried and i wouldn't get me anywhere then i'd walk away. but i suppose some people just enjoy being hurt.
I'm afraid you are completely ignoring her feelings for you. (Or should I say her lack of feelings for you?)
if i tried and tried and tried and i wouldn't get me anywhere then i'd walk away. but i suppose some people just enjoy being hurt.
JustysiaS
27 Jun 2010
Love / Love without chemistry? (Asian in love with a Polish woman) [195]
nope, i keep my act together and give it my best shot so at the end of the day if things dont work out i don't have any reasons to blame myself. i would never change for anyone, i would get out of my way to please them every now and again but i don't believe there is anything wrong with me that needs fixing! i'm happy with myself :)
the problem with so many men is that they offer themselves on a plate just asking to get hurt. what's with all this vulnerability? just because you see a pretty face and a nice body should't make you lose all reason. if a man is balanced that is half of the success. don't let the woman shake you up!
i think i might add this to my favourite quotes :)
It never fails? Never?
nope, i keep my act together and give it my best shot so at the end of the day if things dont work out i don't have any reasons to blame myself. i would never change for anyone, i would get out of my way to please them every now and again but i don't believe there is anything wrong with me that needs fixing! i'm happy with myself :)
Of course women are complicated and have very strange reactions but you have to control the frame.
the problem with so many men is that they offer themselves on a plate just asking to get hurt. what's with all this vulnerability? just because you see a pretty face and a nice body should't make you lose all reason. if a man is balanced that is half of the success. don't let the woman shake you up!
Mistakes are when we over do or under act on something.
i think i might add this to my favourite quotes :)
JustysiaS
27 Jun 2010
Love / Love without chemistry? (Asian in love with a Polish woman) [195]
of course i do, it never fails. you should try it.
You just believe in being yourself, nothing else.
of course i do, it never fails. you should try it.
JustysiaS
27 Jun 2010
Love / Love without chemistry? (Asian in love with a Polish woman) [195]
maybe it's time to call it quits if she's not responding to your grooming techniques yet?
they usually do, for their own sake lol
if being yourself is not enough for her and you have to convince her then it's a lost battle
i wouldn't call it a pleasure, just saying what i have heard
oh where is zimmy when you need him to tell a man how to be a man?!
Hopefully my woman is not your type. If she will be, I have no regret having spent so much time and effort for her
maybe it's time to call it quits if she's not responding to your grooming techniques yet?
So, ugly guys should stay away from you.
they usually do, for their own sake lol
As for method of convincing a woman, what is your method?
if being yourself is not enough for her and you have to convince her then it's a lost battle
If insulting the other race is your pleasure, I have no comments
i wouldn't call it a pleasure, just saying what i have heard
I may already have the proper components, just not yet known how to get them work.
oh where is zimmy when you need him to tell a man how to be a man?!
JustysiaS
27 Jun 2010
Love / Love without chemistry? (Asian in love with a Polish woman) [195]
errr lol! i don't need someone to take care of me, i want an equal partner, also preferably someone who is a stronger personality than me. and if i don't find them attractive then it's probably not gonna work for me. sorry gg4 but that bit from your post i just quoted where you say about whispering in my ear and sweet perfume made my blood run cold...
ha ha that's bad enough! some women like the attention and all, but don't take it overboard and don't turn your life around just to make their every wish come true. soon enough they'll get bored and take you for granted.
this seems to be the case with a lot of Asian men i hear. apparently their method is to convince a woman she is wrong when she's not interested in them, and pester her until she gives in no matter how long it takes. it's a cultural thing. creepy but yeah.
How long could you be alone?
errr lol! i don't need someone to take care of me, i want an equal partner, also preferably someone who is a stronger personality than me. and if i don't find them attractive then it's probably not gonna work for me. sorry gg4 but that bit from your post i just quoted where you say about whispering in my ear and sweet perfume made my blood run cold...
I found out that some of the stalker's characters may apply to my case. To be exact, only 3 out 8 characters applied.
ha ha that's bad enough! some women like the attention and all, but don't take it overboard and don't turn your life around just to make their every wish come true. soon enough they'll get bored and take you for granted.
You will not take no for an answer.
this seems to be the case with a lot of Asian men i hear. apparently their method is to convince a woman she is wrong when she's not interested in them, and pester her until she gives in no matter how long it takes. it's a cultural thing. creepy but yeah.
JustysiaS
27 Jun 2010
Love / Love without chemistry? (Asian in love with a Polish woman) [195]
i imagine it is, but you need to, like you said, make an effort and most of all learn to like and accept yourself
try it and you never know, you might enjoy it and find you have heaps of confidence and much more to offer to a woman than just being a good friend. don't ponder to her every need either and make her work a little for what she gets from you too.
i dont really think that far ahead but i'll make the most of it and maybe write a book about all my ups and downs lol... i already wasted enough time trying to make other people happy more than making myself happy. that's why if anything i'd rather be alone, and no i'm not bitter and won't ever be :)
It sounds simple to you, but quite difficult for others.
i imagine it is, but you need to, like you said, make an effort and most of all learn to like and accept yourself
I need more perfumes, fancy clothes, jokes, all the spicy things. I am not good at that, but will try.
try it and you never know, you might enjoy it and find you have heaps of confidence and much more to offer to a woman than just being a good friend. don't ponder to her every need either and make her work a little for what she gets from you too.
You'll be there soon. Twenty some years is as fast as a blink. You will likely change your thoughts then.
i dont really think that far ahead but i'll make the most of it and maybe write a book about all my ups and downs lol... i already wasted enough time trying to make other people happy more than making myself happy. that's why if anything i'd rather be alone, and no i'm not bitter and won't ever be :)
JustysiaS
27 Jun 2010
Love / Love without chemistry? (Asian in love with a Polish woman) [195]
where the hell does he pick up these girls?????
where the hell does he pick up these girls?????
JustysiaS
27 Jun 2010
Love / Love without chemistry? (Asian in love with a Polish woman) [195]
So you're just asking whether you can get this woman to sleep with you or not then lol? Listen, looks are not everything as they say but everyone of us have at least one good thing about their looks. Confidence is key, i know men who are not exactly lookers but make up for that with their charisma, sense of humour, personality - and women love it. So what if you look like a movie star if you open your mouth and you sound like a moron?
I don't really know your ladyfriend and what she's like but you can try putting a bit more effort into your appearance, dress well and smell good and instead of being a devoted friend, flirt with her and make her laugh. It really is that simple!
So you're just asking whether you can get this woman to sleep with you or not then lol? Listen, looks are not everything as they say but everyone of us have at least one good thing about their looks. Confidence is key, i know men who are not exactly lookers but make up for that with their charisma, sense of humour, personality - and women love it. So what if you look like a movie star if you open your mouth and you sound like a moron?
I don't really know your ladyfriend and what she's like but you can try putting a bit more effort into your appearance, dress well and smell good and instead of being a devoted friend, flirt with her and make her laugh. It really is that simple!
JustysiaS
27 Jun 2010
Love / Love without chemistry? (Asian in love with a Polish woman) [195]
Assumptions are easily made, especially when you come here and preach to other people yet you have nothing to say for yourself and have no examples from your OWN life to support your theories. So technically you're wrong too and you failed. You sound very bitter, very defensive, and being old and wise as you claim you should know that talking in a condescending manner to other people will not earn you respect or help you to be taken seriously. Your only arguement is "Because i'm older and i say so". Your vision of love is a vision of someone who is tired with everything, tired with life, who just wants to come home to a warm dinner, watch some telly and talk about what your day was like etc. Can you not see how a twenty-something year old would not be happy with it? If not then you seriously forgot what it's like to be young and it's very sad. I have years in front of me to make the right and wrong choices and to be honest i don't even want to settle down yet, have kids and grow old. I'd rather live now instead of being in my 50s and thinking about all the things i could've done and people i could've met. Dont't talk down to me or anyone else just because you think you know best. You made mistakes and something's gone wrong but i'm not calling you a stupid old fart am i?
Assumptions are easily made, especially when you come here and preach to other people yet you have nothing to say for yourself and have no examples from your OWN life to support your theories. So technically you're wrong too and you failed. You sound very bitter, very defensive, and being old and wise as you claim you should know that talking in a condescending manner to other people will not earn you respect or help you to be taken seriously. Your only arguement is "Because i'm older and i say so". Your vision of love is a vision of someone who is tired with everything, tired with life, who just wants to come home to a warm dinner, watch some telly and talk about what your day was like etc. Can you not see how a twenty-something year old would not be happy with it? If not then you seriously forgot what it's like to be young and it's very sad. I have years in front of me to make the right and wrong choices and to be honest i don't even want to settle down yet, have kids and grow old. I'd rather live now instead of being in my 50s and thinking about all the things i could've done and people i could've met. Dont't talk down to me or anyone else just because you think you know best. You made mistakes and something's gone wrong but i'm not calling you a stupid old fart am i?
JustysiaS
27 Jun 2010
Love / Love without chemistry? (Asian in love with a Polish woman) [195]
nobody's trying to analyze love in here, just saying that if the OP's ladyfriend blatantly told him she's happy to live with him without any romantic feelings involved then it is not love and you can't make someone feel it if they don't want to.
Don't you muppets realise that Love can never be analysed! It's just SO personal to everyone of us and we all decipher it in differnet ways!
nobody's trying to analyze love in here, just saying that if the OP's ladyfriend blatantly told him she's happy to live with him without any romantic feelings involved then it is not love and you can't make someone feel it if they don't want to.