History / Kaczynski's Legacy [88]


What? It was and still is the kids/parent choice what kind of school they apply for. It's the same as kids not doing A levels in UK. Some do, some don't. My mum was in high school in the 50/60's and she passed mature because she wanted that. Others chose to go to vocational school or technikum.

Real Estate / Question about Czynsz (Building maintenance fees/utilies) in Poland [129]


Wow, no snow to clean? You must have some special kind of pavement then. Most pavements in my town require removing snow quite regularly (depends on the winter but sometimes I can see ppl even twice a day).

And of course the building is not painted every year.
But now I'm sure we are dealing with trolls so bye bye.

Real Estate / Question about Czynsz (Building maintenance fees/utilies) in Poland [129]

Omg, you are trying to tell us your landlord is reaping you off and in the same post take his word for everything. Incredible.
We are telling you what is usually included in the czynsz and you are saying yes, but.
Your bit about maintaince/cleaning just shows your ignorance. Who paints the building? Who cleans the corridors? Who swipes the pavement and removes snow in the winter? Who cuts the grass?

Who comes to fix pipes and electricity?
Any spoldzielnia has to give an early report to owners about the spending and owners can come and take part.

Judging by your post about ING you seem to have problems with any service even ones that other ppl don't seem to have. I start to seriously doubt your description of the situation.

Real Estate / Question about Czynsz (Building maintenance fees/utilies) in Poland [129]

Did you contact the spółdzielnia? For now all you have is what your landlord tells you...
As someone said before- czynsz is usually:
-garbage (in my case even electronics and furniture that you are not supposed to get rid off in normal bin without extra payment)
-maintaince/ cleaning/ renovation
-repairs in case of emergency (had ppl coming in to check faulty cooker on Christmas after two hours of reporting it without any payment)
-water
-central heating
--Admin fees of course

Usually the rent is set but it changes after the readings of heaters and water depending on the usage. This year my sis got two months rent back for heating and water just because the winter was mild and she has less need for water.

And good advise:
After you sort the problem out with your landlord I would strongly recommend not comparing two different countries- it will only drive you crazy as there are always differences.

Law / ING charges you about 2.5% from each deposit or transfer received to your own bank account. How usual is this? [11]

I had a bank account with them for years and was never charged for any transfers, in or out. Maybe you should go to the bank and ask about it?

Love / Should I bring gifts? - help with a Polish wedding [46]


That would be considered bad taste a bit. It's one thing to answer when someone asks or suggest that you'd rather have cash (without giving the ammount of course) and quite different to tell the quests 'I want that'.

I had two opposite situations:
My cousin was getting married abroad. Because of the exchange rate we weren't able to give cash that would make any sense but since we were going there we chose to give a gift (a nice set of elegant cutlery that we knew from the parents they didn't have)

My friend was getting married in Poland but living abroad. The exchange rate was cr*p but transporting gifts would be problematic so we decided on cash.

When my nice had a little kid and I was visiting for the first time I didn't play any games. I asked straight what would be more useful and got the answer. A bit different than wedding but the rule is the same.

Love / Should I bring gifts? - help with a Polish wedding [46]


I think I'm their friend or family and that we are close enough not to play stupid games. Of course as you said I should know them and I do so there are not too many options but still pretending there is no such issue is silly. To be fair usually ppl don't ask the couple but indirectly ask the parents or siblings of the bride or groom. Still the question is there.

Love / Should I bring gifts? - help with a Polish wedding [46]


What BS! If I ask what the couple would rather get I expect an answer because I don't want to waste money on something they don't need or want. We are not in kindergarten after all.

Love / Polish girlfriend may be pregnant - what girls from Poland think on having a child without marriage? [54]

I dislike cheaters as well but:
- I think ppl usually know/suspect when they are cheated on
- I think what you're doing is 'wylewac dziecko z kapiela'. There is no reason to make all ppl take tests when they have no reasons to or maybe even don't want to know (did you think about that possibility?)

- if someone shares such views and don't trust their partners they should have the guts to say that's the case so the other person knows where they stand (and like me think about the point of staying together)


You are saying that as if it changed anything. It goes both ways-if I weren't able to trust my partner without tests I wouldn't see the point in staying with him

Not to mention that such requirements would give companies/ government access to everyone's DNA. Not something I would like.

Love / Polish girlfriend may be pregnant - what girls from Poland think on having a child without marriage? [54]

I doubt it will ever become a part of registering a birth. You know why? Because most ppl don't see the need and the government won't be spending thousands on a test that will usually confirm what the parents are saying.

Let me ask you something: do you also make your partner take regular tests for veneric deseases? After all if you can't trust her maybe she's cheating and that way infect you with something...(of course it's not a real question and I don't want to make it about you but more to understand your stance that seems absolutely weird to me)

Love / Polish girlfriend may be pregnant - what girls from Poland think on having a child without marriage? [54]


To be fair I would rather not know. I read about such cases and the knowledge usually brings only misery.


No, it's not but that's not what I'm about. To me such request would mean lack of trust and absolute ignorance of my character. Sorry but I don't see why such thing should be customary for normal relationships. My point is that if you can't trust your partner or they can't trust you there is no point in staying together. That's why I would really think about staying together if I was asked about DNA tests.

Love / Polish girlfriend may be pregnant - what girls from Poland think on having a child without marriage? [54]


He should know by knowing what kind of women his partner is. And they usually do deep down. I love it when a man chooses sexy, crazy and a bit slu**y girl and then is suprised she's not a home maker and quiet, faithful companion (women do the same by choosing the dangerous bad man and hoping they can change them)

Plus I think you become truly a parent by being there for the kid more than by genetics so even if the kid is not genetically connected the father is the guy that takes care of them.


If there is a custody case or child support case than the relationship is already dead, isn't it? But in a normal relationship creating a family such thing is just silly.

Love / Polish girlfriend may be pregnant - what girls from Poland think on having a child without marriage? [54]


Sorry but if a women knows the child is fathered by her partner/husband as she never had sex with anyone else during the relationship why is it a ''moral' thing to volunteer a DNA test? I would agree with that statement if the women didn't know who's the father but not in a faithful relationship.

If my long term partner asked for DNA test I would do them without a word of complaint but I would seriously consider if I should stay in that relationship.

Genealogy / How many Jews lived in Poland and did they ever convert to catholicism, if so when? [62]

It's true they shouldn't have to convert to enjoy normal citizen rights (different times so no actual 'citizen rights') however simple peasant had it worse- they had no way of making their life better, converting or not. Saying that Jews were treated badly (and often they were) without mentioning that other, Catholic citizens had it similar is misleading.

Travel / World youth day - Częstochowa, Poland [34]

I wonder how many priests will follow the Pope's words about taking money for weddings/funerals e.t.c. When I still attended church that was one of the things that really annoyed me and from conversations with many ppl I know that gridinnes in such situations of some priests really angers them (the head priest in my parish was one of that type). There are of course also priests that sacrifice themselfs in any situation for the good of the parishioners but they are not the norm in my area. I wonder how you'd solve the situation. Fixed rates? Take as much as someone offers (ppl can be tight-fisted even if they have money)? Completely free? The Pope said that it's the priest's responsibility to perform wedding/funeral even if ppl cannot pay a penny...

Travel / World youth day - Częstochowa, Poland [34]

Seriously? Ok, I thought you are just some old bitter twisted man who got into being too righteous for his own good but you are just an a**. And then mods are surprised ppl call for your suspension...

I'm all for cheering to the police. Atch may be interested to look for the video of Irish football fans singing for Polish cop during Euro in Poland.

UK, Ireland / Polish in Britain - will I get decked if I speak Polish to these people? [63]

I actually think it's nice (if delivered correctly). It's sweet someone tries to make that effort. I definitely prefer it to someone who doesn't even make an effort to say my name.

News / Streets closed in Warsaw during NATO summit [146]

Oh yeah, because women trust a politician when he apeals to them...
For one you can say the same thing about Duda-maybe he scored high because he appeals to the ladies.
Plus- how mysoginistic can you get?
And I will wait till election to see what kind of support PiS will get. Wonder if this time they will manage to get re-elected.

News / How will BREXIT affect the immigrants in UK and Poland. [1114]

A few banks already said they are moving their ppl to Europe.
Companies are in UK because it's beneficial to them so if UK economy won't be as tempting as EU what do you think they will do? Why City was so much into EU? Because they know they may lose a lot. Why did the mayor of London want more independence?

I'm not saying that UK doesn't have bargain chips but it's not like it's all up to them and EU has to go with it.

And to answer what is so preferential about mutual deal- I agree but EU already said for them movement of ppl is part of the deal.

A lot depends on what UK will want to have. There are few scenarios with different kind of involvement. They have different benefits/responsibilities. I really do think EEA is the most probable outcome. But thinking they will get single market of capital and tarifs without free movement of labour is unrealistic.

News / How will BREXIT affect the immigrants in UK and Poland. [1114]

I'm not advocating punitive measures but I also don't understand why UK should get preferential treatment. Simple as that. And it's not as simple as import/export.

News / How will BREXIT affect the immigrants in UK and Poland. [1114]


Sorry but even if true (and I don't agree) what it has to do with anything? Polish ppl are not side to the negotiation. It will be decided by EU politicians.


True but again it seems to me like quite a lot of public and many politicians want it to be 'access to single market without giving anything in return'. And I think they will be very disappointed. Like many politicians thought they will be able to negotiate before trigging art. 50. Didn't happen either.


Great but what about all the other countries?

News / Streets closed in Warsaw during NATO summit [146]


Did you read recent trust for politician poll? Petru was second most trusted politician (right after Duda).

News / How will BREXIT affect the immigrants in UK and Poland. [1114]

True it's better to keep UK as a friend however I don't think it should be done absolutely on UK terms. You can't say you leave and then expect that you will get everything you want without giving anything in return. That was a big mislead on the leave campaign saying that EU will accept us in single market and everything will be ok without saying that it's actually in the EU hands to decide. How long did France block UK membership? Is UK convinced that no one will do it again with UK joining single market?

There are simple rules:
You don't have any ties with EU and you pay 10% on your transactions
You have some ties with EU and you have some obligations (like freedom of movement).
No one forces UK to become an EEA country. They can choose not to join. However as always in life every choice has it's consequences.


I wouldn't bet on it. Every single country can veto you. Are you sure no one will? And few officials already said that even though they want UK to be close with EU the freedom of movement is not negotiable if UK wants single market.

News / How will BREXIT affect the immigrants in UK and Poland. [1114]

Even if all this points are valid it doesn't change the fact why you think UK should get access to single market 'just because'. The single market was created as an advantage for the EU members not a 'God given right'. Even if one may have it's misgivings about EU it's hard to justify the position of 'we don't want to be a member, we don't like what you do oh but yes, we do like your single market so we want that. It's an approach of eat the cookie and have the cookie. And I don't see why EU should be a bad guy if they say ''no, sorry, it doesn't work that way'

News / How will BREXIT affect the immigrants in UK and Poland. [1114]

EU is a club with it's own rules. UK wanted out and can go out. But they want out only on the things they don't like and keep all the good things. Understandable but why do you think EU should agree to that Mafketis?

Love / Polish mother of my child - 'No money, no daughter' - ADVICE NEEDED [46]

You did split. You were a couple and then you stopped being a couple. It might have happened early in the pregnancy but that's still splitting.

You say she's doing all this for money. Why didn't she choose a wealthier guy? You said yourself she knew your financial situation.

Anyway-all that is not important. What's important is that you know what you can do and you have to choose what you want to do. There is no way in which I can help you (and I doubt anyone else here can).

Love / Polish mother of my child - 'No money, no daughter' - ADVICE NEEDED [46]

I've said already that she sounds like a bit** but no, she didn't 'trick' you into having a kid. You agreed to it. One of the risks involved is that one day you may split. Marriages get divorced...

I'm sorry to say it but when you decide to have a baby you have to take few things into consideration. Like what happens when you split up/divorce, what if your partner dies... It's not easy but that's how it is.

Love / Polish mother of my child - 'No money, no daughter' - ADVICE NEEDED [46]

You can't expect me not to post if you post on a discussing forum.
Unless you go through court you have no way of judging the system. What someone told you (and I doubt it was really a lawyer, more like someone else on some kind of forum) doesn't matter. Many fathers fight for their rights in court. And yes, probably the court would give you the right to visit and take part in raising your kid but yes, they will also expect you to pay child support. Probably around 500zl not euros. And no, the stuff you bring wouldn't count, only cash.


You weren't tricked into having a kid. She didn't rape you, went off the pill behind your back or made wholes in the condom. You made a decision you want to have a baby with her. Things didn't go as planned but you weren't tricked.

Ok, what was your plan in case she dies and you have to take care of the kid alone?
You asked for advice and I already told you what your 3 options are. You don't like it- though but it won't give you any more options.

P.S. There is no Polski. It's either Polish women/Pole or Polka.

Love / Polish mother of my child - 'No money, no daughter' - ADVICE NEEDED [46]

Again- you are not a father legally so going to the police about that visit is like going to them because your neighbour doesn't want to let you into their house. If anything she may complain that some guy (you) is harassing her.

Signing birth certificate has nothing to do with claiming benefits so stop that crap. If you didn't apply you didn't commit a fraud. Plus you better read about benefits for single mothers in Poland before you make such claims because believe me she would be better of with a child support from you.

You are talking a lot of bollo*s

Love / Polish mother of my child - 'No money, no daughter' - ADVICE NEEDED [46]

It's of course illegal to stop the other parent visits without a reason (if the guy is listed as father and the OP isn't) however it still happens.

I don't want to judge the OP as we don't know all the facts but the whole story sounds fishy.


Thank you Roz. I don't understand it either. Does he think now I will want to have his baby? Hilarious