Law / Divorce in Poland - fault - rights to property predating the marriage [34]

Angel, don't try to make it "Polish Men". That would be unfair and unrealistic. [EDIT: As dread beat me to saying . :) ] Cheaters are cheaters regardless of nationality. That is what P3 was getting at. If you are looking for assurance that your Polish man is a keeper this would not be the thread to do it >_<

And OP didn't as yet say that it was himself. It would be moot to ask Var ..if I remember comments few of his posts, it is the wife that is Polish anyway.

So another line to question... that 'preowned' property was in Poland or elsewhere?
Inherited (which can give most weight but sometimes court may decide the kids are next in line early depending on the scope of asset)?
And was she needed at the time to buy it even if they were not yet married?
Did she invest in improvements?

Though I am no atty... I would venture to say it does not look sunny for your friend.
I can't see how owning it matters in the end in this case as presented.
Unless Poland is radically different, here even in podunk , man-friendly States south?
If the wife with two kids miscarried through the personal upset of his having got another woman pregnant at same time (and that IS how any good atty will word it for her,even if subjective-? bad timing is bad) and he tries to divorce her at that time or after to boot? They will bite such a big chunk of his assets for maintaince(aka alimony) and child support it doesn't matter who owns it on paper. Having kids can nullify most Pre-nups even, unless it had specific and detailed provisions concerning.

Plus this "property" it is a home that the woman and children live in.. ? most courts will not just give them the keys to the street overnight. He'll need a top shark in this bloodpool.Which also costs. And arrange his schedule to accomodate a session with the most neutral judge in is region.

Opinion basis: NOT ATTY or currently working in field - 4 years as paralegal in US States of WA and AZ

UK, Ireland / What does English sound like to the Poles? [30]


heh .you got me .. neither is Romanian and a few others in region. And OP didn't list what he considered 'slavic'.
Sometimes I forget to track into post communist era view. Instead of the old US one where all east of free germany is East Europe Commie Russia. xD


Heh, that may pinpoint my enjoyment of soft sounding languages. My family I grew up up with primarily spoke Brasilian Portuguese, pre-20s czech(Bohemian) and Texan English with select older members speaking German, Euskara, Tsalagi and some kind of gaelic

Though I was wording it silly as a meme reference:
youtube.com/watch?v=mlv7Bp-L2MM&list=PLQpICv aF5O7JHf7xHHLWQKoMZFvpX01eZ

Life / Men in Poland in the forest? Just men? [133]


LAWL!!

Though there is your answer. When you first started posting I thought ,"it's not unusual for hicks". At least in the back areas of TN, NC, SC, KY and even AZ (prolly W VA & GA too but not lived there). but I withheld earlier comment since maybe it was some kind of specific thing. What I know about Poland can fit in a resume folder.

But in US rural areas it is common to see the g/f leaning on the car hood as well..there was always that clique of 6-7 guys that go do 'manly' stuff sans the nagging, want his sweater, wanna go out feminine half. And hung with the 'lucky' singles. But hanging parking lots or such often has the cops shoo you away as trespassers not customers. And public drinking is no no.

Usually the couples go out to the woods/middle of desert? hang at one campfire with a few singles and the singles at another. The singles rarely had girls near..what girl with ANY reputation is gonna hang in middle of nowhere with a bunch of guys and drink or gossip about...girls?

Since trailriding, hunting and firearms in general are not really the social norm them all hanging about might appear odd. But I would still say it is just the "man bonding" thing.

Hmm souls for sale? I am a ginger... I need them! or at least portions in order to keep my freckle count up and illusion of eternal youth!

UK, Ireland / What does English sound like to the Poles? [30]


Well he said "slavic" as in all in one bag everything of languages that sound ALL the same and slushy to boot.

I love Hungarian accented English and like hearing it spoken

I also would say that Polish has a whole bag of "shhh". But I like the softening sounds even though it makes it epicfail for me to learn to speak it. I also like languages that use lively intonation

My Polish fellow thinks I sound sexxy for the most part. But when I asked him, said if had to give it thought to describe, english generally sounds dull and dead to his ear.

UK, Ireland / What does English sound like to the Poles? [30]

Hasn't this subject come up before, only like two months ago or so?


That I find surprising. I would be last to claim the english sounds musical or romantic. I think of it as useful, and I do like when certain foreign accents are applied. But other than far north and twangy areas, I would not have thought to apply "nasal".


You are saying Polish sounds like Slovak sounds like Hungarian sounds like Ukranian sounds like Russian..all? 0_0

Jeez no wonder so many other countries think that all americans must all be doofuses when they meet a tourist.
I can tell the difference between regional flourishes even if I don't know what region it is from. Maybe I'm different because of multi lingual childhood.

Still, no way I would say that my friend speaking Slovak sounded JUST like my grandparents speaking old imported Czech which sounds like my Ex inlaws Russian which in turn sounds that sounds like my honey. Just my language buddy and Honey sound noticeably different as Polish nationals.

and not all are "slushy" even. and YAY Klingon! tlhIngan Hol Dajatlh'a'?

News / Poland is the source of horsemeat in burgers? [169]


So THAT is what makes them so tasty..Mmm it is my fav thing to shop there and get 15 meatball lunch plate

Life / Polish pretense - what's the deal? [72]


Not at my present location in Podunk, NC where I am helping my mom parse out 4 lockers worth of collected..JUNK before taking her home with me.

Locals would think me insane and maybe a lil tetched! is NOT recreation in their reckoning. Na dynamitin crow rookeries..that thar be the way to have fun! *sigh* here status is biggest fish, biggest truck, most guns, most hunting dogs (oh and sons after that) and most subservient mate..really upper is having a Basstracker!

Spandex.lawlz! I pointed an laughed at "Roadies'. I was a sponsored gravity assist racer til my youngest came on the scene.

At home in Arizona, and while I was in FL ,it is common to see cyclists and runners. Bike lanes are common most places I've lived.

I am Jockette. Was in track and basketball in school. So I am more active than the norm. I don't do PT or sports recent, been somewhat indolent past couple years hiding from inhopsitable (for me) weather. Lucky with my metabolism I am not a cow, but my tone went phfft.

EDIT: to add..I am in US..I am importing my Polish dish before going to where the recipe is made

Love / Marrying a Polish divorcee - no church wedding? [19]



replace baptism question divorce and you have the answer for your friend

Not sure why the baptism debate is taking over

Maybe I am missing a perspective in this somewhere.
I was not exactly the most pious of Catholics in some life choices but even though I am divorced, I can remarry in the church .But it was nearly 8 months of jumping through hoops and my Parish Deacon insisted after I came to him before it was even finalized. But in my case it is which criteria DIDN'T I meet. : (

The divorcee the OP's friend is so enamoured of obviously thinks she has no merit to go through process of absolving her divorce as cannot meet any the criteria.

Did she even have her first marriage through the church? My first marriage was not... if I have another it will be. It would also be my last.

My confusion is if she is irreligious enough to divorce through civil route ...and still willing to marry in ANY way (which means conjugal relations for sure ^-^) why only civil? If a practicing Catholic she therefore still would be "in sin"... So what is missing here?

Why worry about remarriage as sinful in a different church unless divorce wasn't her idea, the partner is one that filed? Is your friend trying to get her to convert to something else?

Most protestant christian churches (least here in US) don't require that BOTH parties be in that religion (baptist, Methodist, what have you). If she is that worried about staying catholic proper to point of not wanting that wedding... she shouldn't be remarrying at all. Lot of mixed signals.

The handbook link is something your friend should peek at.
edit: space bar fail

Life / Polish pretense - what's the deal? [72]


washing a car is showing off? 0_0

My auto loving and collecting family wash every week..but I was taught the purpose was longevity of the paint and metal beneath by that token.

To wax without causing damage you have to clean of road salts, tar, bird droppings and certain tree saps..so you wash.

It would be to me a sign of careless wealth (and laziness) to NOT wash a vehicle..especially an expensive one! since this indicates one feels it disposable and if it is ruined, you will have it repainted ......if you you haven't traded for newer improved one by then


pictures this summer or it never happened >_< (I have same pledge myself)

Life / Polish pretense - what's the deal? [72]

<_<

You sure you didn't accidently visit us here in US and not "Poland? Was anybody holding a white and red cup with a gold arched symbol?

lol..@ rom
@OP: Wow! you say keep it civil..but seriously; wow. I am just waiting for you to get both barrels unloaded on you when the actual polish are here..especially teh fems. >You are displeased by the appearance of seemingly single females in the student body of where ever you "shopped" and call them 'spinsters'? < are they are really all past their prime and still in school? Maybe it was exam week and burning the candle, and trading sleep to study for getting good marks was more important than putting on makeup and becoming a peacock parade of dishes for your oh-so-discerning palate to sample? Maybe they are feminazis?

Or maybe they are an independent and socially supported breed of young women that can concentrate on their educations BEFORE getting married or distracting themselves with being "in a relationship".

I don't care what nationality you put in place of "Polish", as a female I found it swarmy, disrespectful, trolly and kinda creepy in a sex tourist way.

BTW "middle class' 'upper class" type consumerism/display is not simply 'western' and has been around as a behavior far longer (I am better than you because my mate has 37 gold rings around her lovely stretched neck or read some historical social history of ..hmm..lets pick HAN DYNASTY)

edit: typos..bout time for new keyboard

Life / What are the things which cause culture shock in Poland? [164]


LAWLZ

Heh! though I don't do so often; my honey was rather shocked just this past week when I brought home a "large" drink not even super sized yet.

"That is ALL soda..? you're not going to drink that?"

(That would be, I think, a 900+ ml beverage incl ice displacement)

I could see that as something I'd boggle over.... even for just water I like to have a larger cup

Language / Polish words that sound funny? [224]

My bestest friend (now fiance) told me if/when I visit; NOT to exclaim my foodie love for ice cream using Polish same way, specially in tone.

I guess there is a metaphor of an action best kept between us? : p unless I charge by the minute? XD

edit .. maybe I can use alternate words to gush over my love for forbidden dairy..lol

Food / "Poland - it's the new Provence of food" [56]


_YES!!!_
Oh boy...
Thank You! Mystery Foodie! that is one of the ways I've had it prepared. Though we usually had the blander version for all relations to accept ( a lot of people don't like mushrooms because some old nasty canned thing they ate and refuse to try other types of mushroom. : [ mmmm chantrelles*drools* )

Food / "Poland - it's the new Provence of food" [56]

Hmm... interesting post I may flip through that book next time I'm at a large bookseller.

I can't say I like French food in general but countryside cooking was hearty from what I remember while traveling through. Only food I like in the cities was bread and dessert.

Between my grandparents ethnic cooking and dishes picked up during immigration; then my Russian mum-in-law, I probably already cook many things that could be made "Polish" with slight adjustment.

I make Blintzes..which I guess are 'omlettes" for Poles, I make potatoe pancakes and dumplings.. several other dishes I make have Polish counterparts...even menudo.

I wonder if Poland has an equivalent for Ou lauden? I think that is german dish we swiped. Beef filet rolled around a strong pickle and sweet onion braised, ladled with light gravy and served with cabbage...Mmmmmm

Food / Polish Eating Habits [87]


Heh I can never tire of saying how much I like to eat picked items, sausages and heavy breads. All posts about food sound heavenly. I think if i was assimilated, you would be able to tell me as non-Polish by the portions and amount of fish I eat as well. Seems not as big an item with general Polish as far as I can tell here.

Searched for a thread to Necro as preferred; rather than start anew:

Do other Americans (and our english speaking counterparts in UK & Oz) Feel like a Hun eating next to your EU friend/mate even if you are not overweight?

I wonder how much more budget I'd need to eat the way I do? <_<
I will actually faint in the midday if my portions fall below 1800 ca for the day ( I tried to be on that atkins diet to help my BF at the time stick to his diet. OMG! Mis-stake!)

Still.....when my fiance' and I eat meals together via video.. He brings a plate that barely has enough food to keep my 7 yr old alive. With exception of Pizza or Potato chips(crisps). But though the slice is large, he eats only one. I also notice whatever chicken their KFC uses looks like game hens compared to what I bring home from KFC.

I will admit that most his diet choices are atypical because of serious allergies, he doenst eat the full meal with family most days. At first, when we were still only good buds; I was embarrassed and would consume a good half my meal as I walked the hallway to return to call. I eat like a winter wolf if I don't force myself to relax.

I notice he eats 2 more times in the day and they break up their meals into something like courses. Eating each item as ready rather than awiting for all to be put on plate at once. One would say he 'eats like a bird'

In reality it is I, who eats like a bird.. a REAL bird, and a good thing I have metabolism like a bird or i'd weigh more than my car! German food is like mana to me and from what I can see so shall Polish food be. I don't diet though I cut soda pop out and beer (I miss my good heavy ales) for all but special occasions since those are the only things that seem to affect my size in all but tiny amounts.

But he is boggled the first time he saw me bring a large (not supersize) drink home. And how large I say restaurant meat portions are or sandwiches.


LAWLZ..many meals incl in restaurants serve both potatoes and bread at same meal..
there is even dish that ladles chipped beef (also called affectionately **** On a Shingle. SOS) cooked in gravy over mashed potatoes and/or bread . Southerners especially will swab their rolls or cornbread in their gravy and mashed potatoes. ^_^ AS they enjoy their battered fried fish/meat, and battered fried bread (hushpuppies), okra, zuchinni and creamed green/corn/string beans. You will find SOS even in California in older established Diners. All across SW, South and as far up as West Virginny. It also was an Army favorite at chow.

Language / Slavic accent correction [110]


Im ethnic mix that had old folks still holding tight to their home ways and languages. Im mostly Czech and Cherokee with smatter of 3 more and more Czech.

Hmmmm....
Honestly Vlad; I rarely heard it -if- at all..
I would say depends on what words. But I find Russian was more clipped, less tonal. Lower and colder than the spoken Bohemian of my elders I remember.

I didnt find it musical when they spoke fully; but Baba's english was musical with the accent.
Supposedly my Exs grandfather Boris Zorin was Ukranian but there was some sneering that he was possibly adopted. He did speak slightly different and seemingly "warmer" than the women and other grandfather ;but also refused to speak anything but English in front of the rest of us on most days. But I had very few occasions to hear him. He was very tall and almost albino pale. And handsome (though unfortunate it wasn't passed down in full measures to his kids or grandkids LOL)

Boris kinda sorta sounded like the Weis's on my Dad's side but my memory is fuzzy on them , since most were deceased by the time I was 8 (my dad himself as youngest was born 1917) and I was in my 20s when I first met Mr. Zorin.

But I think all their accents could be skewed from living in enclaves. ie. My In-laws in Tietsin China for a generation and becoming fluent in Mandarin and 2 other dialects.

I can't recall he sounded at all like my maternal gr-grandparents who had much stronger accents in their English and spoke to each other in non english more often. But they also may have skewed accent was after major move per generation before they came to the US from Brasil enclave and grandma Delfina was not ethnic slav.

I kinda wonder too if attitude while expat make difference on how one speaks languages from "old country". In laws Teplaouff-Sergev were "Someday we'll go back and reclaim" while Boris was all "4ell no why would I wanna do that?

Language / Slavic accent correction [110]

I prefer the sound of Polish to Russian or my own family's Bohemian Czech.
Though so far I hear a big difference on how my cousin Marya in CR says words compared to my grandparents.
Or my dearest dear of friends who came from Slovakia when she speaks to her mother on phone.

How a maid imported to my X inlaw spoke Rusian compared to the family speaking it was waaaay different.

Birds..hmm... : )
And there is a very discernible difference between my boyfriend's Polish and my rarely connected language buddy (soft,palatized, chirpy with high intonations)
compared to my weekly language buddy or the man in the chocolate shop I ordered the telegram from (sounded almost like total weird drunk Bohemian, more clipped though still has different raised intonations).

Can it be because of the region? the rougher speakers were in Ponzan and Wroclaw. Ana and my Honey are both from Bialystok area.

And yes in USA... least the largest portion of people in my circles would automatically assume hard slavic accent as Russian, softer ones as German/Austrian (most not even sure what other countries there are or ever were in that region <_<. And these were in college). But I haven't lived (short stay at Great Lakes Naval Station) nor know very few people north of the 40degree mark where large Polish communities are known to exist. May be different up there?

Law / Certificate of no impediment - Single Status - UK Getting Married in Poland [24]

Something like it is required for USCIS as well.. both parties have to provide documentation they are free to marry to use fiance' Visa.
Simply getting married if both people are present is a trip to Vegas and some legal ID documents. ^_^ Though you still have to make sure you get all required paperwork done for your spouse to avoid deportation (how awkward would THAT be).

Though in my case, my home parish already did the legwork and provided me ability to marry in church.

I think that this came up a few months ago ans that trhead has the info you need,, it was maybe October? In Marriage and Relationship section. Pretty sure.

Language / Does Polish have a plural of "You"? [51]


EXACTLY
And where did you get that "95%" stat Citizen? I am curious. I don't hear/see it everyday, but it is not that uncommon..even here in Podunk NC where I am staying this year.

I personally don't use it as often since I have lived in SW most of my life and therefore use "Y'all"

Did you live in a northern state?maybe they don't use it up Northeast? I never lived very long North of VA/KY. Cali uses "you guys" more often as does WA. But you can still hear or see it.

And after all...... "One Does Not Simply Walk into Mordor" ~ Boromir

Language / Poles - don't fall into the French/Spanish trap re pronunciation/accent! [81]

ismellnonsense
Ah, LOL, so you also are in the court of ...impossible for a Basque person to live ANYWHERE else but the region between Spain and France?

My fathers main family came thru Germany and Brasil and are Bohemian ethnically. Weiss
Weiss married a Cherokee. His daughter married a Scot/German.
Her son married into a family that was known Borquez which a gerneration earlier was Baquez and Boggnes depending which son. which in Brasil Sao Paulo region was Bagnes and Baginski- which in Portugal also was Bagnes and Baginski. Who had come from Prague and before that Boheme. His wife Delphina DaSilva was Basque. Their children ...all 16... spoke Castillian, Portuguese and Euskara as well as Boheme. Czech if you prefer..they did not prefer so.

I am born as an American, I identify with the culture and language that was most around my household. Boheme, Portuguese and Cherokee. I am in contact with cousins of 4th and 5th degree that live abroad because the families never broke away totally.

And no matter how much you try to **** in my cornflakes. You can't change where I came from. and I still think the French people I have met were total arses, specially about "correcting". I still love german food.

Language / Poles - don't fall into the French/Spanish trap re pronunciation/accent! [81]


^_^ ..oooh so true!
I am US Citizen but english was not even my second language...I didn't get a cool euro accent but I do speak it oddly..plus I have Southern drawl.

Language / Poles - don't fall into the French/Spanish trap re pronunciation/accent! [81]


WoW! Oh..L-O-L!
I'm sorry... my family and the towns they call home didnt subscribe to Wikipedia and live ONLY off the Bay of Biscay and the Pyranees. ^_^

Granted...maybe I should have said Basque enclave? settlement? village? ghetto?

as to not be confused with modern day Basque Country recognized as everything but sovereign.

Sorry that not many blood related people to me are red scarf wearing, Franco period gun-toting guerillas in the Pyranees squeezed by territory changes to live there there like on some frippin govt Reservation.

We were sailors as most Basque famously were for ages. My family stayed, did not give up the language or move despite the Portuguese Inquisition. The last full fluent speaker of Euskara in my family stateside died in 1984.

Is that like saying a Polish person with ancestors born during that..um 100+ years she wasn't on map...when another owned a piece of it through occupation cannot be Polish? RLY?

I guess I better inform my daSilva family living around Braga and Porto they better get back on the Rez! Only allowed to live in Bilbao! Because some net-troll who knows ALL about Basques, Portuguese on the web says so. 9_9

Though I guess the Castillian/Portuguese Morenos in my family can stay around Coimbra still.

LAWLZ: But happy to provide you an opportunity to feel temporarily superior to someone and informing me of my own heritage

Language / Poles - don't fall into the French/Spanish trap re pronunciation/accent! [81]

I have had good experiences with my new poor Polish. I have elicited nothing but gentle humor. And correction if I really muffed the word.

French Cities have been the only foreign (to me ) language that has had rude condescension and comments to that effect. And permanently turned me off anything to do with said country.

To be fair, the French that were out in the country on way to Germany were a lot more laid back. The food improved the farther from city we were as well. This is my opinon from first time as 6 yr old and second time on a field trip in my Sophomore year. All the french I can remember without nearly crashing to my mental desktop; is Shut the Door! and Let's go to the beach. I can still read it passable.

I don't remember any problems in Castile region or going up into Portugal basque country (but I was fluent enough then, english was not my first language). Perhaps they were nicer to kids. Maybe they got more snooty now? My family is more likely to correct slangy mexicans than anglos speaking spanish.

While staying with Weiss and Bagnesk/Bagenski cousins in Nurnburg Germany and around Stribro it was snow outside, sleigh rides AND all FOOD FOOD FOOD..with kinderbeir, cocoa and warm mulled wine and MORE FOOD! hard to bring away a bad vibe from that. I didn't want to leave! Ever!

now THAT is an international ice breaker!

Life / Foreigners in Poland - the identities of our native or the host country [66]


:)
The PLAN... about 5 years
though I may visit Poland sooner while seeing my good friend in Helsinki and my cousin Marya in Poplze.
(lol..i have learned to always consider plans as a goal.. in case life throws a spanner in the works)

The "schedule" that my paramour relocates here to the US,
(and if I do not reject him for a third ear or having a tail:: I'm being silly.. but he does seem sure to leave me a"break out clause"' to avoid his secret RL hideousness- and if you are reading dear? :p )

...we marry this year and we both sock away money for a few years enough to start a business. He thinks to move back in about 5-8 years. So I expect some time to learn about day to day life in Poland and get a modest vocabulary of Polish.

Reality is that he is very close to his family and if ANYthing happens to his mum or dad, he'd want to go back right away. And if he is successful with a job within his BA robotics..he may embrace American lifestyle to point of not wishing return except in the case mentioned above. He is already more American than I am except on the view about firearms.

Edit: BTW he is from the region of Bialystok.. I haven't noticed anything particularly provincial about him ^-^


:) you are right about that. Though I took it as more of a surprising question than one of any bad intent. Since I box "temporary visitor for work /vacation" separate from "resettling/retiring in another country".


:( that is sooo sad. it can happen even if the child lives in same region and country.
I'm the only person left who attends to and sends flowers to my X mum-in-law's gravesite. And I pay a kid to clean it up every quarter...well I pay his kid now. LOL child labor.She left millions in trust to her kids and the grandkids, but will be forgotten by all but my oldest son when I'm gone.

Life / Foreigners in Poland - the identities of our native or the host country [66]


Huh? what an odd comment....
did you not follow the rest of that paragraph or referrring to something else entirely?

No. If I am simply on a work permit I do NOT expect that I shall DIE before I return home! 0_0

....and if I have somehow invested heavily long-term on foreign soil and have not made arrangements to go "home" before I die..it wasn't much of a home or my new home has earned my loyalty. So it is my place of orgin, not my home.

If I retire somewhere foreign ...same thing.

meh, but then again I have knee-jerk reaction to even seeming a carpet bagger.

Love / Are all women in Warsaw opposed to short term friendship? [5]


now add..ANY COUNTRY.

And IW that phrase in English usually means..:sleep with me but not get attached or mind when I move on.

Sorry dude, I don't think Poland is the treasure trove of loose yet still clean regular can-meet-in-a-cafe women interested to panting in "otherness" of the foreign visitor..any more than your home or the US or UK or Nigeria. I'm sure you can find naive muffinheads and slutcakes where you came from when you get home.

Or if you can't wait or are kinda crazy, I guess you can go out of way to somehow find the loose girls of Poland ..and I bet you dont speak Polish either.

LOL! U.S. guys always think that girls in Ibezia are just panting to bang some fugly old fat loser white guy from Ahmarikah simply because they sunbathe topless..LOL That myth resurrects often.

Benefit of the doubt?
IF you are just looking for female company... Polish are rumored (I know few native Poles so cannot say with fact) a bit standoffish at first and formal in acquaintance until they get to kow you. Sorta distrustful. But most well brought up girls in any country are not going to just hang with some vacationer they were not introduced to at work or by a friend. Not to mention it is uncomfortable to just "hang" with a stranger who doesn't speak your language unless you have a personality to babysit and mother people. ^_^ .. and it is a scary world..the girl that left with a stranger because she was friendly as a puppy can end up the girl found dead by the river. Why only a girl if very temporary and platonic? if ANY local friend ..hang with some friendly dudes at a pub.

You would easiest find a sight seeing buddy at the hotel you are at.

Life / Foreigners in Poland - the identities of our native or the host country [66]


LAWL..this. I HATE the EO world. But I play the card.

As a generic, white looking female if I simply put 'white' all over my app? I never see an interview.
If I just sent a resume, glowing referrals and my unique qualifictions for 'X' position to save time? Round file.

BUT... if I mention my legal nationality, specialties, ethincity?

I can get hired for job immediately that I can do, but have less experience for ; if[i][/i] I happen to mention that I am:

FEMALE-HISPANIC-NATIVE AMERICAN-VETERAN

It should NOT make a difference!! >: ( the ONLY thing that an employer should adjust for is handicaps because they may need some reasonable accomodation to be effficient.

AS for the original OP musings. The differences between Expat/Immigrant etc.
as a worker in a foreign country I would consider myself a guest. I would do my job, make some friends but always keep in mind my goal of going HOME. I would be strongly American.

If it does indeed come to pass that after a few years I go to Poland to live with a Polish husband (anything can happen regardless of planning..but it is the outcome we expect), Then it is my new home.

I will always be what I was raised as.. friendly, neighborly, conservative, traditional, Catholic. I will always have my Tsalagi cultural inheritance, my role number, my family histories of Portuguese and Bohemian. So I can't be "Polish" LOL not even if my Boheme Bagenski were previously Polish. But I wouldn't be strongly holding to my "american-ness' and be raising my children there to be Polish. I would assimilate to become a Polish citizen.

If I started a business...(just as I have done here in US before..) my hiring preference would be local first and only importing from another region/state if there was simply no one local that could qualify. In technology I would headhunt local schools and top schools first before importing a specialist from elsewhere. Exception might be senior team leads, to have people with experience. In the case of a business in Poland all my employees would have to speak at least rudimentary Polish and my customer service people would need to speak Polish, probably English and likely languages of our largest consumers.

I have never been attracted to dark men (or exceptionally hairy ones) and adore pale, golden hues. I especially like light eyes. And boy, did this thread draw some ugly comments and promix weirdos! 0_0

I guess I better be glad my man isn't like some here and actually likes my "exotic" coloration and look. LOL
He dislikes when I bleached my freckles or wear makeup... ^_^ darn purist.
And my ..um.."mongrel" children are pretty good upgrades for my in laws, and I think I can safely say cute in any general view. I'm sure my AmPol mutts will be as attractive and not attract much notice at all except for their heights as my current children do (My 17yr girl= 182, My 14yr boy 186, my 7 yr old 146. Dad?156)

Life / Washing machine in the bathroom of Poles [78]

Most homes I have ever lived in that don't have a specific 'mud room'; have the laundry towards the back of the house or near/in garage regardless of kitchen location. Or in the basement (in my WA home that had kitchen at back side off garage).

Condominums and townhouses are more 30/70 towards kitchen at back because bedrooms are upstairs.

And in following that, most homes I have ever lived in the kitchen was one side of the front of the home. Both in antique homes and new ones.

This includes the family ranchero outside Sao Paulo and a time share in Puerto Penasco and my cousins farmhouse outside Nurnburg.

So, I suppose that influences fact I'd prefer my laundy off/in a bathroom rather than my kitchen. I love bacon, not sure if I want my shirt to smell like bacon. I can't imagine thinking my clothing would be considered soiled coming from my bathroom rather than my kitchen. I don't wash my socks in the toilet! 0_0 and even then, though the idea is distasteful, the bowl and water within are initially clean before..um..use. The floor is realistically more clean at any given moment since bathroom traffic is not as heavy and my kids wont be eating toast in there.

UK, Ireland / Why are Brits so left-wing? [60]

Are they?

The few native Brits I've met I'd call kinda stuffy, unless they were drunk out of their socks. ^_^. But those were tourists OR army units that were housed near our own Bn. I would consider them more conservative and traditionalists. Not extreme right like in US..but we are a bigger place after all ^_^. Loud voices are needed to carry the distances. I see the extreme left in Brits only in forums on the web.

Maybe better wording is why is the Brit Govt seemingly liberal leaning.?

AS a conservative myself... in view the left can be a lot of groups, some are simply caring more for humanatraian and ecologial causes above practicality; but Liberals who have almost completely infiltrated the Democratic party, are pretty much a socialist agenda and they will promise anything until they can finally get full power.

I do not believe in "labeling" I do not support PRO GAY. Nor PRO WHITE. PRO HISPANIC. There are no "disadvantaged" classes other than the poor-regardless of color. Equal means equal. Shifting balances to which animals are more equal than others is not equality. I cannot get hired easily by my looks..but in paper? disclosing I am FEMALE-HISPANIC-NATIVE -VETERAN and speaking spanish? I fill the quotas and am hired. I shouldnt HAVE to do that when I am qualified candidate ! And it is my personal cause to erase such policies for every day am an american.

I want to see fair immigration (NO one gets by being illegal and everyones application is seen fairly and treated equal- (no dif between a mexican, a russian or an aussie). I want to see fed govt spending strictly controlled. Programs streamlined (save money with less administrators-more fieldworkers). Shorter terms and term limits for Senators and Representatives. I want the borders tightened and more sovereignity exercised.

Which seems what UK is planning soon? makes them sound like they are swinging pretty far right in that respect.


Not sure where you are native to, but " left wing" (do not confuse with only the democatic party) in the US is NOT connected with mannerly people!

Unless professional politicians with an eye on a seat in senate, house or the white house.
Most are the rudest, foam at the mouth nasty vitrolic spouting busybodies you could ever meet. A large portion of my family is California... I got some first hand. Smoozy lawyers and education professionals in the non -mathmatical fields. the "stuffy" Brits I met I would consider over-conservative with their fomality and manners.

With exception of abortion debating in street that has all tempers high.. ?
you see a confrontation between left /right.. on the right we spout they misguded nutjobs and commies( there are usually fewer of us since we are not perpetual students getting grants for the next degree in basketweaving so dont have that kind of spare time) - they spout oppressor, babykillers, bigots and then personal insults. They are more likely to be the one screaming in a Policeman or opposing picketers face. More likely to make it physical; to throw something, destroy something. throw rock down off bridge at cars of soldiers wives (2004-2005-2006) when they see base sticker on window. Be a professional teacher that tells children (Tacoma 2005) that their parent deserves to die in Iraq for being in an "illegal war" ... DONT tell ME Left is synonmous with "polite!' LAWLZ

Human decency..is only for the left? WoW! Rly? see how many "left wing" organizations help the poor in a real way..or even give to CHARITY. Not Organizations like ACORN...CHARITY. My aunt spends time boycotting this or that and giving 20 bucks to a chirstmas angel. But has never worked in a soup kitchen, never helped build a house, never paid anyones power or phone.Watched children for free to help someone get established in a job. Never shopped for anyone. Wicked old right wing me has. :( So it is often insulting to be labeled as some unfeeling hater of all gays, non-whites(what IS non white?), women and progress.

It may be different in UK. I don't think most countries have such a deep division between their parties (then again the Serbo-croatia conflict might shocwase an extreme in that?). But most countries are not as big as most of our states. Poland is the size of New Mexico. UK? maybe size of PA ?

Maybe thinking of each state like it's own country might help. Texas actually WAS it's own country when it was swallowed with a pen stroke just before Civil War. Would UK want Ukraninan polices? Or Danish? Or Greek? How big would the split in parties become if other countries/states had a real say on how you were taxed, where the taxes went, what laws were passed? And each party stood for a small block of countries?


Though technically we are a republic andn the citizenry behave as such..that word Democracy is very misued by politicos. our economic policies are democratic..not our govt.

But you got it right there!
and it also hints at the collaborative corruption of both "leading" parties that an electorate and "primaries" are still existing :(

Id love a strong new party. With equal opportunity fo rmeia. Even a non of the above so a new candidate must be chosen for my registered party!

Language / When is speaking Polish showing off and when is it ok? [46]

Unless I was sure English was spoken I am not sure.

I would try the home language first and let them rescue me if any speak engish and ask if any please do.
I had wonderful and humours experience ordering a chocolate telegram this week for my dearest. He was wonderfully patient and took at all with man-giggles. But he wanted to be sure before filling the custon order, So we awaited the english speaking associate. Who only instructed me to try the website again. So my language buddy ended up making the order. Seems something with my OS was incompatible with the site which is why I wasn't seeing the full menu.

It was a good experience for me, all around.. except for DPD. My blind grandma on a galapagos turtle is a better courier..

At home in US.I was always careful not to be so rude as to speak non-english with my cousins in front of our friends; who did not speak Portuguese or Boheme.