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I'm a Polish girl (my boyfriend is British) and I'm proud [58]
Speaking of people that live here :)
We need to remember that two people living in the same town and even the same street can have vastly different experiences due to unique individual circumstances. Harmless example is the bra story. We have one example of someone that buys them in general stores (InPolska) and then there are other women that I know here in Warsaw that NEVER buy bras in general stores and only get them in speciality stores. I don't think this tells us anything particularly useful except that women wear different bras and/or that every woman may have her unique shopping preferences.
Another recurring theme is the subject of Poles dating or marrying foreigners. Every individual is unique and you can't put them all in the same basket. I know some incredibly nice Poles (men and women) and I also know some horrible ones. I can say the same about ANY nationality, and nobody is better or worse than anybody else.
People are people. I am married to a Polish woman, and I don't go around writing blogs about it.
Your perception of marriage is far more important than your perception of the nationality of the person you want to marry or are married to. Problems happen when you become obsessed with the nationality issue.
At the end of the day, marriage needs communication, mutual compromises and a lot of work if you want it to last. That is true for all marriages. I am one of those people that believe marriage is a lifelong commitment. Some other people believe marriage can be opened and closed at their convenience. These are the kind of difference that you really gotta pay attention to.
A Canadian friend of mine (male) had just run into a group of Polish women while travelling in a another country. He wrote to me saying he is totally blown away by how "feminine" they behave. I said to him people are people, and novelty eventually wears off. Everyone and everything is new and interesting when you start, then you have to work on keeping it going. I think I bummed him out, but as they say, keep it real. Today she can be your "Polish girlfriend" and tomorrow she will be your "girlfriend". Put boyfriend, wife or husband in the quotation marks and this is still valid. Unless you are obsessed with the nationality issue, in which case you should report to your local shrink.