Love / Fell in love with a Polish girl, but find it difficult to approach her [620]


I suppose it all boils down to trust in the end of the day. If I had a girlfriend I would be very uneasy if she spent alot of time with male friends. I guess a truly great relationship is where both parties trust each other enough not to mind who their friends are. But this is where the hurt comes in, you open up to someone, put you're trust in them and they mess you up. Its common enough I suppose, men and women are equally guilty.

I would be suspicious of platonic male friends and would wonder what is their angle, they're up to something. Maybe not in a direct way but they are using the relationship to gain something in the long term.

I'm probably way off the mark here and who am I to talk anyway, I'm nothing but a twisted, cynical fool.

Love / Fell in love with a Polish girl, but find it difficult to approach her [620]


I see my earlier faux pas is returning to haunt me once again. lol.

Thank you for your words of wisdom, much appreciated.

Confidence is a curious thing don't you think? I see people every day that I know in my heart of hearts I'm every bit as good as but the thing that separates us is confidence. But how do you gain it? Is it something your born with? I'm studying psychology and I really find this kind of stuff fascinating. Its really intense.

Love / Fell in love with a Polish girl, but find it difficult to approach her [620]


You're spot on my friend. I spoke to the girl I really like today in work. I plucked up the courage at last and said hello. With hindsight it probably wasn't the very best time as she seemed really busy but I've putting it off and putting it off waiting for the perfect time which is crazy. Its probably the most nervous I've ever been. This probably sounds silly to most people but for someone as shy as me it really was a big deal.

I think/hope it went good considering I had a severe case of foot-in-mouth!
She was surprised that I spoke any Polish and asked where I learnt it from. This kind of threw me as I thought she had very little English but was in fact very good. I think I said something like 'friends on the internet' or something like that. I also said my name and she replied with her name so that was nice.

I guess its something to start on and I'll try and take it slow and try not to bombard her with too much questions in one go. There are some lingering doubts however, seeing her in front of me for more than a split second as before I can see now that she is really stunning, way more beautiful than I first thought and when she smiled, well that was a wonderful thing. I may be trying for too much too soon, trying to climb Mount Everest before I am able to climb the stairs at home. I'm sure I'm going to end up hurt, I'm really not in the same league as her, I'm tall but a bit goofy looking.


Thats all I can do I suppose and try to stay positive as best I can.

Love / Fell in love with a Polish girl, but find it difficult to approach her [620]


A very interesting point you raise here. Can a man be just good friends with a woman and want nothing more than friendship? Now, be honest fella's!

I have to be honest and say that in my case, I doubt whether I could just stay friends with this girl if she wasn't interested in taking it further.

Does this make me a shallow person? I'm not sure, really, its just at this stage of my life I feel that the biological clock is ticking, a lot of friends are marrying, starting families and I seem light years behind in the relationship race. Its like I've been in a coma for the last 15 years and I've awoken to find the world has passed me by. I'm doing things now that I should have done when I was 17. They say youth is wasted on the young and I am beginning to agree.

Love / Fell in love with a Polish girl, but find it difficult to approach her [620]


You're right, after all a mistake is only a mistake if you don't learn from it.

Okay, I'm off to watch the football on the telly, c'mon Man U!

Love / Fell in love with a Polish girl, but find it difficult to approach her [620]

I was hoping to see this Polish girl in work today and have sort of planned a dialogue to say to her. She wasn't there and I'm nervous that she has left and my chance has gone.

I am definately paranoid big time. I'm starting to convince myself that she is way too pretty for me and she is married or has a boyfriend back home.


Now that is something I can do! lol

Up until now I have been making eye contact, smiling and saying 'hi' and she has done the same back.
The next time I see her I am going to say 'dzien dobry' followed by 'Jestem ...my name.
Do you think I should leave it there?


I have considered saying 'Jestes tak piekna' Is this a bit too much, too soon? I'm not even sure how to pronounce 'piekna' or whether the 'j' in 'jestes' sounds like the 'j' in just or the 'g' in given?

Your advice would be welcome once again, you've all been a big help so far.

Love / Fell in love with a Polish girl, but find it difficult to approach her [620]

Thank you all for some very helpful tips


Thats certainly one I'll keep in mind. lol.

Apologys once again for the initial quote from me about local women, I didn't mean it that way at all, really.


I have considered this actually, and was in a bookshop yesterday looking at several different 'teach yourself polish' guides. The thing is in the past I made a silly error, I liked a girl who worked in the gym I visit but I was terrified to speak to her but I really needed her to know how I felt so I put my feeling down in a letter and sent it to her. I really liked the letter and it seemed to sum up things well but it got no response and a few weeks later I found out she was engaged to someone for ages. Talk about embarassing, I know she has told some of her friends about it and I guess I'm a bit paranoid now that the whole town knows and are laughing at me behind my back.

I'm a bit mixed up as you can probably gather but I'm decent at heart and I have a fear that the same thing is going to happen again.