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How to survive a relationship in Poland? [42]
So, why take it??? (the epidural)
These days in America you almost have to fight
not to get it, or any pain killers. Seriously, the hospital stuff almost made me feel guilty for not wanting it.
I don't fight. I just posted a few questions which I am trying to solve:
1.) mother-in-law---daughter/son-in-law conflicts - why is there a female bias?
2.) why female's family is always better?
3.) why preservation of marriages often turn out to be a fight between being oneself and doormat, not a dialogue of 2 people, compromise?
1. The stereotype is that mothers have hard time letting go of their sons. They want to have part in the marriage. Wives want their husbands to themselves. But that's not my case.
I have to say I had a good relationship with my mother in-low until the kids showed up. Then she started pushing on me her ideas about motherhood, starting from how often to nurse to taking offense that I stayed at home with the kids (which is not what she did), to the amounts of sugar and junk food the kids are allowed to consume. But the ocean between us works wonders.
2. Female is not always better.
3. Very subjective. It takes work from both sides to preserve a marriage. And if one person sacrifices all, and the other person nothing this marriage is doomed to fail.
