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I'm a black African man and can't cope with my Polish mother in law [34]
I disagree. It is not a cultural conflict but a personality conflict. Polish mothers in law think the behaviour is ok because it was done to them. it has been passed down from generation to generation- it is time to stand up and say that the behaviour stops now. "It is my house and my rules- thank you for your input but I am quite happy the way I live. If I want advice you will be the first person I ask."
As for doing daily shopping...well again falls under culture. The older/middle age generations grew up like this and they are rather grossed out by supermarkets...and again age and time has taught me that fresh is best.
you can't be serious when you say supermarkets don't have fresh food.--what you put in your basket is your decision. there are fresh foods there, probably more so than a corner store because the turnover is faster.
Older people are not grossed out either. Have you been to Tesco on the day the pension comes in? All seniors.
I don't think your advice is accurate. She should stand up for her rights and beliefs- why should everyone accommodate the mother in law? The moment I laid down my rules and the moment my husband finally stood up to his mother (she cries when anyone disagrees- ancient Polish trick) was the day that our lives got easier. respect goes two ways and in my opinion, when the mother in law sticks her nose in your business it is her way of saying that your methods are all wrong, you don't know what you are doing and she knows better. Sorry, she raised her kids- her turn is over.