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PolkaTagAlong   
25 Aug 2012
Off-Topic / I am a Pariah: My Horror Story [44]

Yes, I'm about a year away from finishing up my diploma (it took a couple of jobs and some careful thinking to figure out a skill that I could put to good use) and about another semester after that from finishing my Associate in Applied Science degree. I'm worried about being considered "overqualified" so I may not finish my A.A.S. I will have to do some more research and put some thought into it and maybe consult a career counselor. I just wish that I had more spare money so that I could travel to prospective places I might want to live. It will probably be at least another 2 or 3 years before I move though because I have to get some job experience where I can get hired and I have to save up money for moving expenses and all the stuff I'll need for my apartment.

Oh I know I will have a lot of opportunity to live where I want being either a medical secretary or a medical records technician, that's part of why I picked that job. I'm not saying the US isn't a diverse place, I KNOW that traveling in the U.S. can be like going to a different country sometimes lol. There's every kind of people in America. I've lived in the city before where all the black folk are, and it gets very bothersome after awhile. Most don't even want to associate with you anyway. Why do you think there is so much white flight into the suburbs? I don't mind if there is a black community, I just don't want them to make up a really large percentage of the population. Actually, I'll have to say though, the poor latinos are almost more annoying than the blacks, so I would rather there be a larger black population and little or no hispanic population than a little bit of both like you get in the south. I know that these people have culture and education, but when you go somewhere with a high minority population there are more undesirable people than the educated ones make up for.

Of course Pittsburgh is charming, upstate NY has some really nice spots, there's some things I like about Chicago, Virginia Beach could be a possibility because the economy is good. Unless I could get over the idea of moving West, that's pretty much it though so I guess I don't have too much to pick through.
PolkaTagAlong   
25 Aug 2012
Off-Topic / I am a Pariah: My Horror Story [44]

Even southern baptists are not all the same

I already said they are not the all the same. But there are some weird breeds of them, and around here is one of the places.

Believe me, I have tried to think of everything in existence that could possibly rub people the wrong way.

Polkatagalong,Southern baptists are bigoted towards Poles?

Uuum yes. Maybe not every single one, but I've had countless people target my ethnicity in a semi-derogatory way. Some don't even have any idea that white ethnicities exist outside of Irish and Pilgrims. They think you're un-American if you're not just like them. This part def is not an exaggeration.

For example, I've been called a ditz, a white geisha, had one guy as me if I'm Polish and laugh (this was in history class) and had to deal with people whispering right in front of me, "She's a chuck", "I know."

Who knows, maybe they weren't talking about me, but they would look over at me and laugh.

They probably were calling me chuck because I have a jewish sounding last name (but is not really jewish). So they are probably not targeting my polish ancestry in particular, but they get the idea that I'm not all waspy like them and I'm treated as an outsider that gets demeaned and humiliated.
PolkaTagAlong   
22 Aug 2012
Off-Topic / I am a Pariah: My Horror Story [44]

I never run into any biggotry

Well you definitely haven't run into any southern baptists then haha jk.
PolkaTagAlong   
20 Aug 2012
USA, Canada / Where could I go in Pittsburgh that has a high population of Polish-Americans? [39]

Then there's the regentrification movement. If you can find a place being regentrified, you might find a lot of young, professional neighbors renting nearby.

That would be Polish hill, it's a nice deal for the money, good views and in a convenient location close to downtown, but there still aren't a lot of young people. It's a target for black people with a lot of kids who have a low income and retired folk. It's a dying neighborhood and some say it's going to grow, but I don't think it's going to any time soon, probably because it's a little too dumpy. South Side would be the second choice I think, but they have more of the people I'm trying to get away from here, bohemians and hipsters. I'm doubt Pittsburgh is going to work for me, but there are some things I really like about it and it has a nice feel.
PolkaTagAlong   
20 Aug 2012
USA, Canada / Where could I go in Pittsburgh that has a high population of Polish-Americans? [39]

Exactly, the job I am going to have experience in is pretty fast growing so if there is a big doctor's park in that suburb it could definitely be a possibility.

The important thing is that I can find friends that I really like and have things in common with. I want to be in a neighborhood with a lot of young professionals like myself, not college students, or retired people. Suburbia may not be a good idea, it could be lonely, but I feel that Pittsburgh is a little too small for me. A population of 500-700,000 would be best.
PolkaTagAlong   
20 Aug 2012
USA, Canada / Where could I go in Pittsburgh that has a high population of Polish-Americans? [39]

The south is very hot in the summer, depending on where you are.

Oh no, It's not near as hot here in the summer as it is in Chicago.

Pittsburg is cold in winter as well.

I could easily get used to Pittsburgh, it's only a zone colder than what I'm used to.

If I worked in a hospital or doctor's office, do you think I would have to commute into the city everyday? It all just depends on whether I could find a job that is close so I wouldn't be in traffic everyday.

If I worked for a few years, got a promotion, got married, then maybe someday I could live in one of the rich neighborhoods.
PolkaTagAlong   
20 Aug 2012
USA, Canada / Where could I go in Pittsburgh that has a high population of Polish-Americans? [39]

I heard there are a lot of Central Europeans in Central Europe. You might want to try that.

I mean people who are influenced by that ethnicity, not actual Central Europeans, I should be more clear.

Eeew Florida is a horrible place, I wouldn't even live down there for two weeks. There are a million Floridians moving up here from there. I like the high in the summer to not go above 80 lol. I can't adjust to the heat like I can to the cold. I don't like the Florida people (no offense) and they have too many insects. It's not my style there. I dated a guy from Florida and he was a dork.

Philedelphia is nice. I was there once. I could never live in the states though --so I am no help.

They call it filthydelphia.

All you need is a sh!t-load of money and you can be assured that you will not run into a black person for miles. Otherwise, you're might have to learn how to be gracious to the dirty masses like the rest of us. ;)

I doubt my salary as a medical records technician will pay for that haha. I'm just a quirky version of your average joe schmoe.

Mt.Prospect, IL about 15 miles NW of Chicago has a growing Polish Population.

That one actually looks promising, the problem with Chicago is that it's VERY cold in the winter and very HOT in the summer. I'm used to a very temperate climate.
PolkaTagAlong   
19 Aug 2012
USA, Canada / Where could I go in Pittsburgh that has a high population of Polish-Americans? [39]

If you know Chicago, what suburbs do you think would be good for me? My reservations are the following:

1. Is reasonably safe and a low crime rate
2. Has a 10-20% population of integrated Poles and recent immigrants
3. minorities don't take up more than 25% of the population
4. Has a diverse mix of Northern Europeans
5. at least 30-40% of the population is under 30
6. The people are friendly, and will not beat you up when they hear you're from the south.

Lol I know I want like an impossible place haha

It seems like you are running away in an attempt to find something that simply no longer exists.

I know my dad thinks it's ridiculous.
PolkaTagAlong   
19 Aug 2012
USA, Canada / Where could I go in Pittsburgh that has a high population of Polish-Americans? [39]

I don't have an elitist attitude. Have you ever tried living alongside blacks all the time? They look at you menacingly, they're loud, their pants are falling down ugh. Unless they're integrated and professional, it gets really old seeing that all the time. My sister went to a mostly black school when we were in the city and she was tortured. I just want to be happy, that's all. I don't choose to stick my head in the sand and avoid the truth.
PolkaTagAlong   
19 Aug 2012
USA, Canada / Where could I go in Pittsburgh that has a high population of Polish-Americans? [39]

I don't want to live in like a little Polonia necessarily, I wasn't raised catholic or with any kind of religion for that matter, so I'd probably stick out like a sore thumb. Ideally, I would like there to be some Poles (10-20%), some Germans, some English. I just want to be around a few of my type of people so that I feel familiar with someone. I don't need to live in an ethnic neighborhood. Chicago is really dangerous and hard to get around in.

Even though the old culture is mostly gone, there is still a population of Poles in Pittsburgh if what I'm gathering from wiki is right. 8% is pretty good, but the question is what percent are less than 30? It's a lot better than nothing. As long as there isn't a high black or jewish population (not more than 20%) along with that it's great.
PolkaTagAlong   
19 Aug 2012
USA, Canada / Where could I go in Pittsburgh that has a high population of Polish-Americans? [39]

Polkatagalong,Why Pittsburgh?

Because it's nice there, and it's a big enough city to feel connected with everything, but no so big there are all these crazy regulations and you feel trapped like in NY. It's also farther North so you're away from the rednecks, but not so far north that you have to deal with crazy yanks. I've heard a lot of people who like it there, it looks like my kind of place. They have a lot of Central Europeans I've heard.

I want to stay in the East and I don't want to go farther south, going far west or south are not options.
PolkaTagAlong   
19 Aug 2012
USA, Canada / Where could I go in Pittsburgh that has a high population of Polish-Americans? [39]

I know there is "Polish Hill" but I don't like the looks of that neighborhood very much, it looks kind of dead. I'm looking for more of a mix of mostly Germans and Poles and I need there to be a lot of people in their mid-twenties. At least 1/4 would be good. I need the people to be very normal and professional, I don't want to see punks and bohemians everywhere; that's what I'm trying to get away from. I care a lot more about the people than how good and convenient the neighborhood is, but I refuse to live in a dump.
PolkaTagAlong   
19 Aug 2012
USA, Canada / Chris Gets Dumped on the Bachelorette for Being Polish! [52]

I'm not talking about marriage, but I just won't tolerate a womanizer that goes out with multiple women at a time in a serious relationship. If you couldn't see yourself ever marrying the guy, what is he even worth anyway?

In response to Filios-

I knew what you meant, but why even get into a serious relationship with a guy that you know is going to be a loser in the end? They're going to ask for sex eventually and that's when they forget about you and move on to the next "new car" lol. I might "go out with him" a few times, but I wouldn't take it seriously.

I thought he was a sweet guy, not necessarily dumb, but I posted a bunch of comments on his page defending him from haters and talking about the show for a period of a few weeks and eventually he banned me from visiting his page. Why does he even have a fan page if he doesn't want crazy girls trying to jump on him? I thought he liked the attention, and that's why I was giving it to him. He liked a lot of my comments, so I don't understand what the deal is. If you open up a public page, LOOKING LIKE THAT you are GOING to get the CRAZY lol.
PolkaTagAlong   
18 Aug 2012
USA, Canada / Chris Gets Dumped on the Bachelorette for Being Polish! [52]

So you are one of those quirky types? ;) Mates seem always to look for someone they can dominate in one way or another. An intelligent woman can at least out-think a muscular yet dumb guy. Just like he will try to dominate her physically.

Lol I know that is true haha. Never play dumb for a guy or otherwise he really will think you are dumb and break off the relationship when he finally figures out he can't use you. I learned that the hard way haha.

I sure am but I'm not like really, really quirky. The best way I can describe it is a little bit eccentric, but I hide it well when the time is necessary. Yes, but you can manipulate him that way hehe.
PolkaTagAlong   
18 Aug 2012
Off-Topic / I am a Pariah: My Horror Story [44]

REALLY? No way, I guess they're more sensitized to it up there or something. Here it's like an unsaid kind of ostracism. They know something's different about you, but they don't really know what it is. If there is ANYTHING if at all the least bit off about your manner or the way you do things, you're almost certainly going to be an outcast. It may be different in the city of Asheville now, but I'm sure the people there are still more of the same in a different package.
PolkaTagAlong   
18 Aug 2012
Off-Topic / I am a Pariah: My Horror Story [44]

I was actually shocked that the other members didn't pick out my persona right away. I wanted to see how long it would take them.

New England is one of my favourite places in the world. Proper snow filled winters and hot summers. Chilled people, beautiful scenery, woods and beaches. Seafood to die for(and I am from as island) and not much diversity. Whats not to love?I am biased but I would heartily recommend it.

That's too far. I want a place that has some of the freedom of the south, but want to feel connected to almost everything. Pittsburgh is a place I am seriuosly considering, they even have a little mini Polish community with immigrants who came during my time, like the late 1800s. There is less limited freedom there than in New England, and the climate isn't bad. For a city they have a pretty low population of blacks.

I can also find certain sub-areas within Pittsburgh that are less overun by blacks, so it's not like I'm living right next to them all the time.
PolkaTagAlong   
18 Aug 2012
USA, Canada / Chris Gets Dumped on the Bachelorette for Being Polish! [52]

They were calling him stupid in this one blog for his strategy of hooking up with multiple women in the house. I like hot, dumb jocks. It's kind of funny, opposites attract, he seems to like quirky girls with a personality, a little bit eccentric.
PolkaTagAlong   
18 Aug 2012
Off-Topic / I am a Pariah: My Horror Story [44]

SF? Or the Northeast? I was thinking of moving somewhere in Maryland where there aren't too many blacks or possibly Chicago but the problem with Chicago is all the places where the Polish people are concentrated it is SOO dangerous. I am a really paranoid person and I couldn't stand having all these menacing looking blacks around all the time. They have really crazy drivers too. I like to feel safe.
PolkaTagAlong   
17 Aug 2012
Off-Topic / I am a Pariah: My Horror Story [44]

No, I've never been under the name of Amanda. What do you mean I've had other handles?

You think so, really and truly? Wow, that's quite a compliment, that made my day.
PolkaTagAlong   
17 Aug 2012
Off-Topic / I am a Pariah: My Horror Story [44]

Lol that's not what I said. I admit I was exagerrating a little. Girls hate a cute blonde is what I meant and that only worsens my situation. I don't think I'm intelligent, but I'm imaginative. I definitely didn't say I was known for being funny or culturally superior. You are misinterpreting what I said. My whole situation has almost nothing to do with me, it just has to do with the fact that I'm not of a southern baptist background and my family has no connections to the people around here.
PolkaTagAlong   
17 Aug 2012
Off-Topic / I am a Pariah: My Horror Story [44]

Yes,the southern baptists around here are a whole different strange breed. Although they're probably like this to an extent most places, I think this is like a freak situation. I've met southern baptists in Dallas, and they're just like normal people, I would never have guessed they were baptists. The famous writer, Thomas Wolfe wrote about how horrible the Asheville people are in his book, "Look Homeward Angel" which was banned when it first came out. They actually still kind of have a hostility towards it.

Polka - you need to move.

I know. I need to find someone who can help me figure out a good place. I'm going to have to save up my money and live like a spartan so that I'll have money to travel with.

Americans always have a problem wherever they go.

This is true I'll give you that.

dont dwell on the past.

Clearly you don't get how it is to be a pariah.