Love / Are women from Poland scared of good looking guys? [48]


+1.

Also, didn't the delightful Sven come onto this forum a few weeks back and make some comment about how he thought Polish women were ugly? I seem to remember something about mis-shapen noses and five very overweight women in a lift.

I guess Polish women have somehow managed to resist Sven's flattery, money, and Eurotrash lifestyle. I wonder why?

News / Poland's Organized Crime [58]

We have plenty of organised crime in the UK. It's one of the things we excel at :-).

In most cities there are gangs, which are built up around the distribution and sale of drugs. Plus we have ones for people smuggling, prostitution and child abuse. Some of these are run by immigrants (Jamaicans, Tamils, Albanians and Pakistanis). But Poles are not a big part of it, they are mostly law-abiding.

News / Poland's Organized Crime [58]

People are quick to condemn organised crime. But in fact it is far preferable to the disorganised variety...

News / Closet homosexual politicians in Poland [83]


Normally, yes, but I'm sure Aga could convert even the gayest of all gays...

News / Closet homosexual politicians in Poland [83]

@roger5, it's an aerial, for picking up signals of some kind.

BTW I'm amazed Poland has any gay male politicians, as it also has one of the hottest female MPs from any country: Agnieszka Pomaska. She could surely convert anyone :-)

News / Closet homosexual politicians in Poland [83]


There are many things I could say against Ant and Dec, but being gay isn't one of them. But I can see how someone might think they were in the closet - before Ant married they shared a house, and even now they live just a few doors apart.

BTW, didn't a Polish politician, Ewa Sowinska, once announce a 'probe' (nudge, nudge!) into Tellytubby character Tinky Winky, whose colourful appearance and penchant for handbags she thought could indicate homosexuality? Maybe she should have been looking across the Cabinet table instead...

Love / Age difference in relationship with a guy or girl from Poland? [28]


I agree with this. If there's a small age difference I don't think it matters who is older. But if the difference is large, I think people are surprised if the man is younger. If I saw a man of 50 with a woman of 32 I would not think badly of either, unless the man had a lot of money and the woman did not. But if the woman was 50 and the man was 32 I would wonder whether he wanted a mother figure rather than an equal partner.

The reason may be that we expect women to mature faster than men. So a 32 year-old woman could be the equal of a 50 year-old man. But it is hard to believe that there could be equal maturity in a 32 year-old man and a 50 year-old woman.

Love / Polish girls are outstanding in terms of their moral conducts as compared to western girls. [29]

I certainly think the Polish women I've met have been caring, and I think it may be due to the Catholic culture, even if they're not particularly religious. As for being humble, I guess it depends what you mean. The Polish women I've met have not been arrogant, but they've had self respect, which is a good thing IMO.

Love / Age difference in relationship with a guy or girl from Poland? [28]

I think this is true, so it's more common for the man to be older than the woman. But I think age is just a number, it's about people's shared values and interests. I don't think age matters at all as long as love is true and strong.

Love / Too late for a serious relationship? or not - I'm 39 and looking for someone Polish [27]


As Turbulencja says, your attitudes are rather old-fashioned and sexist. Why assume that women marry for materialistic reasons? Or that single moms are that way because their former partners were 'scared away'? It could equally be that the men behaved badly toward their wives/partners and that they decided to end it, being independent and not needing men for money (the opposite of your assumptions).

IMO Polish women value education and careers and above all, their independence. While not all call themselves feminists, they are more feminist than a lot of nationalities.

Love / Woman 23, man 47 years old. What do you think about ? [162]

I agree with this. I'm in my 40s and would rather date a younger woman, not because I'm superficial but because I'd like to have children and I know it's a lot easier when a woman is in her 20s or early/mid 30s. Maybe men and women mature at different speeds too, so we have more in common with each other when there's a difference in age.

Life / Why are Polish so conservative and religious? [240]

Are they unhappy because you're dating a lot of men, because they're British, or because they're customers in a strip club?

IMO the type of men who spend a lot of time in such places are not great at respecting women, so I could understand if your family had reservations for that reason.

UK, Ireland / Polish Migration to the UK - A moderate speaks! [41]


Please don't let the OP put you off; I'm sure you'd be very welcome in Bognor, and would enhance the place considerably.

I disagree with what he wrote, if Bognor is a toilet (and it is!) it was that way long before Polish people arrived in any numbers, largely because it is inhabited by a combination of poor pensioners and British chavs. It's like taking a trip back into Britain in the 1980s, but with in-breeding. Widening the gene pool by encouraging Polish and other migrants to settle there is the only chance of improving it.

UK, Ireland / London Strip Clubs? What's it like for women working there? [74]


I accept that a situation in which men pay women to dance suggestively for them is not necessarily exploitative of the women, in fact it's more likely to exploit the men. However, the problem is that the clubs and the people who run them are so shady. Often there is pressure to perform 'other services' after hours, for favoured customers. There may also be drugs, to keep the girls compliant, arguments over payments, violence, or at least threats.

Life / Is it common for Polish people to speak English in Poland? [122]

I don't think Polish people speak English in Poland, except when talking to people from English-speaking nations (we're too lazy to learn Polish) or working for multi-national companies where everyone speaks English for convenience. In British TV dramas and American films, all foreigners speak English with heavy accents among themselves, but we know it's not like that in real life...

UK, Ireland / London Strip Clubs? What's it like for women working there? [74]

@ KochanaPatrycja, yes, women choose to become strippers. But sometimes people choose the least bad option available to them, which doesn't take away from the fact it's a bad option.

How can it be a nice job for a woman to be leered at by drunken men who get off on making women gyrate in front of them, simulating sex, half naked, and who show off and persuade themselves they are not sad losers by stuffing money into the girls' underwear to make them do private dances?

And how do the women feel when they go home? Empowered? Like a female barrister, doctor or pilot? Or dirty and exploited? Having to pretend to enjoy pleasing those foul men is a way to support themselves and perhaps their children, but I don't think it's a happy way to make a living. Plus it's an industry that attracts sleazy men, who bully the women, put them on drugs, try to get them into prostitution etc. Horrible.

UK, Ireland / London Strip Clubs? What's it like for women working there? [74]

It's a horrible life. You're worth more than that.

Love / Polish girls don't go for one night stands, is it true? [56]

I think it's unfair to have a double standard for men and women. Also, it's illogical: if men can have one night stands and women can't, who will the men have sex with, unless you're suggesting they should go gay...

That said, I think one night stands are negative for both men and women. IMO sex should be about love, not just love. So I would rather see there be a stigma against men doing it, rather than it becoming more accepted for women.

UK, Ireland / English present to take to Poland? My nephew is getting married. [3]

Are Pevsner's books available in Polish? I'd say they're the definitive guides to British architecture.

Love / English girl. Do Polish men afraid to show their feelings or they are just not comfortable in UK? [84]

Men can have medical or psychological problems that affect their sex drive, so it isn't a automatically the case that they're not attracted to their partners. Your man's 20 previous women in the past year would suggest he has no physical problem. So that just leaves psychological/emotional issues or him not being that into you. To find out whether it's the first I think you need to talk to him. But from what you say, it doesn't sound too good.

Travel / Want to know Hotel with Escort services in Poland [21]

@ McDouche, I didn't suggest that women have to be attractive to succeed in politics. On the contrary, I was expressing surprise at the beauty of one particular Polish politician, because most people in that line of work are not that attractive.

@McDouche and Wulkan, sorry but I do think that men who use prostitutes are sleazy. Yes, they may be Ukrainian, but that doesn't make it any better. Plus, such men may cause offence to local women staying in such hotels by propositioning them in error.

Travel / Want to know Hotel with Escort services in Poland [21]

How sleazy is this? OP, show some respect for Polish women and learn some self control.

Love / Filipino guy with a Polish girl.. [60]

Filipinos are mainly Catholics, culturally even if they're not observant, so have a lot in common with Poles. One factor for women to consider is that Filipino men are almost all circumcised, which is rare in Poland.

UK, Ireland / Calling all Brits! Travel in England advice [32]

I think the best places to go to depend on whether you're planning to do everything by train or whether you're willing either to hire a car when you're here or bring your own across. Sadly our train services aren't great in the countryside, so having the use of a car would be great if your preferences are rural.

My own favourite places in the UK, other than London, are:

The Lake District (about to become a UNESCO world heritage site, but you'll definitely need a car)
The Peak District (car also needed for this)
Bath (a city, so accessible by train from London)
Brighton (likewise, though the nearby South Downs are also attractive, and demand a car)
Edinburgh (capital of Scotland - a train journey or short flight from London)
The Northumbria Coast (again, car needed)
South Devon, especially the South Hams (Salcombe, Kingswear, Totnes and nearby)(might just be possible by train and bus, but a car would make life easier)

And yes, calling us Brits is fine :-)

Love / Rejected - Rafal thought I was ugly? [85]

Uglywoman, this man is a drunkard, homeless, with a criminal record. I don't know whether you drink or have a criminal record, but you've admitted stabbing a man and taking something from a shop without paying for it (you say it was OK because they sold you the wrong product originally, but that wouldn't wash in a Court of Law).

There's a saying here in the UK that birds of a feather flock together. It means that similar people attract each other. I'd suggest forgetting about Rafal, ensuring you don't break the law, and hanging around in places other than homeless shelters and soup kitchens where losers hang out. You're a pretty girl, and aside from the criminal activity you come across as nice. You could do a lot better for yourself :-).

Love / Rejected - Rafal thought I was ugly? [85]

@ uglywoman, have you tried contacting Sankarin yet? He's 23, so only slightly younger than you, he's in London and he's from Brazil. He'll expect to kiss in a first date. As long as you're OK with that, and leave the knife at home, the two of you should have a great time :-)

Love / Rejected - Rafal thought I was ugly? [85]

@ uglywoman, you should team up with Sankarin. Just give us a chance first to warn him to keep you away from sharp objects...

Love / Why are Polish girls so confusing? [30]

I think when a course of behaviour is shared by most or all people in a country, and it is passed down through families, it is a custom. If the people of a particular country tend on average to share certain characteristics but there's quite a bit of variation and it is never recognised as a shared tradition, it is not a custom. It would not surprise me if, on average, Polish women are less likely than some others to kiss on a date. But IMO it isn't a custom because there is no shared agreement among the girls and women of Poland along the lines of 'We never kiss on a first date'.

Paulina's comment that dating and getting to know a girl is like foreplay is a good one. Maybe Polish women like a lot of foreplay :-)? If that's the case then any wise man will desire them even more, since we all know that the intense love that comes from unhurried courtship, and the arousal that results from lengthy foreplay, result in a relationship that will post and the test of time - and fantastic sex :-)

Love / Why are Polish girls so confusing? [30]

Thanks for your kind comments Paulina :-). I think we see the OP's situation in very similar ways. Sankarin, I think Paulina's advice is very good - if you want to know about dating Polish women, you can't get better advice than a Polish woman's :-).

Overall, I think you risked coming across as a player. Polish women may on average be looking for more time, respect and exclusivity before they want to kiss you, or be kissed by you. I suspect you rushed things with the girl you went out with, and she recoiled.

If you really care about her and want to see her again, I'd try meeting her somewhere public, in daytime, without romantic connotations, I'd apologise, perhaps put it down to cultural differences, tell her how you feel about her, ask how she feels about you, then explore how she feels about giving you a second chance. But of course if you're with someone else, or you just want someone to kiss (or have sex with) then you must tell her that, and not lead her into thinking this is true love if it isn't. Respect her, level with her, and listen to her :-)