A J
26 Jun 2010
Love / Love without chemistry? (Asian in love with a Polish woman) [195]
Oh well, that's two things we have in common then.
;P
I can't stop:)
Oh well, that's two things we have in common then.
;P
A J
26 Jun 2010
Love / Love without chemistry? (Asian in love with a Polish woman) [195]
I know this will go down as another lame comment, but I can almost picture a flat girl..
xD
Obese with something else to offer. Trade.
I know this will go down as another lame comment, but I can almost picture a flat girl..
xD
A J
26 Jun 2010
Love / Love without chemistry? (Asian in love with a Polish woman) [195]
Depends on the culture, I guess.. Did you know that Sumo-wrestlers have a God-like status, and virtually can get any girl they want? Did you know that one of my best friends is fat, but has a beautiful girl? (Some girls actually like Teddies!) Oh, and most fat girls here are very single, sorry!
;)
Hm, how do you explain that a fat guy can just about forget his chances with women while fat women nearly always find a guy?
Depends on the culture, I guess.. Did you know that Sumo-wrestlers have a God-like status, and virtually can get any girl they want? Did you know that one of my best friends is fat, but has a beautiful girl? (Some girls actually like Teddies!) Oh, and most fat girls here are very single, sorry!
;)
A J
26 Jun 2010
Love / Love without chemistry? (Asian in love with a Polish woman) [195]
Oh really? Well, I should probably tell you that you've made yourself perfectly clear, painfully clear even, and that I'm merely trying to make sense to you about what a relationship should be about.
To a certain extent? I mean, who would you prefer; A skinny guy who's a bit shorter than you are, or a stronger guy who's a bit taller than you are? (Not necessarily talking about any handsome features here!)
I believe you, but ofcourse the wow-factor always helps.
;)
It looks like my issue is not clear to you guys yet.
Oh really? Well, I should probably tell you that you've made yourself perfectly clear, painfully clear even, and that I'm merely trying to make sense to you about what a relationship should be about.
Very few women fall in love with looks.
To a certain extent? I mean, who would you prefer; A skinny guy who's a bit shorter than you are, or a stronger guy who's a bit taller than you are? (Not necessarily talking about any handsome features here!)
You have to believe me when I tell you that the sexiest characteristics in a man is his confidence and a sense of humor.
I believe you, but ofcourse the wow-factor always helps.
;)
A J
25 Jun 2010
Love / Love without chemistry? (Asian in love with a Polish woman) [195]
I think most of us know that, don't worry.
Ofcourse different people have different reasons and ideas, but for me a relationship without feelings isn't exactly what I would call a relationship. I would call that convenience or simply a one night stand. (Which can actually be very nice and passionate sometimes if you find the right person!)
Sure, but it certainly helps when both partners are perfectly honest about their priorities from the start, so you don't have to find out that you really don't belong to eachother later on in life. Whatever floats your boat!
;)
Perfection is unrealistic in relationship.
I think most of us know that, don't worry.
Some element would have to be priority. Nothing wrong with whether it's stability, security, sex, chemistry, reputation, money,...
Ofcourse different people have different reasons and ideas, but for me a relationship without feelings isn't exactly what I would call a relationship. I would call that convenience or simply a one night stand. (Which can actually be very nice and passionate sometimes if you find the right person!)
Every individual has his/her own priority, right?
Sure, but it certainly helps when both partners are perfectly honest about their priorities from the start, so you don't have to find out that you really don't belong to eachother later on in life. Whatever floats your boat!
;)
A J
25 Jun 2010
Love / Polish men what is the worst thing a girl can do upon first impression? [360]
Maybe I did, but maybe I was looking for a conversation to see what you think since you didn't elaborate.
;)
Makes perfect sense.
You don't really have to, just the word dork explains everything.
Hey, you're still young, so you shouldn't have to worry about being single too much, because you really are a pretty young lady, and you do have a great sense of values, so you're absolutely worth the trouble.
;)
Well no you didn't take in to account my whole post.
Maybe I did, but maybe I was looking for a conversation to see what you think since you didn't elaborate.
;)
I like the man to take on the conversation most of the time but I want him to like my conversations as well.
Makes perfect sense.
But there are bad kinds of dominant man. There are ones who act like a dork and are thick headed and dumb (I've come across those). I don't really know how else to describe it though.
You don't really have to, just the word dork explains everything.
I am very picky about a guys personality and what he thinks, maybe that is why I am still single.
Hey, you're still young, so you shouldn't have to worry about being single too much, because you really are a pretty young lady, and you do have a great sense of values, so you're absolutely worth the trouble.
;)
A J
25 Jun 2010
Love / Polish men what is the worst thing a girl can do upon first impression? [360]
I'd agree, but only for those activities most women can't because of their physique, although some women probably could! (I've had female colleagues in the army, and I've seen some kick-ass troopers among them.)
Sure, but it also takes a man to volunteer for those kind of jobs.
;)
That would depend on which Feminists we're talking about, since they're all different individuals. I do partially agree with you though, because ofcourse there are women who seem to want all the pleasure, but none of the pain. (But the same things can be said about some men up in the office!)
Too late, I've already made a homerun. (Damn I'm fast!)
;P
Some activities however, are manly.
I'd agree, but only for those activities most women can't because of their physique, although some women probably could! (I've had female colleagues in the army, and I've seen some kick-ass troopers among them.)
I won't name the dozens that qualify but let's take Hazmat diver for instance, those guys swim into clouds of toxic waste, or oil rig worker.
Sure, but it also takes a man to volunteer for those kind of jobs.
;)
Not too many "equal rights" feminists are lining up for those jobs, eh?
That would depend on which Feminists we're talking about, since they're all different individuals. I do partially agree with you though, because ofcourse there are women who seem to want all the pleasure, but none of the pain. (But the same things can be said about some men up in the office!)
Strike Three! You're out!
Too late, I've already made a homerun. (Damn I'm fast!)
;P
A J
25 Jun 2010
Love / Polish men what is the worst thing a girl can do upon first impression? [360]
Cooking doesn't have anything to do with being woman-like either, and ofcourse the same goes for every other activity. Do you remember the days when dancing was for sissies? Ballet for homo's? Cooking wasn't for men? Cleaning was something your wife did? Well, those days are gone..
I probably meant something else. I meant behaviour. Something like: ''Ouch, I broke a nail, I'm going to make an appointment for a manicure.'' Or: ''I'm not going to do that work, because it's too heavy and my hands will get dirty.'' (Sissies!)
;P
I totally f*cking love blondes, but brunettes also drive me wild, and red hair? Red hair is totally wow in my books. I prefer real women to plastic ones though!
;)
Ordering pizza every day (like a lot of college kids do) doesn't have anything to do with being woman-like.
Cooking doesn't have anything to do with being woman-like either, and ofcourse the same goes for every other activity. Do you remember the days when dancing was for sissies? Ballet for homo's? Cooking wasn't for men? Cleaning was something your wife did? Well, those days are gone..
Again, the two are not necessarily related. Lots of 'sissies" as you call them, know how to take care of themselves. Lots of so-called macho men can be slobs
I probably meant something else. I meant behaviour. Something like: ''Ouch, I broke a nail, I'm going to make an appointment for a manicure.'' Or: ''I'm not going to do that work, because it's too heavy and my hands will get dirty.'' (Sissies!)
;P
Blond or brunette? ....maybe a redhead? ...but of course you are correct. What kind of relationship can it be if one party has to do everything?
I totally f*cking love blondes, but brunettes also drive me wild, and red hair? Red hair is totally wow in my books. I prefer real women to plastic ones though!
;)
A J
25 Jun 2010
Love / Love without chemistry? (Asian in love with a Polish woman) [195]
Thank you. (Ouch!)
Or she has a sense of humour you don't seem to get..
;)
Because men are cheating lying b*stards who need castrating? :D
Thank you. (Ouch!)
Thats what i was thinking, I think ShelleyS has just had bad experiences with her boyfriends/partners.
Or she has a sense of humour you don't seem to get..
;)
A J
25 Jun 2010
Love / Love without chemistry? (Asian in love with a Polish woman) [195]
Some women actually fall for personality and substance.
;)
Sure, but didn't you just tell everyone you wanted to stay with a woman who doesn't feel that much for you? (No offense!)
If that's what makes you happy, then there's nothing wrong with that.
:)
How about sex? How about "physical attractiveness" and "physical chemistry" Do you mean I can only buy her heart with these, not money?
Some women actually fall for personality and substance.
;)
Security should be understood NOT ONLY as money. It's stability of care, of love, of sharing and understanding, of RESPONSIBILITY and even sacrifice of your own need and priority for the others (including kids, not ONLY your sex partner), not ONLY satisfaction.
Sure, but didn't you just tell everyone you wanted to stay with a woman who doesn't feel that much for you? (No offense!)
And what exactly is wrong with SATISFACTION alone?
If that's what makes you happy, then there's nothing wrong with that.
:)
A J
25 Jun 2010
Love / Love without chemistry? (Asian in love with a Polish woman) [195]
I'd rather be lonely than to be one of them, because I actually know you can't ever buy a woman's heart.
;)
*blinks a few times and pinches himself*
For what it's worth, you have my respect.
:)
I could never understand (and will never ever understand) why women marry men ONLY for security. Many women find their partners totally repulsive, but still stay with them because they want a nice house, car, position in society.
I'd rather be lonely than to be one of them, because I actually know you can't ever buy a woman's heart.
;)
Give me a man that I fancy like hell, one that when I look at him I just want to devour every minute of every day and where I can't get enough of him - and I really don't give a damn about a nice house, car, society - at least I will ALWAYS find him attractive and want to be with him.
*blinks a few times and pinches himself*
Unlike the ones that married for security - that 'security' will one day make you feel repulsive with yourself, how low can a woman get?.
But then again, I never needed a man to depend on - I can earn my own living, thank you.
But then again, I never needed a man to depend on - I can earn my own living, thank you.
For what it's worth, you have my respect.
:)
A J
25 Jun 2010
Love / Polish men what is the worst thing a girl can do upon first impression? [360]
I hope he says yes.
;P
*heartbroken*
You don't know much about Dutch identity and tradition, do you?
Smart man.
A man isn't effeminate if he's self-reliant. I mean, when you're single and on your own, are you going to ask your mom to do your dishes? Are you going to order a Pizza every day? Are you going to get lost in your own mess?
Sure, but I think we're talking about total sissies here, and not about guys who can take care of themselves.
That's perfectly understandable from a girl's perspective, but don't you think the girls could show some initiative aswell sometimes? I mean, I might aswell marry a blow-up doll if she always expects me to come up with everything?
;)
MG, will you marry me?
I hope he says yes.
;P
*heartbroken*
Zimmy you don't seem to take dutch identity and tradition into account.
You don't know much about Dutch identity and tradition, do you?
Oh no you don't; I'm not going there.
Smart man.
If some men wish to be effeminate than it's their decision and none of my business.
A man isn't effeminate if he's self-reliant. I mean, when you're single and on your own, are you going to ask your mom to do your dishes? Are you going to order a Pizza every day? Are you going to get lost in your own mess?
Just to tie this in with the topic at hand, I'm sure that's something that turns off most women at first impression.
Sure, but I think we're talking about total sissies here, and not about guys who can take care of themselves.
You're right about that! Nothing more I can't stand than a guy who is afraid to take charge.
That's perfectly understandable from a girl's perspective, but don't you think the girls could show some initiative aswell sometimes? I mean, I might aswell marry a blow-up doll if she always expects me to come up with everything?
;)
A J
24 Jun 2010
Love / Love without chemistry? (Asian in love with a Polish woman) [195]
If there's only physical attraction between the two of you, and no chemistry at all, then you should either treat her like a friend, or vieuw your relationship with here as a sexual relationship. I don't think a long-term relationship will end well, but then again you never know what might grow between the both of you. (I doubt it though!)
:)
Could this turn into a long term relationship?
If there's only physical attraction between the two of you, and no chemistry at all, then you should either treat her like a friend, or vieuw your relationship with here as a sexual relationship. I don't think a long-term relationship will end well, but then again you never know what might grow between the both of you. (I doubt it though!)
:)
A J
24 Jun 2010
UK, Ireland / Are Polish people importing a new wave of ancient racism into the UK? [402]
I've met hundreds of Polish people, and I can honestly say that only a handful were really racist.
:)
That's reality for you!
I've met hundreds of Polish people, and I can honestly say that only a handful were really racist.
:)
That's reality for you!
A J
24 Jun 2010
Love / Why do Polish women prefer foreigners for boyfriends and husbands? [418]
Hey, you're a foreigner, and since you're blonde and have blue eyes you could be partly Germanic too!
;P
I've learned my lesson the hard way...try to stay away from most foreigners.
Hey, you're a foreigner, and since you're blonde and have blue eyes you could be partly Germanic too!
;P
A J
23 Jun 2010
Love / Polish men what is the worst thing a girl can do upon first impression? [360]
Not exactly in those words, no. But my observation still stands: I see him use overexaggarations more often than not, while infact, we're talking about less than 1% of the total population. He often uses a condescending and belittling tone whenever he's discussing something with women.
He certainly raises a valid point every now and then, but then again you'd do well to remember that the opposite can also be said, because there are also a lot of men who treat women like a plaything. Some women seem to like it that way, but still.. You can't change how women think, and how they feel, and you don't have to, because all those little differences are exactly what make our lives interesting. I mean to say that both men and women compliment eachother, because of those differences.
I've been bitten all my life, but I still see a few girls and women smile every now and then. I just mean to say that a little more objectivity wouldn't hurt Zimmy at all. If you're really going to be honest then you'd acknowledge that men and women aren't so much different from eachother, but that our society and its social structure usually forces them into accepting a certain role. If you'd ask me, it's time for a new director, and a perhaps a better script, because this one seems played?
;)
A-J (Knows there are two sides to every story.)
I don't think he's really stated it that way.
Not exactly in those words, no. But my observation still stands: I see him use overexaggarations more often than not, while infact, we're talking about less than 1% of the total population. He often uses a condescending and belittling tone whenever he's discussing something with women.
He's called out a lot of hypocrisy that often exists with Western women nowadays.
He certainly raises a valid point every now and then, but then again you'd do well to remember that the opposite can also be said, because there are also a lot of men who treat women like a plaything. Some women seem to like it that way, but still.. You can't change how women think, and how they feel, and you don't have to, because all those little differences are exactly what make our lives interesting. I mean to say that both men and women compliment eachother, because of those differences.
Congrats if you have't been "bitten" but some of us have.
I've been bitten all my life, but I still see a few girls and women smile every now and then. I just mean to say that a little more objectivity wouldn't hurt Zimmy at all. If you're really going to be honest then you'd acknowledge that men and women aren't so much different from eachother, but that our society and its social structure usually forces them into accepting a certain role. If you'd ask me, it's time for a new director, and a perhaps a better script, because this one seems played?
;)
A-J (Knows there are two sides to every story.)
A J
23 Jun 2010
Love / Polish men what is the worst thing a girl can do upon first impression? [360]
Instead of posting a link, you could just answer a simple question with a simple answer, because it seems my estimated guess wasn't too far off? (Besides, you can't expect me to read all those articles.)
;)
No? Well, my point is that there aren't many women who hit men, unless the men have been a total *******. There are only a few women who need anger management, and the same goes for men. Most people treat their partners with respect.
If she feels the need to use your weaknesses against you, then you're obviously doing something wrong.
When you're discussing something in real life, are you going to link everything? Again, I'm scrolling up and down, and I read posts. You can't expect me to read everything people link, because that would keep me reading 24/7. It's better when you write down what you know.
But in this case, I've read a little, and this is what I've found;
Okay, so we have 772.000 cases of child abuse out of a population of 309,567,991. In 56% of those cases the women were the perpetrators, according to this article. Which means that roughly 432.320 children were abused by women, which means that roughly 0.7% of the women out there abuse their children.
So that's why I disagree with terms like ''many women''. You make it sound as if women are monstrous sometimes.
*sigh*
If you had looked at my links you wouldn't ask that question. I'll make it easy for you; heres one;
Instead of posting a link, you could just answer a simple question with a simple answer, because it seems my estimated guess wasn't too far off? (Besides, you can't expect me to read all those articles.)
;)
That's not even the point. Many women hit men and know the men in their life won't strike back.
No? Well, my point is that there aren't many women who hit men, unless the men have been a total *******. There are only a few women who need anger management, and the same goes for men. Most people treat their partners with respect.
Relationships are 'dynamic'. People know each other and each others weaknesses. They use them against each other regardless of size.
If she feels the need to use your weaknesses against you, then you're obviously doing something wrong.
I've linked that one too (sigh). I suggest you brush up before asking questions that have already been recently answered in these threads.
When you're discussing something in real life, are you going to link everything? Again, I'm scrolling up and down, and I read posts. You can't expect me to read everything people link, because that would keep me reading 24/7. It's better when you write down what you know.
But in this case, I've read a little, and this is what I've found;
According to the National Child Abuse and Neglect Data System's most current report, Child Maltreatment 2008, of the approximately 772,000 child abuse and neglect victims in 2008, the largest percentage of perpetrators, nearly 80 percent (80.1) were parents of the victim, including birth parents, adoptive parents, and stepparents. Of the parents who were perpetrators, more than 90 percent (90.9) were biological parents, about 4 percent (4.4) were stepparents, and about 1 percent (0.7) were adoptive parents. Other relatives accounted for an additional 6.5 percent, and an unmarried partner of a parent accounted for 4.4 percent of perpetrators.
Okay, so we have 772.000 cases of child abuse out of a population of 309,567,991. In 56% of those cases the women were the perpetrators, according to this article. Which means that roughly 432.320 children were abused by women, which means that roughly 0.7% of the women out there abuse their children.
So that's why I disagree with terms like ''many women''. You make it sound as if women are monstrous sometimes.
See above link.
*sigh*
A J
22 Jun 2010
Travel / Why do people say that Poland is so unsafe? [60]
Maybe. I don't hear it very often though..
I think most of us know it's actually safer there. ;)
It's anti-Polish propaganda.
Maybe. I don't hear it very often though..
I think dumb westerners assume the "east" is automatically less safe.
I think most of us know it's actually safer there. ;)
A J
22 Jun 2010
Law / Advice please - Getting monies from a Poland employer who refuses to pay [41]
I wouldn't ever beg for what's rightfully mine. I would take the matter to court as soon as possible. I wouldn't even wait. When I don't pay people right on time, they do the same to me, right?
:)
you know, people suck... you work for somebody, and then you have to beg them to pay you for your hard work...
I wouldn't ever beg for what's rightfully mine. I would take the matter to court as soon as possible. I wouldn't even wait. When I don't pay people right on time, they do the same to me, right?
:)
A J
22 Jun 2010
Love / Polish men what is the worst thing a girl can do upon first impression? [360]
How many men have been abused by a woman, Zimmy? I know some women play head games when they're mad at you, but physical abuse? I'm not going to deny that it happens, but seriously, in most cases, a woman can't take on a man. (No offense!) So how many women abuse their partners, Zimmy? How many women abuse their children?
2%?? 3%?? Maybe??
;)
Just saying!
I suppose that the "if it's even true" comment is typical because people have been fed all the feminist nonsense about women being "victims" only and men of course being the perpetrators.
How many men have been abused by a woman, Zimmy? I know some women play head games when they're mad at you, but physical abuse? I'm not going to deny that it happens, but seriously, in most cases, a woman can't take on a man. (No offense!) So how many women abuse their partners, Zimmy? How many women abuse their children?
2%?? 3%?? Maybe??
;)
Just saying!
A J
22 Jun 2010
Travel / Why do people say that Poland is so unsafe? [60]
I think Poland is as dangerous as a four year old who claims to know Karate. (In other words, it's not so bad there.)
:)
I think Poland is as dangerous as a four year old who claims to know Karate. (In other words, it's not so bad there.)
:)
A J
22 Jun 2010
Love / Polish men what is the worst thing a girl can do upon first impression? [360]
I just quit my job. Now hurry up before I'm homeless!
xD
you guys complain that women want only money from you and they date you only when you have lots of it... in this case, why don't you all quit your jobs and stay at home... and the girls will date you for all the right reasons....
I just quit my job. Now hurry up before I'm homeless!
xD
A J
20 Jun 2010
Love / Polish men what is the worst thing a girl can do upon first impression? [360]
You're right, but I guess I was looking for an argument.
;)
I think a public debate achieves more than protesting outside? They don't like organized and consistent pressure. I think most people do understand though, but maybe they lack the will, the means or even the courage to try?
Revolutions don't change much and very often go hand in hand with chaos and violence, and I don't think we want that, or even need that. Supporting a different influence within an already existing system usually does change things, because people are more willing to listen when they don't feel threatened. (Atleast that's my convinction.)
Well, I can't really tell if you're a blonde, can I?
;P
Of course, which is why i said "people lie" ... and i dont think i was trying to use that as an argument?
You're right, but I guess I was looking for an argument.
;)
I think this is because to begin with, without some sort demonstration or event, most people would carry on blindly unaware of the things going on around them, not understanding that a change is needed.
I think a public debate achieves more than protesting outside? They don't like organized and consistent pressure. I think most people do understand though, but maybe they lack the will, the means or even the courage to try?
(I cannot help but think of the film 'Raspberry Reich' when i hear the word revolution - "The Revolution is my boyfriend!")
Revolutions don't change much and very often go hand in hand with chaos and violence, and I don't think we want that, or even need that. Supporting a different influence within an already existing system usually does change things, because people are more willing to listen when they don't feel threatened. (Atleast that's my convinction.)
Well that i didn't notice, i hope that wont be attributed to my being a female ... oh ha ha.
Well, I can't really tell if you're a blonde, can I?
;P
A J
20 Jun 2010
Love / Polish men what is the worst thing a girl can do upon first impression? [360]
Women can do that too you know. When I see a lot of married guys I can't help but feeling sorry for them sometimes! I mean those guys who are constantly working in their gardens and fixing everything around the house whenever it's Summer, just because their wives want a remake of the whole house again. (I can think of better ways to spend holidays, really!) Or how about those girls who only date a guy because of all the things he has? Don't you think they see a guy as a useful tool? Okay, I just mean to say I pretty much agree with those sentiments, but then again the exact same behaviour could apply to a woman aswell, so I'd hardly call that an argument.
You don't actually have to prove that, because our generation already knows that.
;)
But ofcourse I don't mean to discourage you or anyone else, so by all means, go ahead and be all you can be. (I know I'm trying to do the same!)
I like you already.
Maybe I'm a bit naive, but I really think that common sense and simplicity may provide a solution to most of our problems. I mean, why do people always think about a revolution when you mention the word change a little too often?
Yup.
We already were moved dear, but let's just pretend Admin didn't move us? You certainly make sense and you're definitely contributing interesting reading material, so I really don't see why this little detour about feminism and meninism should get us into trouble?
;)
Obviously people can lie, but upon finding out the man i love see's me as nothing more than a useful tool i'd hope that i have enough self-respect to walk away
Women can do that too you know. When I see a lot of married guys I can't help but feeling sorry for them sometimes! I mean those guys who are constantly working in their gardens and fixing everything around the house whenever it's Summer, just because their wives want a remake of the whole house again. (I can think of better ways to spend holidays, really!) Or how about those girls who only date a guy because of all the things he has? Don't you think they see a guy as a useful tool? Okay, I just mean to say I pretty much agree with those sentiments, but then again the exact same behaviour could apply to a woman aswell, so I'd hardly call that an argument.
Rather than trying to reason with these kinds of people, it is surely more productive to ignore them and go out and do what it is we need to do, thus proving that women are in fact equal.
You don't actually have to prove that, because our generation already knows that.
;)
But ofcourse I don't mean to discourage you or anyone else, so by all means, go ahead and be all you can be. (I know I'm trying to do the same!)
(I have tattoo's, blue hair, 2 wonderful children before marriage, a partner that is not the father of my children, and a job that although home-based, often requires me to travel outside of the UK).
I like you already.
Change is needed almost everywhere, but that doesn't mean i have to agree with the tactics used.
Maybe I'm a bit naive, but I really think that common sense and simplicity may provide a solution to most of our problems. I mean, why do people always think about a revolution when you mention the word change a little too often?
I am an individual and i do not need a label to believe in myself as a worthy human being.
Yup.
I have a feeling we're going to be moved to the off-topic section ;o)
We already were moved dear, but let's just pretend Admin didn't move us? You certainly make sense and you're definitely contributing interesting reading material, so I really don't see why this little detour about feminism and meninism should get us into trouble?
;)
A J
20 Jun 2010
Love / Polish men what is the worst thing a girl can do upon first impression? [360]
I will start next year if I'm lucky with my next job, and I'm planning to do VWO in one year, maybe one and a half. I just hate the fact I had to waste so many years of my life working for sometimes less than someone on benefits would recieve. Hey, but atleast I can say I did it, right?
:)
A-J (Happy he actually has a supporter.)
Edit: Erm.. Polish men. Girls? Right. First impressions.
;P
I can get a little carried away sometimes, sorry!
Hope you get your chance in due time, AJ.
I will start next year if I'm lucky with my next job, and I'm planning to do VWO in one year, maybe one and a half. I just hate the fact I had to waste so many years of my life working for sometimes less than someone on benefits would recieve. Hey, but atleast I can say I did it, right?
:)
A-J (Happy he actually has a supporter.)
Edit: Erm.. Polish men. Girls? Right. First impressions.
;P
I can get a little carried away sometimes, sorry!
A J
20 Jun 2010
Love / Polish men what is the worst thing a girl can do upon first impression? [360]
So did we have equal opportunities? Look, I'm not jealous of you or anyone else, and you deserved the education, but so did I.
I know, but I'm not going to give up. (They wish!)
;)
I had a full score on the CITO.
So did we have equal opportunities? Look, I'm not jealous of you or anyone else, and you deserved the education, but so did I.
It's them right-wing parties whom you have to "thank" for this.
I know, but I'm not going to give up. (They wish!)
;)
A J
20 Jun 2010
Love / Polish men what is the worst thing a girl can do upon first impression? [360]
I know, so maybe now you understand why I tell the older generation it was easier for them?
They won't let you pay in terms these days.
550 points. (Max.)
:)
A-J (Hates injustice.)
Hm, in my time you'd pay a yearly contribution and so called book money.
I know, so maybe now you understand why I tell the older generation it was easier for them?
I can't remember what it was back in the days, but the Gymnasium I went to was pretty lenient towards parents who could not afford the money by letting them pay in terms.
They won't let you pay in terms these days.
All this based on your CITO test of course.
550 points. (Max.)
:)
A-J (Hates injustice.)
A J
20 Jun 2010
Love / Polish men what is the worst thing a girl can do upon first impression? [360]
Well, I was sent to the VBO, because they couldn't afford VWO for me, while my test scores were more than good enough. Now if you want to go to University, you'll need VWO, Gymnasium or Atheneum, correct? Now, why I say there's no such thing as equal opportunity: You actually have to pay VWO, Gymnasium or Atheneum out of your OWN pockets if you wish to undo your lack of qualifications later on in life, because the small grant you might recieve for VWO doesn't cover the costs at all. I could be getting (Maybe!) 150 € a month. VWO will cost you about 700-800 € a month, so even with a grant this means a lot of saving up when you're on minimum wage. (Keep in mind you'll have to pay your rent, clothing, insurances and groceries.) You're right about the scholarship for University though, but you'll have to get there first.
;)
A-J (Still not complaining, just knows he's right.)
In the US it may work like that, but in NL we have good facilities for ppl who cannot afford to study. My parents, for example, are not rich at all, yet I could go to university thanks to a scholarship from the govt.
Well, I was sent to the VBO, because they couldn't afford VWO for me, while my test scores were more than good enough. Now if you want to go to University, you'll need VWO, Gymnasium or Atheneum, correct? Now, why I say there's no such thing as equal opportunity: You actually have to pay VWO, Gymnasium or Atheneum out of your OWN pockets if you wish to undo your lack of qualifications later on in life, because the small grant you might recieve for VWO doesn't cover the costs at all. I could be getting (Maybe!) 150 € a month. VWO will cost you about 700-800 € a month, so even with a grant this means a lot of saving up when you're on minimum wage. (Keep in mind you'll have to pay your rent, clothing, insurances and groceries.) You're right about the scholarship for University though, but you'll have to get there first.
;)
A-J (Still not complaining, just knows he's right.)
A J
20 Jun 2010
Love / Polish men what is the worst thing a girl can do upon first impression? [360]
Ofcourse I do! This may sound funny to you; But I'm not actually complaining. All I want is for some people to acknowledge a few simple facts, instead of going on about how great and fair this system is. I don't want to start a revolution either, and I honestly don't care about who's in charge, because the next leader is going to play the exact same game and we all know it. I just want some people to acknowledge a few simple facts, instead of giving me fairytales about how one should earn his position, or even suggest I'm speaking about fictional things here, when I'm merely addressing the existing phenomenons. That's all.
;)
Unfortunately. (Atleast some guys are man enough to admit it.)
;)
You know that yourself.
Ofcourse I do! This may sound funny to you; But I'm not actually complaining. All I want is for some people to acknowledge a few simple facts, instead of going on about how great and fair this system is. I don't want to start a revolution either, and I honestly don't care about who's in charge, because the next leader is going to play the exact same game and we all know it. I just want some people to acknowledge a few simple facts, instead of giving me fairytales about how one should earn his position, or even suggest I'm speaking about fictional things here, when I'm merely addressing the existing phenomenons. That's all.
;)
There are no equal opportunities in this society.There are priviledges,heritage etc.
Unfortunately. (Atleast some guys are man enough to admit it.)
;)
A J
20 Jun 2010
Love / Polish men what is the worst thing a girl can do upon first impression? [360]
Just look at the elections?
I agree.
I know I'm boring, but let me repeat it again: If your parents can't afford college when you're younger, and if you can't afford college later on in life, simply because minimum wage has been kept low, unlike the rest of the salary scales, then you're not as free to pursuit your ambitions as you may think, regardless of how smart you are. I mean, it will take you much longer to come out of such a situation, even when you have the same capacity as someone else. Where's the equal opportunity in that scenario? You tell me.
Well, the educated ones are in charge are they not? I guess you need to adjust your theory about smart people?
I can honestly tell you that I'm not, and neither do I have any reason to be jealous.
No, I would change the whole damn system if I were in his position, so I could show what equality really means.
He's a megalomaniacal idiot, he has Mafia ties, he's anything BUT intelligent, and I would wipe the floor with guys like him if I had the chance. To me, guys like him symbolize everything that's wrong within our societies. (I mean, a Casanova grandpa who thinks 18 year old girls give a **** about how awesome he is, how sad is that for a leader who is supposed to be a role-model?) The bottom line is: For as long as we can see that the gap between wealth and poverty is still increasing, you can't honestly tell me that this system thrives on equality and equal opportunity.
:)
Have a nice day M-G.
We already have sth to deal with that. It's called socialism :)
Just look at the elections?
But what has this to do with equal opportunities? The point of feminism is simply that women who are just as intelligent or even smarter than some men, should get the same opportunity in work and in life.
I agree.
It has nothing to do with the fact that not so smart ppl (or ppl who didn't want to go to school or were too lazy to learn) don't get a fat job. Every man in society is free to pursuit his ambitions and if you don't then that is fine, but don't blame it on the system afterwards when you find out that you will have to live on the edge of minimality for the rest of your life.
I know I'm boring, but let me repeat it again: If your parents can't afford college when you're younger, and if you can't afford college later on in life, simply because minimum wage has been kept low, unlike the rest of the salary scales, then you're not as free to pursuit your ambitions as you may think, regardless of how smart you are. I mean, it will take you much longer to come out of such a situation, even when you have the same capacity as someone else. Where's the equal opportunity in that scenario? You tell me.
And war casualties are simply the product of the aforementioned simple patterns of thinking.
Well, the educated ones are in charge are they not? I guess you need to adjust your theory about smart people?
You're just jealous :)
I can honestly tell you that I'm not, and neither do I have any reason to be jealous.
I don't think you would complain if you were to be in his position.
No, I would change the whole damn system if I were in his position, so I could show what equality really means.
Don't forget he didn't get his position "just like that", eh?
He's a megalomaniacal idiot, he has Mafia ties, he's anything BUT intelligent, and I would wipe the floor with guys like him if I had the chance. To me, guys like him symbolize everything that's wrong within our societies. (I mean, a Casanova grandpa who thinks 18 year old girls give a **** about how awesome he is, how sad is that for a leader who is supposed to be a role-model?) The bottom line is: For as long as we can see that the gap between wealth and poverty is still increasing, you can't honestly tell me that this system thrives on equality and equal opportunity.
:)
Have a nice day M-G.