USA, Canada / My wife wants to return to Poland...but I want to stay in the US [155]

The woman in this marriage is 'changing the rules'. They married here, had the baby here, decided to live here. I almost hate to mention the following but maybe having a baby and going back to Poland was her plan from the start. Some women want a baby and therefore put in a minimal amount of time in their marriage investment. Sorry, but it happens.


Some women use men as sperm donors.

My question is: Josef, how were you treated by her prior to this announcement of hers?

USA, Canada / My wife wants to return to Poland...but I want to stay in the US [155]


Jozek, if you live in the Chicago area then you might want to hire attorney Jeffrey Leving; I'm sure you've seen his pro father ads. ....if it comes to that.

USA, Canada / My wife wants to return to Poland...but I want to stay in the US [155]


True, but additionally, when good men fight for custody against not so good women, the courts still continue to give child custody to the women. That explains why men don't initiate divorce because they have so much more to lose. There must be more fairness in this area.

Amazing that feminists don't want more equally in this area isn't it?

Let's take another scenario; a man is married to an American career woman for a couple of years; he tells her that he wants to go back to his country, and he will take their child with him. Is there any doubt that some here would give the concerned woman different advice than given the man?

USA, Canada / My wife wants to return to Poland...but I want to stay in the US [155]

Ah, misunderstood posts.....

Women frequently read or hear what they want to hear or read as opposed to what is actually spoken or written.
It makes them feel better and it's probably some kind of evolutionary survival mechanism related to self esteem. At any rate, it's always good to attempt to bring our 'equal' half back to the specific subject at hand. Asking them to focus is a good start.

The ladies here don't have to thank me for this advice; I know they appreciate it.

USA, Canada / My wife wants to return to Poland...but I want to stay in the US [155]


....and you have accused me of generalizing; lol. Oh, we get it alright.


Doctors have found 59 (and counting) caring bones in my body. Oh, and a big heart.
As to the divorce, it is sadly interesting that you know nothing about my personal life yet feel so free to throw your manure against the wall. It only sticks on you.


Show people how it's done.

USA, Canada / My wife wants to return to Poland...but I want to stay in the US [155]


That's female 'logic'.
I call it 'me-ism'...... and it's sadly promoted by media and law.


Does the cry, "women and children first" ring a bell? Oddly, in the feminist demand for "equality", this archaic platitude still commands a philosophical stronghold (there is even a radical feminist bookstore in Chicago by that name).

Automatically defaulting a child to the mother based on a parent being female is discriminatory.


Any woman who does that cannot be capable of loving anyone.

USA, Canada / My wife wants to return to Poland...but I want to stay in the US [155]


People who watch themselves on tape or video are frequently horrified to see themselves behave in a manner which surprises them. In the inner heat of emotion people often do not remember the vitriolic words or the rancorous 'tone' they use. After watching themselves it is not unusual to hear them say, "I can't believe that was me".

New and informative information seems to shock you.


Feminist (and so called "empowered") women and manginas do this; real men don't.


The above is a "typical" sexist comment by a female. Bashing men is second nature to lots of women. Think about it. Oh, I forgot, you don't do thinking, you do 'feeling'.


That's the unfairness. There is little a man can do about the children issue. This is an undisputed aspect of inequality where the woman gets the kid unless she is on drugs, booze, or has done something really wacko (illegal). I understand and sympathize with you on this most important issue. Many women do not comprehend a father's deep love and those who do don't care because at that point it's all about them(selves).


Absolutely!!
Single parent families have a dismal record when it comes to raising children. By far, statistics show that children raised in one-parent families commit more antisocial behavior

which includes crime, drugs, alcohol and violence. If need be, get an attorney that specializes in proactive profather divorces.


Perhaps it only stopped functioning for her? ...but then, that would be the full story and not just hers.

USA, Canada / My wife wants to return to Poland...but I want to stay in the US [155]

Does she have any Polish speaking friends where you live? Perhaps she could join some organization which would be of interest to her?

She married you here; your child was born here. Your job is here. ...and "for better or worse" but todays women don't bother with the "worse" part very much.

Attempt to explain logically that you and she believed that the family future was here when she married you. In general, women will react more emotionally than men to anything that is centered around them. I would video the counseling between the two of you and if necessary play it back to her as needed. She might see things about herself in a different light when she is looking at the conversation from a distance instead of being caught up in it.

Always be logical and factual in your verbal communications.

History / Polish hatred towards Jews... [1290]


Those facts don't get enough attention.

Additionally, by any objective standard, Poland has been more welcoming to Jews than any other country I'm aware of. That is the reason why so many Jews lived in Polish lands.

USA, Canada / Why no Polish stuff in Chicago? [41]


I'm a White Sox guy myself but I go to one Cubs game every year. In fact, I took my son to the first night game in Wrigley Field the Cubs actually played in 1988 (that was lucky as the first game they were actually to play was rained out and I had tickets for the next one).


Yea, I love walking but everything is no more than a $7-$8 dollar cab ride away if need be.


You were a few miles north and west of me. I do remember drinking at Ravenswood Pub once but I don't remember why.

USA, Canada / Why no Polish stuff in Chicago? [41]


No, haven't been there; too many young people ;)

If I'm out drinking I usually hang around Streeterville or Old Town as both are close to my abode (I like to walk home not drive).

Love / All Polish women can't be nutters can they? [257]


Oh, didn't they tell you? Polish women have this 100 meter thing. If they are closer to you than that then it means they like you.

USA, Canada / Why no Polish stuff in Chicago? [41]


I agree; the food is better managed at the Devon outlet.

I still miss "Orbit" restaurant (2800 north Milwaukee?)which closed some years back. Always preferred sitting at the counter and banter with the Polish waitresses.


I swear half of Mexico lives in the U.S.

Life / Why do people think that I'm Polish ? [92]


Maybe it was the yarmulke on your head?

USA, Canada / Why no Polish stuff in Chicago? [41]


Also Roselle, Addison, Schaumburg, Glendale Heights, Westmont and Lombard.


Not totally; the "Red Apple" is just a block south of Belmont on Milwaukee and there are some stores in that area and south of there as well including a couple more restaurants.


Very slowly; lets hope the Poles hang in there. But as previously noted, lots of Poles live in the suburbs now. They have become or are becoming Americanized.

History / Polish hatred towards Jews... [1290]


Only one; the Sunni are much better at playing "rock-paper-scissor" than the Shia - beat 'em every time.

Love / All Polish women can't be nutters can they? [257]


Don't assume that women know what they want. That can change from moment to moment.
Just remember to keep this in mind: With women it's all about them(selves). The female brain believes that (she) is the center of the universe. All else stems from that. This female condition is probably evolutionary.


You assumed that he wanted sex and she didn't. Perhaps her mood changed when he was so talky instead of amorous. On more than one occasion I've had women upset with me because I didn't take our relationship all the way.

Genealogy / Polish person's average height? [210]

Auxology is an interesting subject. I, myself am 10 feet tall and people frequently refer to me. For instance, I often hear, "I wouldn't touch that with a 10 foot Pole."

Love / All Polish women can't be nutters can they? [257]

All Polish women can't be nutters can they?

Of course not. In fact, I have found that on average most Polish women are more sane than other women and when compared to western women it isn't even a close contest.

Now, some Polish women become westernized and that puts them into a different and more negative category.

mira; "it's a two-way street, we don't understand you,men either."

Perhaps this will help.

the-spearhead.com/2010/01/03/is-there-a-female-brain/

Love / All Polish women can't be nutters can they? [257]


Western women have become spoiled as they have garnered more freedom than men in both law and culture. Unfortunately they abuse these freedoms as western societies have not held women accountable for their actions and behavior. This has started to change.


Yes, it's been very noticeable how slut-like western women have become. That's nothing to be proud of.

Love / All Polish women can't be nutters can they? [257]

That sort of behavior is not untypical with western women who have become spoiled and childlike. "Empowered" with almost total freedom without paying the consequences and this is what western women have become......

deceiver.com/2009/12/24/domestic-violence-crusader-mary-j-blige-slugs-husband/

Love / Opinion from Polish men on this please (Polish men so 'spiritually' romantic?) [43]


Is that what you are looking for in a relationship; a "big girl"?

So if I call you a big boy that means I lowered myself to argue on your level........right?
Some advice; try to state something substantive for a change. If you work real hard at it you might be able to formulate arguments and opinions in a meaningful manner.

Love / Opinion from Polish men on this please (Polish men so 'spiritually' romantic?) [43]


One month is too short a time. Wait until your first argument (which probably will be your fault). and see how that goes.


That's the problem with some women; they 'feel' they're some sort of gift to men. Get over yourself.


Try this; tell him you are a recovering prostitute and alcoholic and see how his "admiration" changes. My point is this; you are feeling the tingles now but wait until your relationship matures. Maybe you do have something wonderful going on but one month is just a blink of an eye.


Again, get over yourself. If men talked like that then you'd see how ridiculous that sounds.
Now having given my harsh advice, I really do wish you the best of luck as all relationships need it. Just stop 'feeling' that you are the center of the universe. You're not and neither is he.

Life / Lack of Spacial Acuity in Poland [69]

Not to worry; scientists have recently discovered the Spacial Acuity gene and many Poles are now taking their Spacial Acuity shots.

As I've traveled to many major cities, I've noticed that lots of other people seem to lack the same Acuity gene.

My pet peeve is walking behind two slow moving heavyset women who take up all the sidewalk space.

Food / Why is it that some Polish people refuse to eat anything that is not Polish? [120]

Why is it the some polish people refuse to eat anything that is not polish?

Maybe this woman should cook some Polish food?
breitbart.com/article.php?id=D9CP7L5G0&show_article=1

Work / Why is Polish workmanship so bad? [52]

Why is Polish workmanship so bad?

That's odd since Polish immigrants working in the U.S. have a good reputation when it comes to plumbing, carpentry and especially construction. All things being equal, Americans will hire Poles to take care of their problems. "Get a Pole to do it" is a frequent refrain...

Life / Ripped Off in Poland? - Expose here: [185]


Was that dog years (since you only joined here this past July).


The only way you would know that is to look there. Of course your personal life is your own....

History / WWII - who really was the first to help Poland? [900]

Of course this begs the question; "what would Panslavia's flag look like? Hmmmm I know we have some creative people here.

History / WWII - who really was the first to help Poland? [900]


Couldn't we make Bratwurst Boy an honorary slav? He could work for Panslavia as a helmet maker.

(Can't we all just picture him wearing his Lederhosen, singing "Oh Tannenbaum" while pounding out fine slavic headwear)

Off-Topic / PF - The Omnibus Edition [1502]


I couldn't agree with you more. ... and unfortunately it isn't just Pakistan. What surprises me is the relative silence of women's groups like "NOW" on this issue. They seem to put their priorities on bashing western men which compliments their socialist agenda.


Feminists believe it's always mens fault. Nevertheless, we are higher primates and with a little meditation and self-control, any person (man or woman) can control themselves within reason.


I suggest that this is a popular myth that women enjoy stating; unless of course they are referring to manginas. As to crying, is their any doubt that women cry more, much more frequently than men.....and for the most nonsensical reasons (movies, music, bad hair day etc).