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Love without chemistry? (Asian in love with a Polish woman) [195]
I guess you would quickly walk away from a woman who doesn't understand you.
Depends on her reaction, and ofcourse we can always be friends.
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How much time you would give a woman to understand you? First few minutes, hours?
Hey, she either does, or she doesn't? I'm not giving her any time schedules actually, I'm simply enjoying myself and if she thinks she wants more.. Well, who am I to object? To keep a long story short; I don't really have too many expectations whenever I talk to a girl, I'm just simply living my life and usually try to enjoy myself.
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How long you can keep that understanding and laugh, without all the realities (or needs per your definition).
How long? Hey, it takes two people to Tango, but it seems you just can't grasp that concept, since you seem to believe that you can create chemistry where it's completely absent. No offense, but you sound a bit humourless, and from what I've gathered you don't show too much initiave when it comes to involving her in fun things, so maybe you should do something with that little piece of information! Who knows what it might do for you in the future?
You're not married yet.
I plan to study, and marriage is overrated anyway. (It's just a piece of paper really!)
When you are, you may change your mind as how much time is necessary for two people to understand each other, how much effort and change of self and sacrifies are required to keep the laugh in the house.
Why do you think you have to change yourself? Just do yourself a favour, and try to look for someone who understands you, who's a bit like you, who can laugh with you, and more importantly; Someone who feels butterflies for you! Oh, and I'm fully aware of the fact that some situations require a compromise, and I'm not the type to run away from any of my responsibilities either. Effort? When I'm really enjoying her company, the entertainment comes naturally. I mean to say that I don't see anything as something I have to do for her, but something I like doing for her. (Maybe I'm lucky in that aspect?)
It's not simply a matter of chemistry click.
It is. Ofcourse other things matter, but like I've said, you have to be able to be naturally you with her, and excite her, otherwise it just isn't meant to be.
By the way, what is the longest time you have laugh with a woman who understands you, if you don't mind telling? It's a learning experience to me.
Twenty years, five months, eightteen days, about twelve hours and a few minutes. But let's ask a few women here a question; How often do you smirk, grin, chuckle, smile, giggle, blush, laugh and think: ''Silly!'' when you're reading from me? (Just be honest!) How often do I píss you off and annoy you? (I bet just as often!) My point is gg4, you don't always have to make a woman laugh because you want something from her, but simply because you kinda like them.
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There're already some happy feelings among us in other matters, except that in sex.
Uh-oh.
It may take a little more time to get things smooth, or I will have to go away.
A little? Dude, if she isn't sleeping with you within a few months, it means she's either frigid, a Lesbian, she hates sex or that she's ultra-religious. (Or could it be that she kinda likes your friendly gestures, but that she doesn't really feel anything for you?) It sounds like she could be a good friend to you, but you're going to lose her completely if you're going down this road..
As I said, I give it a few more months, may be longer if she would think it may work out in the end.
Hey, forget I've said anything! I'm just a figment of your imagination..
xD
First, we need to commit into a real relationship with each other. Then, if she would do that, I'll take it a memory to keep, a little bitter, a little sweet, and salty.
I'd recommend a Taco with Chili peppers and a bottle of Tequila to flush!
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But before we commit to a real relationship, we will figure out how to solve the financial issue, the children issue (if we will have any), and other issues. We will have to plan for our future.
Before what? She already told you she doesn't feel too much for you.
This may sound too much conditioning and not natural, as most people, esp. young people only believe in love and disregard the consequences.
No, it doesn't sound natural at all, it sounds creepy, forced, sad and obsessive! Oh, and if you're willing to work your ass off for the girl who loves you, things will be alright. I mean, nobody's perfect, and every relationship will have it ups and downs.
They always think that "we love each other, we will solve all the problems, we do not need to talk about money, that's not real love".
I don't think that, but I guess I'll tell you again; Money doesn't buy her heart. Besides, most working couples don't have to worry about money too much and you know it. It's funny how some people on the internet are always the most succesful though! I prefer to be realistic, and just say that about 90% of the people aren't too rich, thanks. You make it sound as if being succesful automatically ensures a happy and satisfying relationship, so I guess you're the one who's a little naive here..
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How can I have any chance if I ignore her feelings?
*sigh*
We had great moments.
I'm sure you've had those moments, otherwise you wouldn't be here telling us all about it, but I still think it's hopeless.
I believe that she would be fine with me in all aspects, except sex that we do not have sth in common yet, b/c of physical appearance. It may take some time, or never, I don't know by now.
So she doesn't think you're attractive either? You must really like her a lot! I think you should just treat her as friendly female company you can learn something from then, and who knows she might appreciate you for your help..
I may have been overexaggerating the situation, because all I lack are some biceps, triceps, quadriceps, major pectoralis. As for the Ischio cavernous and Bulbo cavernous, I am fine.
Who says you're lacking anything? Some women actually like slim guys you know..
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Personality matters. Other factors do too.
Hey, other factors always help, but if she isn't really there because of you.. (I don't have to explain this one, do I?)
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