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Polish girls attitudes towards sex. [568]
Paulina - I don't know you and vice versa I guess. I felt the need to connect with people so I signed up for this site. I disagree with Seanus 90% of the time, well maybe 89% of the time so it's funny I find myself defending his actions here. Not that he needs defense but some of this pertains to all men.
First of all, a PRIVATE MESSAGE (PM) is a private message! - between you and Seanus and no one else. Always and with no exceptions. I've gotten some personal requests for advice via the PM system and not in a million years would I've ever thought of sharing it with you or anyone else. Even if the messages were absolutely trivial - PRIVATE means private which in my view espouses show of trust AND respect. You didn't show him any respect by talking about his private messages here. Not sure what gadu-gadu is but if it's similar to skype than the same applies here - it was a private conversation and you violated his trust. If I ever get a message from you (doubt I ever will now after my diatribe here lol) I can assure you that I will NEVER share it with anyone unless you specifically ask me to do so.
Often the reason men and women struggle with their relationships is because they don't show respect for each other. God knows I'm just as guilty here. My ex-wife loved me and adored me and I took her for granted and never had any time for her when she needed me the most. She had some psychological conditions which caused her to be more sensitive than others yet I was too busy for her, my job was more important than anything. Well, that was my way of disrespecting her. I regret it today and decided to learn from it; whether there'll be another lady in my life some day in the future or whether I'll be talking to a friend - I'll always attempt to show my respect even if I'm annoyed or busy or pissed off. Doesn't matter. Respect means accepting differences. In this case you disrespected Seanus by disclosing a private conversation and in my humble opinion he deserves an apology from you. Enough about that.
Now, I've read what was being said between you two over and over again and must say that if all women think the way you do then I'm as clueless as it gets and get even more nervous about talking to someone from the opposite sex. It's very hard for me to relax enough to keep a conversation with a lady, especially one I barely know. What he said is the typical stuff I'd have said just to keep a conversation going and trust me, I have no intention of getting into your pants.
Frankly, it's tiring how often women lump all men into one category and think that each time a man talks to a woman he wants to have sex with her. Sure, we're overflowing with testosterone, something you women do too just in smaller quantities BUT we (and you) also have brains. Well, most of us do.
Yes, it's perfectly possible for a guy to say "...so where do you live? ...do you live with your parents or by yourself? ...yeah, I have my own house..." without wanting to get into her pants.
...and if he does then so what? Don't you ever have a "dirty" thought about a guy you're having a conversation with? Does that make you a bad person? I don't think so.
The beauty of the human brain is that we can differentiate between our thoughts, desires and dreams and our actions. So stop judging us by what you
assume we're thinking about and instead judge us based on our actions - not your ex-husband's or ex-boyfriend's or worst yet your girlfriend's ex-boyfriend's actions. ...no, judge us by OUR individual actions because we're all individuals. In my very biased and testosterone influenced view yes, many of us actually ARE good guys.
While I'm at it, are you single? ..so what are you wearing? (no, I'm not flirting, I'm net'ing ;)
PS. Unless you're a
black Polish lady you may not write
"I can see you don't want to answer why you aksed me that question..." EVER, EVER again! LOL It's a joke, I hope you don't take it the wrong way... ;)