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Polish mother, possible UK father - child law Poland. [35]
my polish g/f i found out some months ago , is preggo - infact , she is due to deliver anytime soon .... in poland.
i am british , have never wanted kids , and on the rare times weve both enjoyed "congress" - ive always used a condom ... which seemlingly didnt fail the last time that we were together...
however , a child on the way maybe the indication that it did ///
im in the uk , she is in poland with her parents and the child will be born very soon
im still not looking forward to being a dad - far from it ... apart from anything , im getting on a bit - havent the time or the resources (im renting a flat in london) - whilst she has every plan to live in poland with the kid- presumably me visiting as an when....
she told me months ago , she wants to be a single mum - that im a freebird - free to do whatever i like - even that she doesnt have to put my name on the official paperwork in poland
now she phones me , tells me she has seen a lawyer and she asks me to sign some form of agreement - a declaration of sorts that would mean my signature / presence will not be required in any decision involving the kid- for example in the application of a passport , medical treatment etc etc
she also says , that just as i can sign such an agreement , im free to " unsign it " - either way , to me this sounds like double talk - a way of limiting removing my rights , my input.
to be fair , if i spend most of my time in the uk - or travel abroad abit im not being the best father to the child anyway - but since the child isnt even born yet , im a bit reluctanct to sign over anything , even tho it maybe convinient / beneficial to her -
she also now tells me , that what she said about things not being official - my name not being on the birth /c etc - if she does this , if indeed i dont put my name on the birth documents etc ... shell make sure i never see the kid anyway - never.
even if i dont put my name down , she has told me that she'll force a dna check anyway
not wanting to be a dad now , im not interested in the child anyway - but things may change ... even so , she wants me to be on the b/certificate etc and sign over on this- meaning my signature wont be required anymore on any official documents / letters ( passport apllications etc) .....
apart from not wanting kids , doing my all to avoid them - i cant help but feel that condom didnt fail - her entire behaviour has struck me as odd , and im reluctant to put my name on the document without a check dna before hand - now she threatens me with never letting me see the kid when it is born , unless i do put myself down as the father , and in addition i sign over , effectivley my fatherly responsibilties vis-a vi the above ... im rather inclined to just let her her get on with it ......
any advice ?
