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trener zolwia   
28 Sep 2010
Love / Unmarried couples in Poland = pathology [310]

wonder what the statistics are for domestic violence in married and non married couples...

Not good for the unmarried cohabitants.

would have been helped by a legal paper?

Stop being such a simpleton. Marriage represents a whole lot more than a mere 'legal paper'. Just like any legal association entered under contract which causes people to take that association much more seriously.

'Legal papers' elevate marriage from a casual relationship to a sanctified, legally binding union made all the more serious due to the committing legalities involved.

As what Mark said, marriage is also a state of mind...

Marriage is the commitment.

trener zolwia   
28 Sep 2010
Love / Polish Girl Doesn't Want To Touch. [240]

I'm talking about not appearing able to appreciate the other person's feelings.

Good points. It is rude. I think she does know how he feels and she hasn't vocalized her lack of feelings to him when he's asked because she knows her answer would likely end her free ride. It's more than her merely being uncomfortable talking about such things.

Forget the touching, her actions and silence -her blow off- when he tries to approach her and get her to talk to him tells the entire tale. What they have doesn't even sound like a friendship to me.
trener zolwia   
27 Sep 2010
Love / Polish Girl Doesn't Want To Touch. [240]

In his first post there's no mention of her feelings, it's only about touching, his needs and his feelings. He writes later about his doubts as far as her feelings are concerned, but most of the time it's about touching. So it's even more weird because he's trying to touch her although he even doesn't know if she has any romantic feelings for him.

Yeah, his focus on touching, which seems to be his primary concern in all of this, does seem a bit odd and is rather telling about how he views the whole affair.

This is another reason why I think he is young.

THAT would be interesting :D

Maybe we can draw her out...

Hey, frigid Polish leech girl, stop lurking and come out and tell us your side of this story! :D
trener zolwia   
27 Sep 2010
Love / Unmarried couples in Poland = pathology [310]

The least permanent of all are homosexual households.

Yes. All of which seems to fly in the face of the anti-marriage folks.
trener zolwia   
27 Sep 2010
Love / Polish Girl Doesn't Want To Touch. [240]

It's just weird, I'm confused by this story...

Yeah but he's a young boy all gaga over this girl, he's not thinking clearly. Typical. :s And to this point he hasn't done anything too awful creepy ...that we know of.

I see it as "I know this poor sap fancies me so I'll string him along and get a good free ride whilst it lasts"

This is how I still see it.

We only know his side of the story so I guess we girls try to think about what's her side of the story too

Maybe she'll stop by and talk to us! :D

Move along if u want 2 retain your sanity Mr. Popcorn.

Good advice!
trener zolwia   
26 Sep 2010
Love / Polish Girl Doesn't Want To Touch. [240]

I think it's your decision, to live with sexually inadequate partner and frustrate your needs. Why did you do that is for more serious conversation and different circumstances.

Interesting angle I did not think of (leave it to you, N. :) ) Indeed it would be interesting to hear more about his past romantic life to see if he has a history of seeking girls who are physically and emotionally unavailable to him. But, as you say, this is probably a bit deeper than the expressed problem at hand.

It is interesting getting this take from the girls here. This is something not many men have had to deal with. But she is still taking advantage of him and the situation and it is up to her how much of this she wants to put up with for her free ride.

she gave you most of the nonverbal signals one can think of...

I think she made her feelings very clear with her body language but you can't take a hint. You've chosen to force yourself on her, which is wrong.

Yep. Yep.

Popcorn, you did not answer the question so I will ask again. How old are you?
The first thing that came to my mind when I read your initial post, is age difference, I would guess you are 40+ and she in her early 20's.

I wonder about their ages too. But I don't think he is that old. OP seems younger. Maybe they're both about 20.

I still can't believe that he showed her this thread. Lol. After reading OP's whining here she'd either run to his arms or run away from him once and for all.
trener zolwia   
26 Sep 2010
Love / Polish Girl Doesn't Want To Touch. [240]

Dude, don't get you're hopes too high.

I told her about you people.

This is just crazy! Do you really want her seeing all this? :D
trener zolwia   
26 Sep 2010
Love / Polish Girl Doesn't Want To Touch. [240]

@Paulina All very good possibilities.

If you know how to touch, wow, the sky's the limit and the day is yours :) It's worth learning, trust me!

Lol. I think we're beyond the touching here, Medicated Man. :)
I don't think this is about touching at all, really. Seems to me that lack of touching is the least of his worries. The lack of touching is just a symptom of the bigger problem.

I would never ply a girl with drink in order to get closer to her.

I think we all have done things to get things moving along in the past. ;) But as I've gotten older I find I haven't the energy for all the games. Now I'm all about what's real and getting to know someone. Even bedding them has taken a back seat to communication and emotional intimacy and just enjoying the complete person.

(Ew, I sound like a chick! :p )
trener zolwia   
26 Sep 2010
Love / Unmarried couples in Poland = pathology [310]

TZ, i am against liberalism, it is a disease

Glad to hear it! :)

Sure, sure, sure. Not every kid from a broken home ends up a disaster. But the science is pretty clear that the healthiest kids come from stable, two parent homes.
trener zolwia   
25 Sep 2010
Love / Unmarried couples in Poland = pathology [310]

If such fly-by-night arrangements are so good and modern, then why are such households more of a a hotbed of domestic violence, alcoholism, drugs, infidelity and confused, unhappy children than those of married couples?

It's the same over here.
Once again we see the toll on society that the 'do whatever you want' liberal mentality costs...
trener zolwia   
25 Sep 2010
Love / Polish Girl Doesn't Want To Touch. [240]

I've never operated on this level due to my preference for honesty and the high price that it pays.

Good man. Yeah, skip the games.

who would want to be with someone who had little or no interest in them?

Seems you should be asking yourself this question.
trener zolwia   
25 Sep 2010
Love / Polish Girl Doesn't Want To Touch. [240]

Drink really loosens things up.

Very interesting. In some places drinking leads to fighting...

I'm on heavy medication for a cold

I thought you seemed a little off today. :)

I have heard of is spiking. I'm not implying that you would do it

Now don't go giving the boy any ideas!
trener zolwia   
25 Sep 2010
Love / Polish Girl Doesn't Want To Touch. [240]

Dude, the girl is using you.

She has done it several times. I feel as if I didn't try to contact her, we wouldn't be talking today. I know that is seems like she is being selfish

I think you got your answer.

I shouldn't support a person who feel so little for me. It takes away opportunity for something real to happen. I'll have to find a way to confront her

Right.

without destroying the possibility that things have value in pursuing.

Only in your mind, son. I think friendship is the only possibility between the two of you. But then she's already showing you what kind of friend she is... Time to face facts.
trener zolwia   
25 Sep 2010
Love / Polish Girl Doesn't Want To Touch. [240]

Isn't this forcing me her feel as if there is a contract for friendship? I wanted to avoid something like this.

I don't think it's forcing anything except her hand. There's nothing wrong with asking someone if they have feelings for you. And I assume that if she doesn't that you'd then want to alter yours and hers situation. Because at this point it seems one sided. From over here anyway...

Would she just prefer to leave on her own? I would think that would be the best idea if that's what she wanted.

She's not going to leave until you press the issue. Why should she? She's got it good the way things are.
trener zolwia   
25 Sep 2010
Love / Polish Girl Doesn't Want To Touch. [240]

Yeah, I do have a problem understanding girls

Well, join the club. But for you to say that American girls don't play games seems a bit naive.
trener zolwia   
25 Sep 2010
Love / Polish Girl Doesn't Want To Touch. [240]

Offer her a massage. It's legit! Those who don't like massages are 'touched' in the head.

Oo, yeah. That always works! ;)
trener zolwia   
25 Sep 2010
Love / Polish Girl Doesn't Want To Touch. [240]

Thank you for your honest opinion.

I don't mean to sound cruel but such matters often require brutal honesty.

The only way for you to deal with this situation is to put her on the spot and ask her if she has feelings for you. And then tell her that if she doesn't that things are going to have to change.

If she doesn't answer you then you have your answer.
trener zolwia   
25 Sep 2010
Love / Polish Girl Doesn't Want To Touch. [240]

American woman just don't have time to play games

I'm curious about this too. Seem like you have problems understanding girls.
trener zolwia   
25 Sep 2010
Love / Polish Girl Doesn't Want To Touch. [240]

It is clear that she does not want more from you. She don't like it when you touch her, so please stop.
She does not love you, like you love her, only your money attracts her in some way.
You sure pay most when you do things with her, she thinks you're rich because you are American and she can stay in your apartment it costs no money or less I suppose.

I agree with this. The girl just doesn't have feelings for you, OP. Sounds like she's using you and will tolerate so much so as to not turn you away but she draws the line at touch. And she doesn't respond when you ask her about it because her only possible response would mean an end to her free ride.
trener zolwia   
25 Sep 2010
Life / How to Politely Refuse a Drink in Poland [72]

Same here in the US.

Because not everyone who is in a bar is drinking?

Maybe the rare person goes to a bar and doesn't drink. But I'm gonna say that most peeps who go to a bar drink. And if they drove there they then drive home.

This is not to say that every one of them is drunk. The legal limit to drive here is .08 blood alcohol level (BAL). I forget the exact formula but this translate to something like a 170 pound man can have two beers an hour and still be legal to drive.
trener zolwia   
25 Sep 2010
Life / How to Politely Refuse a Drink in Poland [72]

I have never gotten behind the wheel of an automobile after belting down a few brews or sloshing my way through a vineyard.

Ever? Come on...
trener zolwia   
25 Sep 2010
Life / How to Politely Refuse a Drink in Poland [72]

drunk driving is not natural in the USA.

I would say that most people have drank and driven at some point in their lives.
trener zolwia   
24 Sep 2010
Life / How to Politely Refuse a Drink in Poland [72]

if someone is driving a car doesn't drink and no one urges.

This is probably the best way, just say you're driving and that should be the end of it. You'll look responsible and anyone that would challenge you further would look irresponsible.
trener zolwia   
23 Sep 2010
Food / Do Polish beers contain adjuncts? [34]

Do you guys have seasonal flavored beers over there? I don't usually go for the flavored beers but Screamin' Pumpkin is a delicious pumpkin ale. Had my first one last weekend and it was very good...

A very good Philadelphia brew that is also widely available on the East Coast is Yuengling

Good stuff.