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Mental health problem or one of the grieving stages? Death and denial in Poland. [93]
She gets up very late in the day, say 11am, and is on Facebook or online until very late, going to sleep at about 2am or so most of the time
That's quite normal for some people.
However, she seems very lively and efficient when at work, good mood, sings to herself a little, concentrates well, remembers all manner of academic stuff, speaks several languages flawlessly, dresses well, eats well, no drugs or drink or smoking.
Then I would ask why change it. The acceptance of her fathers death will come in time, if it is not having any negative effects on her life at the moment, then just prepare yourself for that time when it all comes crashing home. Even then she may just have a good cry, or may need professional help. There is no point for you looking for professional help now as it seem she wouldn't accept it anyway. So just be there for her just now, don't push the issue too much (important cos you dont want to force the acceptance in the beginning as it may end up badly) and prepare yourself for when that time comes. Could be tomorrow, could be years away. The important thing to remember is that she is the same person as before and if this is her way of coping then you must help her through it, not by forcing the issue, but by standing by as her loving partner.
For some reason, this sort of behaviour sounds like someone is encouraging it - though that's just a blind stab in the dark.
No no no, this way of dealing is quite common.