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Advice Please! Meeting my Polish boyfriend's parents!! Gifts, customs... [105]
Ah the prospective parents in law and Polish at that. Tricky in each case, fubared when combined.
Well, don't fret my young padawan! Use the fork! (save the knife for the wedding)
When there is a will, there is a way - a Polish way in this case! (not to be confused with a Polish road, leave your bicycle home unless you fancy low-altitude sky-diving).
The first step on this way is a first impression - the connection is apparent through the repetition of word 'first'. The second step is the second impression - ah yes my flawless logic and the sure sign I'm a Pole.
Yeps exactly, the second impression, don't underestimate it. These days everybody is raving about the importance of the first impression, completely forgetting the second one. Recent studies show that the frequent repetition of word 'first' impairs the short-term memory which in turn could explain why the second impression tends to be forgotten. Sorry, I'm digressing. Let's delve into the nitty-gritty practicalities instead.
1. Attire
To truly impress your future family you should wear a white and red T-shirt with a huge POLSKA front motif (you can settle for POLAND if you feel your Polish is not there yet). Lots of Poles abroad wear these T-shirts, my guess is they don't want to be confused with Laotians. Furthermore that should be your only piece of garment, yes you read it right, nothing else. Not only will it endear you to the lady of the house and emphasize your patriotic feelings towards your girlfriend's homeland but it will also ascertain her sexual orientation in the eyes of her family.
You know, homosexuality is a tricky subject in Poland, bit like roads. Therefore you won't see any gays or lesbians on bicycles here.
2. Etiquette
Poles tend to be polite and courteous, using all kinds of archaic honorifics when addressing each other. I won't bore you with that so just call everyone CURVA. The beauty of the word is that unlike most of the polish nouns this one is not gender-sensitive. So yes you can call both her parents CURVA. Same applies to your girlfriend, should you forget her name. In fact this is exactly what should be featured on the back of your T-shirt in same size letters as POLSKA. To spell it correctly, replace C with K and V with W respectively.
So with the introduction covered, it's time for some good ol' Polish fun - that's either church or vodka. If you feel adventurous you may try combining both, again if you are not sure how to address the priest, go with the aforementioned word.
As for the vodka don't just drink it, eye-ball it straight from the bottle.
With that kind of second impression no one will think of the first one. Remember the fork!(leave the spoon for the birth of your love child)
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P.S Just be yourself, nice and open and everything will be fine. Good luck and all the best to you and girlfriend.