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UK - the land of ultimate trial for Polish couples


TripTic 3 | 95  
16 Apr 2007 /  #1
Did anyone noticed how many polish couples and married couples got split in UK ?
...yeah I did suffered from this situation, but as I know it's quite "often" in UK among Polish people.
hello 22 | 890  
16 Apr 2007 /  #2
That's an interesting observation. I dont' think it's like that only in the UK though. People (especially young) see new opportunities in a new country and they think of starting a new life. It's not good for marriages for sure.
telefonitika  
16 Apr 2007 /  #3
I havent noticed it first hand - but i have noticed that many single polish people find it hard to establish relationships with people other than polish people.
Frank 23 | 1,183  
16 Apr 2007 /  #4
I have mentioned this before on a trustworthy thread..........eeemmm, ie Poles having difficulty being trustworthy of others....even their own people......any relevance?
bookratt  
16 Apr 2007 /  #5
Since rates of divorce for the UK in general are higher than for Poland in general, that would hold for Polish persons in either country as well.

It's not the ethnicity that creates divorce, of course. But most likely the stressors in the environment and in the UK, especially in London, the greater stress (economic disadvantage, loss of cultural adhesion) most likely contributes to divorce.

Rates of divorce in the US are greater in the bigger cities than in smaller towns as well. Divorce rates are higher among Jews, Muslims, Christians, whatever they are, if they happen to choose to live and work in a larger city.

Are divorced Poles looked down on by other Poles? I don't know, but since both my parents are---one has been married three times---I'd be interested to know.
UKGUY 3 | 87  
18 Apr 2007 /  #6
I was reading in another thread, about how anoyed some of the Polish girls got when asked vague questions about Poland such as: "Which part of Poland are you from" and I "used to have a relative from Hungary" etc... I think alot of Brits haven't gone to Poland so don't know in depth is geographic layout apart from main towns and cities such as Krakow and Warsaw etc. Also many still think of Poland as part of the soviet bloc and the Warsaw Pact. So in this case they think if they mention another eastern or central country they will have a close link to it. This is not always the case in modern post communist europe. Any points?

Infact when I talk about other eastern european countries they will mostly be patronised that I am comparing them to another country. ?????
Lobo - | 81  
17 May 2007 /  #7
I have noticed this great divorse rate. It also applies to Russians and other peoples from the former Soviet Union.
I think this is mostly caused by the women meeting local men. I suppose recent immigrants by definition have a low income and are young. That immediately unbalances the relationship. Low money will give the guys an immediate low status. It does no such thing for the young females. As Slavic females are in high demand, the split is almost inevitable… her status and situation will suffer a great jump by association with a local guy of high income and better connections and local knowledge.
Giles  
21 May 2007 /  #8
Also many of the women make more of an effort to learn the native tongue and integrate. And this creates tensions in the relationship.
szkotja2007 27 | 1,498  
21 May 2007 /  #9
Did anyone noticed how many polish couples and married couples got split in UK ?

I have to say that I know more that come here as a couple, make some cash, stay here, get married and have children. Then they get a house and invite their families ( brothers, sisters etc) over. In a few years time we will have lots of second generation Scots - Polish.

But most likely the stressors in the environment

Good point.
I have to say that I do not live in a large city and I am fortunate to live in a part of the world which has a higher quality of life than most of the U.K.
true1  
21 May 2007 /  #10
People (especially young) see new opportunities in a new country and they think of starting a new life. It's not good for marriages for sure.

Ain't that sad?
sapphire 22 | 1,241  
24 May 2007 /  #11
think this is mostly caused by the women meeting local men.

I think it works both ways.. its not always the women. Its not only locals too, there are lots of Polish people who hook up with other Poles here whilst their partners are back home.
angel eyes 1 | 131  
24 May 2007 /  #12
yea while the cats away the mice will play, isnt it sadly so true
Eastender - | 45  
24 May 2007 /  #13
Did anyone noticed how many polish couples and married couples got split in UK ?

Sad but true.

It's something that's synonymous with all newcomers, especially newcomers to a country full of opportunities & freedom of choice.

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