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hollis31 1 | -  
16 Aug 2009 /  #1
Hi

New to the site, i am looking for advice about my relationship with my polish partner, we have been together 2.5 yrs and i have children from previous marriage, my polish partner has always kept my children secret from her family because she said its not acceptable. now she says she is leaving me because she cant accept my kids,( my kids live with their mum and i visit monthly) we were due to get married next year and i think shes worried that her family will influence her when they find out about my kids, i love my kids and i love her, i dont want to loose her, is is such a big thing that i have kids? will her relatives frown upon it? please advise, thank you
niejestemcapita 2 | 561  
16 Aug 2009 /  #2
please advise, thank you

get rid of her sharpish or get rid of your kids, it's your choice.
If she's complaining about your visiting them MONTHLY (golly you are generous with your time!) and they are NOT EVEN INYOUR HOUSE, boy you're gonna have problems if you marry her. Correction your kids will have the problem.
ShelleyS 14 | 2,893  
16 Aug 2009 /  #3
we were due to get married next year and i think shes worried that her family will influence her when they find out about my kids

I think she used it as an excuse, there are divorcees in Poland who re-marry, so its not like you are totally unique.

By the way, you should see your kids more, once is a month is a shocking state of affairs!
Alx123 - | 180  
16 Aug 2009 /  #4
we were due to get married next year and i think shes worried that her family will influence her when they find out about my kids

Either she's young, naive and doesn't really know what she wants, or if she is a bit more mature it's an excuse. A mate of mine's Polish fiance broke it off with him because of parental pressure (in this case it was because his background was from the Middle East part of the world, even though he wasn't Muslim). In the end he persisted and they got back together, married, had a kid, etc. In that case, it really was a question of family pressure. It your case, it might not be, since she hasn't even told her family yet.
McCoy 27 | 1,275  
16 Aug 2009 /  #5
now she says she is leaving me because she cant accept my kids

shes a bltch
SzwedwPolsce 11 | 1,595  
16 Aug 2009 /  #6
Polish parents (read mothers) can influence their daughters in unhealty ways, and it's not uncommon. But it seems like this girl is going to create problems for you if you marry her. And your children should of course always be the most important thing, nothing can change that. I think it's a good thing to stay away from her, you will benefit from it, even if it feels like cr*p right now.

Come on man, you can't consider her as a good woman.
Wroclaw 44 | 5,386  
17 Aug 2009 /  #7
please advise, thank you

There are plenty Polish folk in second marriages or partnerships... and of those there are a good percentage with kids from the former marriage.
I agree with all the above posts too.
bulunepal - | 1  
2 Oct 2009 /  #8
I like to make long time rellationship with polish women . I am from nepal and studying here international rellatiionship . I am working in restaurent as a cook .
cable 3 | 42  
7 Oct 2009 /  #9
[quote=Wroclaw]There are plenty Polish folk in second marriages or partnerships... and of those there are a good percentage with kids from the former marriage.

I agree with all the above posts too.

I totally agree with this statement. My polish BF is divorced with a child, his ex-wife had 2 children to a previous marriage. In fact most of my Polish friends living in the UK are either estranged or divorced - sad but true.
killak11 - | 3  
18 Nov 2009 /  #10
i m full-blooded polish with 2 children by 2 different men and a step son! my parents are excepting a long as i m the epitome of a mom! polish women are great mothers, and live for the well-being of their children....I think that's wut actually matters
rozumiemnic 8 | 3,828  
18 Nov 2009 /  #11
in my experience you cannot say oh "such and such a nationality are great parents".
I have heard Polish mothers threaten "to whip that kid with a cable til the blood comes" and to use violence and shouting generally to control children.

In fact I have seen Polish mothers whose only priority is clean shirts, they would hit the kid if it got dirty.
I don't think this is to do with nationality just general fecktupness, which doesnt respect arbitrary frontiers.
As for being "full blooded" why not show us your pedigree?
killak11 - | 3  
18 Nov 2009 /  #12
honestly- I would neve even give sum1 the time of day if they denied my children- they r a gift from God and r the most precious thing in my life! she should be proud to be given the oppurtunity to influence someones children and the way they live their lives! screw that! she is not good enough for ur kids! they deserve a stepmom who is proud and honored to be in their lives, not have them be her dirty lil secret! feel me?
BrutalButcher - | 391  
18 Nov 2009 /  #13
I like to make long time rellationship with polish women . I am from nepal and studying here international rellatiionship . I am working in restaurent as a cook

you don't trick anyone. You just want a visa lol.
southern 75 | 7,096  
18 Nov 2009 /  #14
most of my Polish friends living in the UK are either estranged or divorced

Yes,because polish women when they see the money leave because they feel ''entrapped'' in marriage.

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