What do you think....is he serious?

I think that's the key with this. He needs reassurance about that and probably a lot and I am sure you are giving him that and can continue to do so. Has he ever said to you he is worried you'll go away with someone else? I think his asking you to move some of your bits and pieces into his flat is his way at looking for some sort of commitment from you but at the same his "I guess" comment when you asked if you were official was his way at not committing too much in case you don't want the same thing.

Why not try to get away for the weekend or something and make it just time for you both, no jobs, no other friends/family around? Do a bit of talking, some "discovering". ;)

Good luck. :)

I think this is a classic male mental conflict, of being a bit uncomfortable about the woman's past, and her sex life. It is rather warranted, in your case, as you did have sex with him first time. Usually women do not give it up that easy.

Anyway, Wroclaw Boy summed it up perfectly. He just isn't positive on you, yet. He probably loves you, but now has second thoughts.

Melissa; I have a question for you. Would you be put off, if he confessed one day that he has had sex with a man before?

female also...

what you learn is to shut your mouth about the past...the present and the future are more important...

Yes, you speak the truth! It is better not to volunteer information.

Judging by her past i dont think shed care if he'd straddled a mouse, i do think shed care though if he had a small penis. Then again i think most women would, its like lets get maried and save sex to our first night, if the guy pulls out a four inch wonder the newly wed wife is gonna have to be What The Fuck.

ha ha ha... oh man.. thats the first time you've ever made me laugh W.B
How right you are!

WB is an international man of mystery. Hats off to him for having a kid :)