What do you think....is he serious?

So, I am dating a Polish guy for a few weeks.....recently he asked if I would keep some items at his house ( I work close to his home, I live over an hour away from both work an his home) Some times I work all night and just have time to take a nap and get back to work agin. I took a shower at his house, but first went to buy the things I needed, shampoo and tooth brush ext.... He asked if I would leave them at is house so I would not have to go out and buy the stuff again. So Is ths like a big deal? I know most I would never let some one keep stuff at my house unless it was serious....I hope he thinks of me as serious material.... Thanks for advice.

It doesn’t sound like a big deal. It sounds like he’s a practical boy.

Well, the reason I ask is he is so hard to read.... not sure what is going on. I have asked if were official the other nght and he said " I guess" , but he always tells me he is ready to settle down. I just dont get him some times. I would just like to know where we are headed.....and I can never get a straight answer out of him....We tex all day long, he comes to see me at work some times... We cant stand to be away from each other, ( this is not a sex thing either, we both feel it happened too soon, and this mans arms are like a cradle to me) we cant look at each other with out smiling or laughing... What can I do to find out what going on here.

That's better than "No". To be honest, he sounds like a normal guy.


Yeah. I'd like to hear from him how he feels about this! :)

See I have a wild streak in me....but goodto my men. He was wild but is tame now....we had sex too soon...now we are trying to just take it easy...but I wnt him all the time and he wants me too. I look at him and he is ready. But we dont wnt it to be a sex thing. I plan on he next time we have sex I will make it specal or some thing. He is just so hard to read....I am usualy good at readin men, but not him.

don't analyze anything too deep... let it be... take this few stuff to his place and carry on slowly...

Again, he sounds like a normal boy. And it seems you read him just fine.

lol... yes, MOST men are, if you hadn't already known that.

I would like to hear how he feels too. We want sex every time we see each other....but we dont. He say I am freaky...I want to know why thats a bad thing.....OH and I told him I have been with a girl before, and he flliped out.....said thats not good. Even tough it was a long time ago. I am honest and would never lie to him.....but gezzes! We have not been "oral" yet.....I want to, but seems like he has no interest in it. I am a verry sexual personby nature, and being wit this oe turns me into an animal.....I have never had a guy complain I was too feaky. So whats the deal here. Thisguy is way too sexy, and he should have girls falling at his knees.....but he is just not a player.

Chicks...


You sound freaky.

thanks for sharring Melissa.... carry on girl...
;)

Sounds like a very smart man. The more honest you are, and tell about other strange things you have done in your life, perhaps the more uncomfortable it would make him. I would think twice about that, if I were you.

Well, so what if I am freaky.....I just want this one man....who is making me crazy! Cant he let me be his freak.....I am not like trashy.....mater of fact I run my own company (which economy has almost killed) Iam professional, modeling back ground, tall, verry honest loyal....so I am freaky too. This one looks like he is a freak.....and I guess he is hidding it or some thing. I jusy want him to know you can be a freak, but a good girl too. Guess its the German an Austrian in me.

Sound advice. Men are practical creatures he is just solving a problem.


This is too much info... We don't really want to know all of that! Try and stay on your own topic.

:)

yes, whatever a man says - it is... it's pretty plain and simple... only whatever a woman says has a double meaning...
;)


i do...
j/k
;)

I just want to know would being a sexual person push him away from me.....what is the deal....I have stuff at his house....we tex and talk all day...he wants a good girl, I am, well at least I thought I was....When do I know we are serious. I am getting mixed messages from this guy, and he is not so good at talking about what he feels or thinks (more than most guys) I dont want to be some thing to pass the time away till Mrs. Right comes into his life. I want to know if he sees some thing for us in the future.

So basically you gave it up on the first encounter, yes. How dirty were you, thats the question. What ever happened on that first encounter will be what is playing on his mind, ie does she do that with every first time shag, is she a slut etc..

Polish men are very wary of women who sleep around and over here its considered a disgrace to care for such women.

Sounds to me like he wants to care but hes worried about your past.

three things:

1. I hope you never got too dirty on your first sexual encounter
2. Tell him youve never done it before
3. Be upfront and honest regarding your past sexual partners and history

TITLE of this thread should be: Polish guy gets maulled by man eating Lesbian, gimme some more Poles, PLEASE.

Right. Over here too. Just what I was thinking.

It's always good to hear the facts, if we are to offer an opinion.

Feel free to tell us more, Melissa. Details matter. :)

Ohh crap wheres czarnobog with the lecture?

we did not get dirty on the first encounter...it was veryysensual and intamate. He knows I ave never slept with any one so quickly....he walked through a door and sparks flew, I melted....I wll never lie about my past history....he asks questions and I will tell him. My eyes give me away and was never good at lying....so I never took to it. Plus I cant stand some one who lies. I care enough abut this man to tell the truth even if I knew it would split us up....

Well that's a good start.

Tell me about it. Don't think that some men aren't clever though ;)


Not all. Some are looking for uncomplicated sex.


hahahahahaa that cracked me up!


I just thought the thread was starting to slide sideways...now it IS sliding.

uhh err missus!

What matters most to me is to show him he has my heart....I love to see him in his dirty work clothes...he hates me seeing him that way. I think he is too worried about what I think of him, and I am worried what he thinks of me. I am 30 years old....and have neer been reduced to a high school girl by any man before. Never smiled so much in my life untill I met him. I am not shy, but when he is around I blush constantly. Saying good by, when I leave his house, takes 45 minutes!!! Its just crazy. I have never felt this way. I have never been with a Polish guy, and dont even know any. So I just dont know what to do. He says " why you want me, I dont have lots of money, I work in dirt, I am nothing" I love all he does, and I make enough money to support us both, money is second to the heart

Are you a stripper, Melissa?

Maybe he has a different thought on money and responsibility.

NO I AM NOT A STRIPPER.....I am a General Manager/ Bartender at a European Night club....I also am a court advocate and work in the private investigation feild with insurance companies and Law Firms. I also have a law degree and could work for my fathers firm if I wanted. So, it not like I need some on to finacialy supourt me....I can do it my self. I feel there is nothing wrong with a man who works and gets dirty. And as long as sme one is happy with their job, I could care less if he flips hambugers at Mc Donlads.

I hope your not messing this guy around I really do Melissa, hes there for you.

That last post worked on me i hope your not pulling any shit on this guys feelings.


Im just going to ignore that on the basis on youth and males in general.


Sounds like true love to me.


He'll make you proud most Poles hold dignity above all other emotions.

Best of luck to you two.....................

The thread starts out a bit dodgy but it comes through in the end, im feeling a long and fruitfull relationship here.

The reason I say money is second to the heart....I own a home, I work, I am stable....I am 30 and I worked my ass off to get were I am. He is younger than me, and just came to the states like 4 years ago. He works a lot and save his money which is good. I had to do the same things. I have every thing but a man who I love. I am not jerkin this guy around or playing games with him.....I am wondering if he is playing me. I hope he understands I care for him like no other....I have not dated some on for almost two years....I have been scared. He says he has been hurt before...I understand, so have I. Nothing compares to being in his arms....he takes my breath away with one look. I get chills when he just touhes my hand. What do I do so he knowsI am serious....no games....I am real....and my feelings are real. I am really scared he will hurt my heart, it would be too easy for him. But I am wiling to risk it.....maybe he wont. I just need him to know I am stnding still till I know he is ready to be serious.

Melissa,

tell him, not us