I have three Polish male friends, whom I am very fond of. They are all younger than me. They have all, at one time or another, flirted with me.
One friend, who sent me poems, has stopped emailing me all of a sudden. We emailed regularly once a month. I called him last month (he's in Poland) on the phone -- I'm wondering if this surprised him. But why can't I call? We're just friends -- I'm not pursuing him. But perhaps he feels threatened just because I am a woman. Why should this dynamic still be in play?
Another friend feels he can drop over to my house anytime he wants. But he never does anything I ask him to do. So I told him I was going to be a bit busy and I would let him know when my schedule freed up (I've learned enough never to be openly mean to a man!). He fell for it. What I'd really like to do is make him a bit less selfish so he and I can do some things together that I want to do, instead of him coming over, eating my food, and mouthing off like he usually does.
This is the point: even in friendship, men still act like men, and women like women. Women still have to be somewhat manipulative to get the relationship to be "fair".
One friend, who sent me poems, has stopped emailing me all of a sudden. We emailed regularly once a month. I called him last month (he's in Poland) on the phone -- I'm wondering if this surprised him. But why can't I call? We're just friends -- I'm not pursuing him. But perhaps he feels threatened just because I am a woman. Why should this dynamic still be in play?
Another friend feels he can drop over to my house anytime he wants. But he never does anything I ask him to do. So I told him I was going to be a bit busy and I would let him know when my schedule freed up (I've learned enough never to be openly mean to a man!). He fell for it. What I'd really like to do is make him a bit less selfish so he and I can do some things together that I want to do, instead of him coming over, eating my food, and mouthing off like he usually does.
This is the point: even in friendship, men still act like men, and women like women. Women still have to be somewhat manipulative to get the relationship to be "fair".