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Polish Boyfriend Left to Poland


jestesjedyny 5 | 125  
2 Jan 2008 /  #1
Siemaneczko !!

My polish boyfriend and I broke up... simply because his father is leaving to Poland... And he can't stay by himself with no family in US, so he'll have to go with his father and siblings forever. I'm losing him and his sister who is like my best friend. They are leaving soon!! with in 2 months from now. I believe they have the plane tickets already. The father has a wealthy life in Poland!! They have it good in Poland >.< Lands, houses.. etc. My boyfriend tried so hard to think of a way to stay in US with me, but he doesn't think he can make it on his own with no family around... it'd be hard for him to live a good life. I know him for a few months and I truly adore him!!, I know his sister for a longish time and i can say she doesn't want to go, but she is a minor!! 16yrs old and she will go wherever her father goes.

They have been in the US for like 6-7 years.
Do you guys think he will adapt living in Poland?

I'm a very optimistic person with lots of hope. I really want him to stay, if only his father changed his mind, it'd mean the world to me. I just think if it's meant to be, it will be. Maybe he won't adapt himself to live there and will come back... or any other reasons. Don't you think?? Who knows!! life is crazy. He is 21yrs old, a year older than me **blushes** :D ... >.< he is a charming guy... my prince charming ;(

What do you guys think about this whole nightmare? ;(

I don't know guys, I'm so sad!! because if it wasn't for his father wanting to leave, we'd still be together. We had a very good relationship.. >.< && i miss him very much!! But I also want the best for him.<3

BTW: I made up my mind. I will travel to Poland as soon as POSSIBLE!! For vacations. I'm always thinking about it. I'm not Polish... ;( I wish I knew Polish language... I'm always on those websites trying to learn words :p and listening to Polish musyka!! Currently: Chce tu zostac by Farba.

I'd appreciate chatting with you so much!! I think I'm way too sensitive. Cant help it... sowwy ;( hugs :* I typed too much :/
starchild 2 | 120  
2 Jan 2008 /  #2
Oh no... thats really sad.

I don't know if anyone else here has experienced something similar?

I hope you two manage to work something out :-)
OP jestesjedyny 5 | 125  
2 Jan 2008 /  #3
I don't know if anyone else here has experienced something similar?

I was checking 'polish Love and Relationships' for a while, and I couldn't find anything similar ;(

I hope you two manage to work something out :-)

Thank you so much !!
Curtis 3 | 73  
2 Jan 2008 /  #4
When my GF afew years back moved away to australia I felt the same way as you do now. We were both minors so, she had to go with her parents.

Maybe you should just talk to him about it all. Thats the biggest mistake I made. I never sat down with the girl when it happened to me, and she was pretty much scared because she didn't want to get attached. Difference is you have the opportunity to make it better for the both of you. How about leaving it acouple of weeks after he's gone and then meeting him over their. Maybe going to live their short term and see how your relationship goes? If you've only been together a couple of months, your not exactly hitched and married, so don't just jump in their packing your bags and leaving your life for him.

If I was him and you were coming from your own country to be with me. Then I'd be pretty impressed and understand that you are really interested. Just don't go too committed, if it doesn't work out you've still got your life in the US.
plk123 8 | 4,150  
2 Jan 2008 /  #5
let him go hon... don't even think about it.. lust will subside soon enough. now go outside and play or something.

you admire a guy who can't stand up on his own and has to ride his daddy's coatails? wow.. :D :D :D :D this section of the PF has been a real riot as of late.. thanks for the laughs you all. :D :D :D :D
marek s - | 269  
2 Jan 2008 /  #6
enjoy your time thats left with him and when he leaves, you have to get past that and move on.
Lucynda 4 | 70  
2 Jan 2008 /  #7
I have to agree with Plk123.

On the other hand, it will be a good life for your boyfriend if his father is rich. There will be no shortage of eligible young Polkas to marry him....and maybe he'll be happier.

There's lots of Poles here in the U.S. -- there'll be another chance for you, too.
polishgirltx  
2 Jan 2008 /  #8
he doesn't think he can make it on his own with no family around...

of course he would make it! ...easily... he'd find a good job if he tries....
but

he father has a wealthy life in Poland!!

it'd be hard for him to live a good life.

He feels secure with his daddy and he doesn't have to worry about money, bills and work... If he will choose daddy's money and not you (you both are still very young tho), it means he is immature and he'd waste your time... Just wait how it goes, don't rush anything and the time will solve your problem... I know it's hard for you because you have feeling for him, but it's better to end something before all the mess will start...

I wish you all the best and good luck...
plk123 8 | 4,150  
2 Jan 2008 /  #9
of course he would make it! ...easily... he'd find a good job if he tries....
but

spoilt little brats have a hard time here outside of their ivory towers. ;)
OP jestesjedyny 5 | 125  
2 Jan 2008 /  #10
let him go hon... don't even think about it.. lust will subside soon enough. now go outside and play or something.

you admire a guy who can't stand up on his own and has to ride his daddy's coatails? wow.. :D :D :D :D this section of the PF has been a real riot as of late.. thanks for the laughs you all. :D :D :D :D

I admire him for many things. And I understand him... I know your point plk123. But in this case, he works !! He gets everything he wants on his own. I don't want this topic to curve :/ He'd have to start from basically nothing if he stays here in NYC when he has everything in Poland. Put yourself in his place! Working, living in NYC, no family? .. I try to think of me(as a man lol) in the same situation... I'd just go to Poland. But really, he is the kind of guy that works for what he wants. plk123, trust me, living in NYC in 4 walls basically lol just working to pay for rent!! damn the houses are from 600,000$ up!!! forgive you plk <33 you was being honest lol

He feels secure with his daddy and he doesn't have to worry about money, bills and work... If he will choose daddy's money and not you (you both are still very young tho), it means he is immature and he'd waste your time... Just wait how it goes, don't rush anything and the time will solve your problem... I know it's hard for you because you have feeling for him, but it's better to end something before all the mess will start...

I wish you all the best and good luck...

((: but imagine 1,000$ monthly rent +goods +needs + his car + no family. . give up education. And Of course he can make it on his own here.. but its hard. He knows it, I know it. His father wants him there, I guess a good father wouldn't leave his son in another country **alone** oh yea we are young.. :/ I'm in college... but you know time will solver my problem as you said<33

I took my mother's advice.. if its meant to be he will come back... if not amen. God knows whats best for us.

Thank you PolishGirlTx!!! Hopefully everything will turn out for good ((:
plk123 8 | 4,150  
2 Jan 2008 /  #11
zloty exchanges to $ pretty nicely these days. if he really wanted to be with you he would be.. obviously he sees his daddy's money more important.

life is easier here even though that may be hard for you to believe that. those who leave just can't assimilate. if one is successful in one place, they really shouldn't have any problems replicating that in another place.

i know i am bursting your bubble here.. but i think you need it. sry hon.
polishgirltx  
2 Jan 2008 /  #12
((: but imagine 1,000$ monthly rent +goods +needs + his car + no family. . give up education.

well, i started with nothing, i work, go to school, safe, own a car... and i go out often...i don't have any family here, i am on my own....but i made this decision and i am happy...

many people are in the same situation, it's not a big deal or a discovery...

your mom is right, if it is meant to be, you will be together no matter what...
OP jestesjedyny 5 | 125  
2 Jan 2008 /  #13
There's lots of Poles here in the U.S. -- there'll be another chance for you, too.

yup !! true. But heyy.. time will tell !! lol ((: ty!!

polishgirltx

Reallyyyyy !! You're such a strong woman !!!! I wouldn't stay alone at 21. I'd pee my pants :x

:D You guys cheer me up.. even plk123 with his bubbles burster LOL I had to smile/laugh ((: But anyways, I can still keep in touch with him.. and whatever !! who knows. the future has lots of surprises <33 ohhhhhh

Happy New Year everyone!!! Little late. sowwy
z_darius 14 | 3,968  
3 Jan 2008 /  #14
He'd have to start from basically nothing if he stays here in NYC when he has everything in Poland. Put yourself in his place! Working, living in NYC, no family?

Very few of us started with a rich daddy financing our livelihoods inthe US (or wherver else Poles emigrated). Many left behind their family homes and pretty comfortable (financially) lives in Poland. Actually much better than what they had to endure during their first years of immigration. Some not. They came to the US with $10.00 in their hands. Few had even rudimentary English skills. Many fail, but they pick themselves up. People make choices. Your BF chose the security his daddy gives him, and thus he doesn't appear to believe in himself. I'm not sure why you would.

Somehow I feel plk123 has a point.
OP jestesjedyny 5 | 125  
3 Jan 2008 /  #15
z_darius

Yes, definitely!! You're right!! And I understand plk123's point. I appreciate everything you guys have told me.. it cleared up my mind in many aspects. awww is good to have you around hihihihi!!!

:*:* I'll inform you guys if any updates !! lol hugs >.<
saffron 8 | 62  
3 Feb 2008 /  #16
About a year or so ago i was in a simular situation where the guy i liked went back to Poland.He was younger than me by a couple of years and just couldnt hack life here in the UK.His dad and uncle both came over here to work in construction and he tagged along with them but lacked skills to do that kinda work so unfortunately after i fell for him in a big way he decided to go back to Poland to finish his studies!! Naturally i was devastated at the time and there was lots of too-ing and throwing on his part where i would receive random text messages in Polish that i would have to get translated (his english wasnt that great either) but despite my feelings i had to come to the conclusion that he had made his choice to go back to Poland and that i would have to move on.I still think about him and though we arent in contact anymore maybe one day he may come back but in the meantime i am just enjoying life and getting on with it!

i wish you all the luck in the world with your situation and hope it works out well for you x
Ranj 21 | 948  
3 Feb 2008 /  #17
OMG, Saffron.....where've you been....haven't seen you on here in ages!
saffron 8 | 62  
3 Feb 2008 /  #18
Hellooo!!!
Nice to be remembered!! :) just taken a long break from the forum since my Polish boyfriend disappeared!! Tis nice to be back though!! How u doing?? x
michal85 - | 15  
3 Feb 2008 /  #19
Catch another fish. There are plenty of them in the sea.

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