I have met a wonderful Polish woman, but she has a 9 yrs old daughter

yes Michal and you remind me about my experiences, that's why i wrote what i know about it. I think my knowledge may be useful and i also extend your post.

Zgadzam się i dziękuję!

sory mate, to be honest i didn't read all the way through the posts, so i've missed yours, i read the original post and a few throughout. I really think it depends on how your mother/father introduces you to a new partner and on your age/maturety etc.

I'm not saying people who have this attitude that 'its just me and my mother and thats it' this simply means that they have not got over the fact that their parents are not longer together or that one of the other has passed away. There is nothing wrong with feeling the way you did or do, i just feel that over time the situation can improve

Thanks

T

michal quote........Poles do this a lot and are very successful at stealing other people's property.
extend your post please

Does that mean the same thing for you, sucker? You are doing it on purpose, so don't even try to deny it. In fact you should be totally ignored, that would take all the fun from it away for you.

Even if one girl would steal something from some guy, that wouldn't mean all polish people do something like that. And I doubt it, that an 8 year old would be capable of "stealling all someone's things and money". Some people really shouldn't been allowed to use Internet...

Don't rush, Take your time.

Wow, that is quite the accomplishment. Nine year olds are especially good at stealing property. Now my post is almost as ridiculous as Michal's.


Ok, you did say that the little girl will be attached to her mother. One point for you.

However, one person admitting to doing something she's ashamed of and all Poles stealing property is a logical leap, which makes your conclusion not only incorrect but completely absurd.

You would really be surprised by some of the experiences that I used to have in Poland many years ago and believe me, even as guest in someone's house you would be even more surprised by what young children can do. From a children's psychological point of view it would be interesting for you to see at what a young age, children learn to lie and hide their guilt.

I don't really know what kind of family you have in Poland, so speak for yourself, instead of all people.
And I think that you were not speaking about all children in the world, but about polish children being proffessional thiefs... So? Make up your mind, are all children thiefs or is it only polish children that differ so much psychologicaly since the day they are born?

She lives in flat with her aunt, I am not supporting her financially as she works. She left husband after a year, and has been in UK for 4 years.

Bla.

Sorry, but I was not boasting, in fact I am somewhat ashamed of the situation myself,
but you can not help who you fall for.

She left husband after a year of marriage , he too was a little older than her, and she was young and immature, as indeed I was at 27. He does know she is in UK & working.

But thanks for the advice.

doesn't even matter how old she is. She had a family so she should be a bit more responsible and take her butt back again to her husband and kid. Now of course it's too late lol. I bet this guy found already someone more grown up and with more ambitions in life than cleaning toilets in uk and being with 57 years old brit lmao

She came to UK for work and for money to support her son, as her marriage had broken down after a year. She was not looking for a relationship here. Neither of us set out to form a relationship , we just liked each other , and well ...

Wyspianska.

She does't quite clean toliets, but not much better. But more money than she could earn in Poland. Husband has not found anyone, as he still wants her back, but , she does not love him , and would not go back, even for sake of boy, who loves his father as well.

I agree it is a mess, but you can't help who you fall for. 20 years ago , she would have been ideal, but I beleive we will end , as despite everything I am far too conscious of our age gap, especially if we went to Poland.

I appreciate your comments. There is no dupa like an old dupa.

is that so! lol i dont quite agree...


i suppose some people mature later than others, im 22 and i think im a bit more mature than her. but then a Polish friend of mine who is about her age found herself in a simular situation, though both her and her husband came to uk with their daughter. He controlled her a lot cos she had a thing with another bloke back in Poland (they only got married cos she got pregnant), they stuck together for the sake of the child but it didnt work, she later found someone else (British) and now shes happy with him. My friend and her ex dont really get on and he makes her life sh*t, but hes got a new woman (Polish) too, who likes to add fuel to the situation as well... Its a mess, and the poor little girl is in the middle of this.

um he has to be stupid. very stupid lol


hah and you are an old one for sure

peace

Did you really have to go to Poland to experience lies?
Weren't you fed them every minute of your life in your beloved USSR?
They were so in trying to hide their lies they even called the chief source of lies "Pravda".

You have to remember that Polish people do not mature any where so quickly as their English counterparts.

lol now thats a remark sure to cause a few replies, i have found though that the 'polish villagers' have led very small lives consisting of homework, school, homework, school and then sleep. They miss out on so many other things and then when they come to the uk their people skills are just awful, lol, however that is only a few i have met.

It might also help to explain why they are so cleaky and are always found to be in groups. The Roman Catholic school forgives them for everything, which might explain why their social skills are so very poor.

lol, i should have guessed 'religion' again, the answer to what causes the worlds problems seems to be the big word :) as for the personal skills, i think you could be right there Michal but its about personal experiences, usually these type of poles i have met haven't been exposed to the real world, therefore they haven't experienced real life situations whether they are big or small

I have to disagree with this one here. Usually the villagers are less educated, except when 'brainwashed' by the Church ( I actually kind of almost agree with Michal there). They're also more skilled in the actual job market than many of the ones that are from the cities. It seems kind of counter-logical but I know A LOT more successful villagers from Poland than the city slickers. In Toronto, we have tons of them opening up construction businesses and doing amazingly well (My dad can vouch for that!) because they're used to the physical exertion. The city people tend to end up working in bakeries and butcher shops (Starsky lol).

Regarding the Church....I'm Catholic and don't intend to give up on my religion but yeah, it can definitly brainwash people into becoming overly religious and this does happen a lot in villages.

by no way was i questioning the villagers ability to think, in fact the same people i have been talking about tend to be brilliant academics due to the homework, school, homework, school thing. There is nothing wrong with being an academic but if you lack people skills then its difficult to get of the ground in the UK as i'm sure it is in Polska

I know...I'm actually saying its the opposite. I honestly don't know many villagers that are very academic lol!

Still quicker than russians it seems... cause the way you act here... i wouldn't say you're more than 13 if you're polish...

As I read your posts, I get the feeling that you are sad and lousy jerk, isn't that the case? It seems that you have stupid, immature polish wife, your polish daughter is a thief since she was a baby and you are just overflowing with frustrations here. I bet you wouldn't have the guts to say all these things to polish people right in the face or you would get slapped like a cheap **** and sh*t your pants. You think you are so much better than others, while in fact it's quite opposite and only hiding behind the internet connection gives you the courage to do what you're doing here. I didn't have anything against russians, but if they are all like you, then it has to be the most pathetic nation I have ever heard about. But i guess it's just you.. getting excited writing bullsh*t about Poland, at least as long as nobody knows who you are, right?

Is there any administrator here? I just can't understand why this looser is still here... He would have been banned long time ago on any other forum for trolling... but is still tolerated here... I came here to practise my english a bit and see what people around the world know and think of Poland... But just reading what this intellectual impotent writes about makes me wonder if it's worth the time.

holy condescending-judgemental-irrelevent-self-righteous-posts batman!

hey man, all you can do is put your best foot forward and try. if you two can be honest and make it work, well then good for you and fcuk the losers that need to pass judgement. There will always be the holier than thou crowd in every country, the one here just has a higher pitch than elsewhere.

Hey FIRE that is totally awesome.

Just be yourself. You are such a great guy I am sure she will love you. Just treat her like a human, get down to her level and give her your undivided attention when it is your time to hang with her. Both your new ladies will love you for it. :-D

They certainly ruled you for long enough and they only gave you back when they had enough!

And you would have to hide behind all that army to stop your knees shaking idiot. I see you didn't achieve anything yourself in your pathetic life and that's why you have to talk about great Russia all the time... Who did you rule? Your dog? Or maybe even that's too much for you?

And tell me, why do you have a polish wife?

That just sounds wrong, who are you trying to charm and have the relationship with the mother or the daughter.

You keep the mother happy and she'll keep the daughter happy, remember you're not her dad, and never will be !

Send the daughter to a catholic girls boarding school if you are that bothered about it !

im sorry but i cant agree, if the guy wants to be with that woman he should make the effort to be friends with the daughter, after all - whatever happens the daughter comes 'inclusive' with her mom and if the kid doesnt like you cos you dont give a sh*t about her than the mom aint gonna be happy either. dont underestimate a womans maternal instinct, the daughter will always come first especially that shes still very young and needs her mom a lot. that is a very selfish and immature statement, bajka. how would you feel if you had a kid and your lady didnt give a sh*t about him/her?

There's at least for a month of meat on a 9 year-old - should be a good investment in the future...Kids are great in filled soups and stews.

M-G (in a funny mood today)