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Met a polish boy last summer

23 May 2007 /  #1
I met a polish boy last summer through some friends and we instantly took a liking to each other, he is a great guy and we have been dating for almost seven months now. I am currently going into my first year at university but there are things I wonder about. I know very little about Poland and I have spent some time learning a bit about it.

When I spend time with him things are great and his mom likes me (his parents are divorced), but the problem is that when I am with his family they only speak polish and I feel left out, I have been trying to learn but the grammer is tricky lol. Anyways is there a problem? Do they not like me much cause I feel really left out sometimes...also I havent met his father in seven months of I missing something?
shewolf 5 | 1,077  
23 May 2007 /  #2
When I spend time with him things are great and his mom likes me

If his mom likes you, you're a step ahead. Some moms aren't so nice. I wouldn't worry about the rest of the family speaking in Polish around you. You're not dating them. All that matters is that your boyfriend likes you.
389 4 | 31  
24 May 2007 /  #3
I understand what is it like to be in a situation where you feeling left out when others talking because you don't understand what they saying,i've head same experience.The best you could do is even though you don't understand what they saying, try not to get caught sleeping while they are talking if you know what i mean.Try to stay active and awake and show that you are listening and stuff,smile here and there to her mom even though you don't understand what they are saying.Trust me, just a lil smile like that will mean big for his mother.

But like above girl said, at the end of the day the only thing is matters is you and him.So i wouldn't stress over this.
glowa 1 | 291  
24 May 2007 /  #4
Elizabeth, I've been there. well, I felt like you when I visited my gf's parents in France, she felt the same in Poland. Weird a thing to face at first, but have a bit of patience. You feel left out when they speak Polish, most likely you guy's mother feels the same when you two talk to each other in English, when she's around. I'm pretty sure, she'd like to join your conversations as you'd like to join theirs. It's a bit of a downside of an international relationship. It's easy to cope with though. Have some patience, that's all. You'll learn to talk to them, even if you're not able to speak Polish. My gf somehow manages to 'talk' to my parents, funny a scene to see, but once a while when they get dead-locked, i just step in and translate, even though often they just tell me to go to hell, 'cause they don't need me :)
OP elizabeth13248  
24 May 2007 /  #5
Your right that I need to be patient, I'll learn eventually. I guess what I am more concerned about is that his family members can speak english so it's not that they can speak english, it's that they choose not to I guess....i'm not sure and don't want to make any assumptions.
krysia 23 | 3,058  
24 May 2007 /  #6
When I spoke Polish around my x-husband's family, they thought it was very rude and inconsiderate of me. When I speak English around Polish people, they think it's cool and don't think it's rude at all, they listen and want to learn the language.

So if someone is speaking in their native language around you, it's because it's easier and it doesn't mean they talk about you... :)

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