Polish men and sex

hey
im an 18 yr old girl going out with a 22 yr old polish guy, only been seeing each other a few weeks and he treats me like a queen, always taking me places, buying me things, always romanic and respectful...(he even kissed my mums hand when he met her!) he seems more than happy to sit on the sofa for hours cuddling and when we fall asleep we always wake up in each others arms as we fell asleep the night before, but the only thing is sex..... he seems strangely uninterested... now this only bothers me as all the english blokes ive been out with its first on their mind, but with him it seems the last. he says he doesnt want to hurt me and wants to wait..... is this kind of respect normal in polish men?? no offence to poles but i always had quite a nevgite veiw on their men... but maybe i was misuderstood??

Well, either you're very lucky or just the opposite ;)
You may believe him and understand, that this guy seems to be the sir Lancelot type, which is quite lovely I think, or he is just not very much sexual, which may be a problem for you in the future.

Exactly :):)

future??? im only human!! not that i want him to be a sex maniac but a little attention in that area would nt go a miss.... polish men points of veiw please?

Polish men - seems to me - are like all the other men on earth: some are sex maniacs, some are romantic, some have respect for women, some have even too much respect for women :)

Maybe the only real difference is that here you have a greater chance of meeting a Catholic who may prefer not to have sex till marriage - but not that often in the young generation anyways... Plus men here buy flowers. And kiss hands (rarely, but still). Plus give up their seats on a bus.

you are quite right, i suppose i shouldnt generalize people into one catagory. ive just never come across this before... lol... can you tell im going out with the wrong men?! his definatly not catholic though.. and im probably just a bit paranoid..... and i tend to thing english men buy flowers, buy you drinks... and expect something in return.... i guess i just got lucky!

That's very possible - enjoy then! ;)

could he be gay.. or am I just cynical?

You tart.........lol...

Ela you will find 5-10 % of guys have whats known as a low sex drive....ie it equates to the drive of virtually all women....only interested in the whole sex thing in a warm caring relationship....requiring a significant amount of stimulation/foreplay........not unusual...or maybe a little bit more christian about the whole thing.......or scared...or not well endowed..........you'd be surprised!!

LOL classic! :D

Goonie...I just hope Puzzler doesn't post and ask me for the reference(s).....:(....not so classic then!!!!!

Serious point re sex drive though Goonie........

Im a Polish men :))) and I think this guy is an exception!!!!

well its good to know he is an exception... and Frank, you may disagree.. but thats cos you are a guy so maybe you dont know about what some women really think and feel about sex. You may not wish to believe it, but its true that there are women who think and indulge in sex more than some men. ..not saying its the norm, but it happens..

are you saying he doesn't get physically aroused or is it that he does get aroused but holds back? I'm confused.


I agree sapphire. I think some men don't realize the constant biological need that women feel and struggle with. Since women don't broadcast it all over the place like men do, maybe that's why they don't realize it.

And also, women are more cautious because they're the ones who can get pregnant. Men can just indulge with whoever and go on with their lives but some women think about how it might change their life if they were to indulge with whoever. Maybe that's why men get the idea that women only care about having sex in a relationship?

He has a girl at home and he is feeling guilty.

W...you cynic..........its called...."girlfriend droop"...lol

He might be a Priest

He may be a virgin and doesn't know where to start. He may feel awkward and be taking the path of least resistance.

Get him pi$$ed and then try.


Who? Me!.........Never.

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In which case substitute girlfriend for altar boy and home for vestry.

why am I a tart for suggesting he might be gay? actually I think the other options are more likely (ie) he has a girlfriend or he is a virgin or not very experienced and feels nervous

Sounds like he's just a nice guy who prefers to get to know someone before getting involved sexually, nothing wrong with that - and a few weeks isn't exactly a long time to wait

mmmm, men usually think with there little head should we say, if you know what I mean

Agrees with Amathyst, but as you get older you understand this, but when your younger we always had a saying, one you miss out on is one you never catch up on.

i think this guy just wants to take things slow, my boyfriend is polish and we didnt have sex till three weeks in to the relationship, he certainly not gay thats for sure. its so true that polish men know how to look after there girlfriends. goodbye english men forever

just respect him like he respects you. you see to some polish men its not just having sex its actually making love and when they do its like the best thing ever

That is sooo cute!


Aww, I hate that saying :( Its affecting me soo much!... Im not going into it.!

my boyfriend does that too and always takes flowers when he goes to visit. The other day we were getting on the tube at rush hour, which normally people just push and shove you out the way.. my partner stopped to let a woman get on first.. she looked so shocked cos you just dont expect that kind of chivalry on public transport in london.. later she kept eyeing him up, so good job I was there! You cant put a price on good manners.

Maybe it's coincidence, maybe it's another generalisation but I think it's a Polish thing. It's how my parents raised me too & how other men in my family were raised as well. The kiss on the hand, the chivalry, etc.. not that it works though, most women think you're a wuss anyway for doing that in my experience

Sparrow, my god, have you been dating pirahnas or women? Seems like someone(s) really done a number on you!

I wish.

Meh, I feel like I'm turning into a mysogynist.. :-\ I should stay away from these topics :)

I'm starting to really worry about you.....

Any woman who doesn't appreciate flowers, or a kiss on the hand or any of those liitle considerate gestures, has something amiss. That just does not happen here in the US (at least not in the majority). Maybe you are in the wrong country!