Return PolishForums LIVE
  PolishForums Archive :
Archives - 2005-2009 / Love  % width 89

Polish men and sex


ela d  
11 May 2007 /  #1
hey
im an 18 yr old girl going out with a 22 yr old polish guy, only been seeing each other a few weeks and he treats me like a queen, always taking me places, buying me things, always romanic and respectful...(he even kissed my mums hand when he met her!) he seems more than happy to sit on the sofa for hours cuddling and when we fall asleep we always wake up in each others arms as we fell asleep the night before, but the only thing is sex..... he seems strangely uninterested... now this only bothers me as all the english blokes ive been out with its first on their mind, but with him it seems the last. he says he doesnt want to hurt me and wants to wait..... is this kind of respect normal in polish men?? no offence to poles but i always had quite a nevgite veiw on their men... but maybe i was misuderstood??
ladystardust - | 84  
11 May 2007 /  #2
Well, either you're very lucky or just the opposite ;)
You may believe him and understand, that this guy seems to be the sir Lancelot type, which is quite lovely I think, or he is just not very much sexual, which may be a problem for you in the future.
Grzegorz_ 51 | 6,163  
11 May 2007 /  #3
Well, either you're very lucky or just the opposite ;)

Exactly :):)
OP ela d  
11 May 2007 /  #4
which may be a problem for you in the future

future??? im only human!! not that i want him to be a sex maniac but a little attention in that area would nt go a miss.... polish men points of veiw please?
ladystardust - | 84  
11 May 2007 /  #5
Polish men - seems to me - are like all the other men on earth: some are sex maniacs, some are romantic, some have respect for women, some have even too much respect for women :)

Maybe the only real difference is that here you have a greater chance of meeting a Catholic who may prefer not to have sex till marriage - but not that often in the young generation anyways... Plus men here buy flowers. And kiss hands (rarely, but still). Plus give up their seats on a bus.
OP ela d  
11 May 2007 /  #6
Polish men - seems to me - are like all the other men on earth: some are sex maniacs, some are romantic, some have respect for women, some have even too much respect for women :)

you are quite right, i suppose i shouldnt generalize people into one catagory. ive just never come across this before... lol... can you tell im going out with the wrong men?! his definatly not catholic though.. and im probably just a bit paranoid..... and i tend to thing english men buy flowers, buy you drinks... and expect something in return.... i guess i just got lucky!
ladystardust - | 84  
11 May 2007 /  #7
That's very possible - enjoy then! ;)
sapphire 22 | 1,241  
11 May 2007 /  #8
could he be gay.. or am I just cynical?
Frank 23 | 1,183  
11 May 2007 /  #9
You tart.........lol...

Ela you will find 5-10 % of guys have whats known as a low sex drive....ie it equates to the drive of virtually all women....only interested in the whole sex thing in a warm caring relationship....requiring a significant amount of stimulation/foreplay........not unusual...or maybe a little bit more christian about the whole thing.......or scared...or not well endowed..........you'd be surprised!!
Goonie 8 | 242  
11 May 2007 /  #10
ie it equates to the drive of virtually all women....

LOL classic! :D
Frank 23 | 1,183  
11 May 2007 /  #11
Goonie...I just hope Puzzler doesn't post and ask me for the reference(s).....:(....not so classic then!!!!!

Serious point re sex drive though Goonie........
puhszkin  
11 May 2007 /  #12
Im a Polish men :))) and I think this guy is an exception!!!!
sapphire 22 | 1,241  
11 May 2007 /  #13
well its good to know he is an exception... and Frank, you may disagree.. but thats cos you are a guy so maybe you dont know about what some women really think and feel about sex. You may not wish to believe it, but its true that there are women who think and indulge in sex more than some men. ..not saying its the norm, but it happens..
shewolf 5 | 1,077  
11 May 2007 /  #14
but the only thing is sex..... he seems strangely uninterested.

are you saying he doesn't get physically aroused or is it that he does get aroused but holds back? I'm confused.

but thats cos you are a guy so maybe you dont know about what some women really think and feel about sex. You may not wish to believe it, but its true that there are women who think and indulge in sex more than some men. ..not saying its the norm, but it happens..

I agree sapphire. I think some men don't realize the constant biological need that women feel and struggle with. Since women don't broadcast it all over the place like men do, maybe that's why they don't realize it.

And also, women are more cautious because they're the ones who can get pregnant. Men can just indulge with whoever and go on with their lives but some women think about how it might change their life if they were to indulge with whoever. Maybe that's why men get the idea that women only care about having sex in a relationship?
Wroclaw 44 | 5,386  
11 May 2007 /  #15
he doesnt want to hurt me and wants to wait.....

He has a girl at home and he is feeling guilty.
Frank 23 | 1,183  
11 May 2007 /  #16
W...you cynic..........its called...."girlfriend droop"...lol
szarlotka 8 | 2,209  
11 May 2007 /  #17
He has a girl at home and he is feeling guilty

He might be a Priest
Wroclaw 44 | 5,386  
11 May 2007 /  #18
He may be a virgin and doesn't know where to start. He may feel awkward and be taking the path of least resistance.

Get him pi$$ed and then try.

you cynic..........

Who? Me!.........Never.

Moderator: A double space between quote and preceding sentence, please.
Hueg - | 320  
11 May 2007 /  #19
He might be a Priest

In which case substitute girlfriend for altar boy and home for vestry.
sapphire 22 | 1,241  
12 May 2007 /  #20
You tart.........

why am I a tart for suggesting he might be gay? actually I think the other options are more likely (ie) he has a girlfriend or he is a virgin or not very experienced and feels nervous
Amathyst 19 | 2,702  
13 May 2007 /  #21
Sounds like he's just a nice guy who prefers to get to know someone before getting involved sexually, nothing wrong with that - and a few weeks isn't exactly a long time to wait
Eamon - | 27  
13 May 2007 /  #22
mmmm, men usually think with there little head should we say, if you know what I mean
davidpeake 14 | 451  
14 May 2007 /  #23
Sounds like he's just a nice guy who prefers to get to know someone before getting involved sexually, nothing wrong with that - and a few weeks isn't exactly a long time to wait

Agrees with Amathyst, but as you get older you understand this, but when your younger we always had a saying, one you miss out on is one you never catch up on.
emma  
14 May 2007 /  #24
i think this guy just wants to take things slow, my boyfriend is polish and we didnt have sex till three weeks in to the relationship, he certainly not gay thats for sure. its so true that polish men know how to look after there girlfriends. goodbye english men forever

just respect him like he respects you. you see to some polish men its not just having sex its actually making love and when they do its like the best thing ever
Christy 2 | 12  
14 May 2007 /  #25
he even kissed my mums hand when he met her

That is sooo cute!

one you miss out on is one you never catch up on.

Aww, I hate that saying :( Its affecting me soo much!... Im not going into it.!
sapphire 22 | 1,241  
14 May 2007 /  #26
he even kissed my mums hand when he met her

my boyfriend does that too and always takes flowers when he goes to visit. The other day we were getting on the tube at rush hour, which normally people just push and shove you out the way.. my partner stopped to let a woman get on first.. she looked so shocked cos you just dont expect that kind of chivalry on public transport in london.. later she kept eyeing him up, so good job I was there! You cant put a price on good manners.
sparrow 2 | 243  
14 May 2007 /  #27
Maybe it's coincidence, maybe it's another generalisation but I think it's a Polish thing. It's how my parents raised me too & how other men in my family were raised as well. The kiss on the hand, the chivalry, etc.. not that it works though, most women think you're a wuss anyway for doing that in my experience
shopgirl 6 | 928  
14 May 2007 /  #28
The kiss on the hand, the chivalry, etc.. not that it works though, most women think you're a wuss anyway for doing that in my experience

Sparrow, my god, have you been dating pirahnas or women? Seems like someone(s) really done a number on you!
sparrow 2 | 243  
14 May 2007 /  #29
Sparrow, my god, have you been dating

I wish.

Meh, I feel like I'm turning into a mysogynist.. :-\ I should stay away from these topics :)
shopgirl 6 | 928  
14 May 2007 /  #30
I'm starting to really worry about you.....

Any woman who doesn't appreciate flowers, or a kiss on the hand or any of those liitle considerate gestures, has something amiss. That just does not happen here in the US (at least not in the majority). Maybe you are in the wrong country!

Archives - 2005-2009 / Love / Polish men and sexArchived