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Polish girls' obsession with marriage


Isaac - | 1  
2 Apr 2009 /  #31
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I'm a Ghanaian with two English children.I live with my lovely Polish girlfriend,we work so hard to support my children,they loves her and she loves them.We want to get marry but i have my documents in the UK Home Office to be sorted out.Can we marry here as she is so impatience.Her parents know we are together and all the families.
sister act 2 | 88  
4 Apr 2009 /  #32
I'm not even saying that each and everyone of them is a gold digger. But many are, and they love to pounce on foreigners like a cat would

Ihave to agree this man speaks the truth

more likely to give her a better life, financially speaking.

Do you blame them??? YOU are their free ticket out of Poland and into a "life of wealth!"

So much pressure.It is unbelievable.

Ok all ture from my experience, my 2 sisters in law came to ireland with two lovely hard working polish fellas, They were very handsome well mannered guys and both very much in love with their girlfriends, If fact both fellas had come to ireland and worked to pay for the girlfriends to come to ireland they spent every penny the earned on rent and keeping the girls in all the latest fashions, fake nails and hairdressers evey week. They were all sharing a one bedroomed flat, When the mother in law came to ireland for the first time and her first time an aeroplane she thought she had hit the jack pot, she instructed the girls to dump the polish fellas and find a rich irish man. Their familys future was now in Ireland now she could go back to the little village and boast of her good fortune, Her son was then sent over to Ireland, his job was now to pay the rent and take care of the sisters, while polish boyfriends were sent out on the streets, they ended up in a homeless shelter pretty much soon after that they went back to poland broken hearted sad and depressed and with no money. Now the brother my now husband had to go out to work construction while his sisters stayed at home he was paying all the bills. So months passed like this and the sisters who are really really really good lookin by the way, bagged themselfs Irish Men. Oh yes here is when Karma came back to bite them in the backside. The youngest sister aged 20 met this 36 year old man I can only describe him as a scum bag we have lots of them in dublin, He was married with a young child he came and went in her life bring her ups and downs, Long story short she got pregnant he was in mountjoy jail during the 9 months he surfaced for the birth, he played dad for about a month and then left her when the child was a 4 weeks old for a russian girl. He has not paid one cent for this child, she should of stuck with the lovely polish fella, as for the other sister she met another fool who has a great job but puts all his money up his nose or on the horses, he dosen't have a cent and now the sister has to get a job to pay the rent
OP southern 75 | 7,096  
4 Apr 2009 /  #33
and now the sister has to get a job to pay the rent

Or get a new boyfriend.This is what our mission is about.To pay rents.
sister act 2 | 88  
4 Apr 2009 /  #34
Or get a new boyfriend.This is what our mission is about.To pay rents.

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Yes you hit the nail on head, a polish mans sole purpose for the polish girl from a little village with not much skills to surrive is to get a man to take care of them. I think its a weird freak of nature that the girls i met from the village and my husbands sisters are really good lookin, which means they have no problem attracting any man they want, Why do men fall for this why can't men not see beyond the good looks.they have no personalties and harbour a lot of anger and resment no matter what you do it is never right, Please good men of the world be carefull not to fall for this trap,

I have many good female polish friends and i can see a big difference between city girls and village girls, or well educated gone to collage girls, my city girl polish friends as i call them do not behave like this.
Seanus 15 | 19,706  
4 Apr 2009 /  #35
Have you lived in Polish villages, sister act? A lot have no personalities, it's true. Ah well, not everyone can be like my sweet little angel :)
sister act 2 | 88  
4 Apr 2009 /  #36
Yes, I have lived in a small polish village and i intend to a again when my daughter goes to school i want her to speak polish so i plan to spend the a few years there. I was only with my husband a few weeks and was silly enough to get tricked in to the old "are you coming to visit the poor mother for christmas business" you can read my post its on the deleted page of this fourm. It was then I realised i had to buy a house in poland. I knew i wouldn't put another foot inside the door of my inlaws house ever again so as not to cut my husband from poland life also, we go a few times a year i like it in the summer there is a lake very close to us we go out on a little boat take walks in the forests fishing and stuff the summers good i also like to go when there is a good snow fall as we never get snow in dublin, I think the country side with all the snow coverd trees and forzen lakes are amazing. I am happy you have a little angel, What country did you meet your litle angle in
Seanus 15 | 19,706  
4 Apr 2009 /  #37
I met her here. She is a hard-working individual who is perfect wife material. Young Polish women who go abroad have a lot of growing up to do. The problem is, men like princesses all too often.
OP southern 75 | 7,096  
4 Apr 2009 /  #38
a polish mans sole purpose for the polish girl from a little village with not much skills to surrive is to get a man to take care of them.

Yes,but polish girls from village do unbelievable things in bed.
sister act 2 | 88  
4 Apr 2009 /  #39
Fine just have fun in bed do amazing things what ever makes you happy just don't turn in to a bank machine and give them evey cent you earn let them take care of themselfs, we have equal rights why do they expect men to take care of them,
Seanus 15 | 19,706  
4 Apr 2009 /  #40
Because they are princesses, didn't you know? ;)
sister act 2 | 88  
4 Apr 2009 /  #41
men like princesses all too often

Any Idea how long this growing up process takes, i understand the princessesframe of mind my two sisters. I am at my withsend with my two pricncesses, any advice on how to deal with them i at a loss,

For example i got a phone call to pick her up as the her baby was really sick, so i said for the babys sake i pick her up it was lashing raining and freezing plus the buggy had no cover to protect from the rain, any way she was only five mins away, I picked her up put the child in the car seat and she sat in the back, now any one that knows dublin city centre knows its a one way street system and you have to drive all around the world to get where you want to go. "I was only going a short journey from O'connell street to north cirular road, She just started SCREAMING what way are you going you fool are from dublin and you don't know your way around just go straight, " I just repiled its a one way system a i can't just go straight and if you don't like my driving get out of my F*@Kin car

Well the abuse the turned to insults of me and my driving the child was screaming at this stage, in the middle of o'connell street i just jumped out of the car walked around opened her door and pulled her out, How could she speak to me like that i was only doing her a favour picking her up in the rain, this is all coming from a girl that can't even drive. and thats the thanks you get if you try and help a whole load of abuse.
OP southern 75 | 7,096  
4 Apr 2009 /  #42
we have equal rights why do they expect men to take care of them,

Till the time we equal their abilities in bed,we probably have to pay.
Seanus 15 | 19,706  
4 Apr 2009 /  #43
You just have to be firm and snap them out of it. We have more of an influence on the behaviour of others than we imagine.
sister act 2 | 88  
4 Apr 2009 /  #44
your right i know but they seem so angry at me at feel hard done by and think that they have a claim to my money and my house all because I am married to the brother. They just see me as a rich irish girl, and don't take in account that i had to work for very hard for my money.
Seanus 15 | 19,706  
4 Apr 2009 /  #45
This is despicable, I see it everywhere. Wishing sb dead or otherwise positioned so they can steal in and swipe the cash. You are rich perhaps because you worked your ass off for it. Keep what you got and let others pave their way.
sister act 2 | 88  
4 Apr 2009 /  #46
This is despicable

Why is the world full of people that want to bleed other people dry,? that why I get very wary of people who expect men to pay for them and girls that take advantage of men by spending their money,

let others pave their way.

Never a truer word spoken.

Let prinesess pay their way,

you worked your ass off for it. Keep what you got and let others pave their way.

good men of the world ok
Seanus 15 | 19,706  
4 Apr 2009 /  #47
I feel the same. I'm always clear on finances. The groundrules have been laid and those around me know where they stand. I don't share the Polish view on money at all, what they consider good and what I do are 2 different things.

Bleeding others dry can be seen on a heinous scale. Like Bush killing his own people to make profits and increase his sphere of influence.

When you start down the path of generosity, people come to expect it of you and will actually grow to dislike you when you throttle back on the handouts. It's like smoking, when you are on that road, there's often no looking back. Celts know this well, 'you have to be cruel to be kind'. I was a soft touch but no more.
sister act 2 | 88  
4 Apr 2009 /  #48
'you have to be cruel to be kind'

thats right, i see a lot of men get taken advantage of, like young polish men that are lonely and give in to keep their princess happy. I see my father in law trapped and bullied by a controling mother, as well as a wife and now daughters, he is now responsible for the grandchild as well . I see my father in law work in a soul destorying job to support his family.I had to put my foot down also, where the baby is concerned so now any time i am ask to support the child be it with money or anything else. I just have to say no, me an my husband refused the offer to be god parents.
Seanus 15 | 19,706  
4 Apr 2009 /  #49
One of the downsides of being conditioned to be a new-age man. It's almost like being PC to an excessive level. They over accommodate and let all manner of sins take place. Yes, PC has its plusses as does being a sensitive guy but when guys go against their natural instincts and try to consciously be considerate of a range of things, they overdo it and end up in shtook. The key to life is balance!
osiol 55 | 3,922  
4 Apr 2009 /  #50
Hen-pecked husbands have been around a lot longer than new-age man.
Seanus 15 | 19,706  
4 Apr 2009 /  #51
Yeah but there was a time when being a new-age man was thrust upon us by a whole host of magazines. You are right, OsioĊ‚, but there was a concerted drive to convert some men into being more considerate and aware of the needs of their feminine counterparts.
OP southern 75 | 7,096  
4 Apr 2009 /  #52
and girls that take advantage of men by spending their money,

I would like to be a gigolo to bleed girls dry.
sister act 2 | 88  
4 Apr 2009 /  #53
It's almost like being PC to an excessive level[/quote]

what PC mean, thats a new one on me,

Hen-pecked husbands have been around a lot longer than new-age man.

when are the hen pecked men going to stop been hen pecked, When are they going
to stop accepting this treatment.

I would like to be a gigolo to bleed girls dry.

I can under stand how you feel like this especially if you have come across women like my sisters and mother in law, The bleeding dry can work both ways my in laws have tried it with me, Its time to stop bleeing people dry once and for all.

Seanus said it best, when he posted this,

You are rich perhaps because you worked your ass off for it. Keep what you got and let others pave their way.

sausage 19 | 777  
4 Apr 2009 /  #54
PC

Politically correct
OP southern 75 | 7,096  
4 Apr 2009 /  #55
is to get a man to take care of them

I remember a dialogue with a czech girl.

-Why don't you kiss me?
-Because you don't care about me.I want a man who really cares about me.
-Do you want this pair of shoes?
-Exactly.
sister act 2 | 88  
4 Apr 2009 /  #56
this stuff makes me anrgy, why would a woman want a man too take care of her, I remember in the early weeks with my husband when, His polish friends dishing out advice him, telling him that he should buy me clothes to impress me and keep, he kept saying come on i will take you shopping, I found it insulting too me, it caused lots of fights, i was saying" whats wrong with my clothes, are you blind did you not see my bedroom all my wardrobes were bursting at the seams i had a clothes and shoe mountain taking up half the room, I kept telling him what do you think you are my dad? " I found this attuide to be very degrading. I just don't under stand the girls that think this is right to take from a man when she can get it for herself.
OP southern 75 | 7,096  
4 Apr 2009 /  #57
Message from polish girl:''Widzisz ani ty nie mozesz mi pomuc a ja chce kogos kto chce byc zemna i trochu pomocy.''
Belarus girls can be worse.For example:''We don't have so nice Adidas in Belarus.We will go to shop to buy me some Adidas.''Or ''Buy me this bag now because tomorrow I will choose a more expensive one''.''Or ''if you don't buy what I want,I will work in a go-go club and get the money I need.''

Ukrainian girl:''I want a present.''Czech girl:''I want a present for me,one for my mother,one for my grandfather and one for my grandmother.You didn't buy present for my grandmother.''Ukrainian girl:''If you buy a mobile phone for my girlfriend,you will have both of us.''Ukrainian girl:''I feel very lonely.I need time to recover.But if you buy me this brand new mobile phone which does not exist in Ukraine,I will invite you home.''

Or:''Every new relationship in Ukraine begins with a nice present.I like very much this jacket.''Or:Will you buy me the watch or the necklace?-Thank you for the watch.-Will I take the necklace as well?''
sister act 2 | 88  
4 Apr 2009 /  #58
''Widzisz ani ty nie mozesz mi pomuc a ja chce kogos kto chce byc zemna i trochu pomocy.''

oh my god, if all the men in the countrys were girls behaved liked this just told them to f@~k off whats wrong with you? get a job i am not your daddy.

You are rich perhaps because you worked your ass off for it. Keep what you got and let others pave their way.

Why can't more girls adopt this attuide. if you can't take care of yourself don't expect others to, how can this be love between a man and a woman one person in the relationship on the take the whole time. Where is the respect? why do men contuine with this why why why,
OP southern 75 | 7,096  
4 Apr 2009 /  #59
oh my god, if all the men in the countrys were girls behaved liked this just told them to f@~k off whats wrong with you? get a job i am not your daddy

Then we would all become german or dutch and split the costs.
There is also the slavic concept of generosity.Unconditioned love,unconditioned expenses.
Seanus 15 | 19,706  
4 Apr 2009 /  #60
Society has taught us this. That the man should go out to work and bring home the bread, to be the breadwinner as they say. Women grew fed up and wanted to climb certain career ladders too. So, gradually, they were afforded certain opportunities and men adjusted to accommodate and facilitate this process. Many made it which was good. Still, others didn't make the effort and waited for the man to take home the dough. Men like having a woman for obvious reasons, hence the blindness at times.

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