Discussion about Polish Men's Tempers

my bf is of course polish. he told me his dad used to beat his mom, but hasnt for ten years now. now the other night, we had weed together and i started laughing and acting silly, but my bf didnt like it and started to punch me.

i am still with him as he said he wouldnt do it again and that it was beacuse of he weed.

he said before he would never hit me and he did. its weird because i love him and he loves me. did i do the right thing by sticking by him, cuz he is gunna get help?

the real question. do most polish men have bad tempers, also towards women?

your bf needs help. I don't know where you are but beating women has nothing to do with nationality.

one man doing that to a woman is not very good and is not a man
no is only polish men who do that ,happen in all countrys mexico too
so you better run from him now

Do you want the honest, I may upset your sensibilities answer, or the answer you'd like to hear?

Wtf is wrong with that guy? Is he retarded??? I'll tell you right now I never have a bad temper/attitude towards women. Most Polish guys are a little "old fashioned" when it comes to being curtious so we still do all the hand kissing and "politeness" thing all the American guys should study up on. :)

Ask yourself this: if you had been a 6 foot, muscle bound police officer with a gun in hand, would he have hit you? I don't think so. He would have controlled himself. Why did he do this to you, then? Because he can. What's to stop him from doing it again? I'm just trying to make a point.

that is so true. and i know that its not just polish guys who are violent but the thing is, in the beggining, he was polite, kissed my hand, opened doors and all that and treated me like a real lady.

at first i thought he was trying to suffocate me, but he just put the pillow over my head and punched, 3rd time was the hardest. i was so shocked i cried, and then he hugged me saying sorry.

he sais he is sorry. he is the first man to treat me so nice though.

should i stick with him to make him seek help for his anger and violent outbursts?

Why did you just cry? Didn't you feel like beating the hell out of him? What was going through your mind?

Jesus! H! Christ!

Thank god he said sorry eh? That was sarcasm btw.

Look it's easy for me to sit here and say this but...


There is NO, i'll say that again, in case you missed it, NO excuse for violence. FULL STOP. If this was a friend telling you the story, how would you react?

Just because you love him, doesn't make it right. No matter what else he's done, however nice he's been, that is wrong and you don't deserve it.

No one does.

Obvoiusly it's your decision, but if it were me I'd be at minimum on the next bus/plane/train outta there.

Bottom line. Anyone who resorts to violence is a weak person, anyone who hits women, is a scumbag. Sorry if i sound harsh, but that's perhaps the only thing I get worked up about in this life. That and sunday drivers. :)

remember. i was stoned first time in my life. i was weak, my mouth was dry, i was slow at reactions. it really hurt. i wanted to, but i would never hit a person, its wrong. not even a guy.

am i weak? i am so confused.

Well there's a good topic :)

what i will do is he is coming o my house tomorrow and i will talk to him. he said to me he is going to tell his mom what he did. i mean, thats a start.

if i did hit him, then, i would have to leave him, because i know i could kill him!

He's posting as a guest. So, he's not actually registered here, not registered, no profile.

Well, like I say, it's your decision but be aware. It's happened once, it could happen again and next time might be worse and in my opinion, you are worth more than that.

You have to look out for you, as no one else will.

Good luck.

Yes, it's good that he's going to tell his mom, but then again she put up with it herself. Will she think it's a big deal?

you are amazing for saying that. you dont Even know me and you think that i am worth more. thankyou.

i am still abit confused, but i dont wanna live in fear or regret. hes even said i deserve someone better.

thanx huegel X

He's talking about the other person on the forum who's name is also josecito.


What? That's what we're all trying to tell you. Do you think you might actually deserve what he did? Even the US Law says you don't deserve to be treated that way and they will send him to jail if you call the police.


and you're not really from mexico, are you? No sabes bastante espanol. (don't know enough spanish)

THAT IS SO TRUE. i didnt think of it like that. im f***ed either way. i stay with a guy that hits women for joke, or i lose the only guy that treated me the best.

oh well. btw, not feeling sorry for myself

Don't think you can't feel sorry for yourself. The guy you love hit you! I would feel terrible.

will i trust again? i swear. he said he would never ever hurt me or hit me in the beggining of the relationship, and he did.

now, a guy that sais that, could be lying. i say never say never. btw, not calling you a liar:)


im upset now because i know what hes like. iv seen his true colours. how could he do this.

That's a big loss, to lose something that was so good.

be strong , is **** what happend but you need to do the best but sometimes the love not let you do what you have to do .

i said i wanted to call the police, and he tried to turn it around on me saying that, its gunna look like its my fault because i smoked the weed and i provoked him. so wat if i did. thats no excuse. life is so weird.


sorry? i dont quite understand? do you mean, i should do what i feel is right despite my love for him?

i got a friend and the boyfriend always cheat on her ..them they come back and happend the same thing all the time .. first time you feel sorry, second time also sorry,but them i just dont care anymore .

you are going to chose be with him becouse you are in love at the end

i understand. if i let him get away with it. its gunna be the same circle over and over again.

im going to be single again. i will miss him, but i cant be with a guy that used his fist at me and tried to strangle me.

in a way, i think he enjoyed it. probably made him feel powerful and in charge.

is he did enjoy he wil be in prision soon

no, no, no! i am not inlove. i just love him. well LOVED him before h changed into this FREAK BEAST!

i wont stay because of that. i wanna be happy. it may take some time to leave, cuz right now, i dont want to be alone.

i dont know actually. im talking sh**


back in poland, he was in a gang, and one day he stabbed a guy in the stomach, he didnt die, but he got caught and went to prison for one month (his words 28 days).

so he has a criminal record i guess. oh sh**, i am so stupid, i should have read the signs before getting invovled with him. he has violent writtEn all over him.

he even hits his sister, but stops when she cries, but because i didnt cry at first, he said he just carries on untill.

he is fu**ed up in the head. HE NEEDS HELP SH**. SORRY FOR SWEARING. IVE JUST REALISED THATS ALL.

advice in what you do with your boyfriend ?
dont know really how you love him if he does this but is your live and you choose what to do ,,,,hope is fine all for you

Weed makes some people violent.

Don't do it.

Having said that, my dad had a very bad temper. Never violent though.

news.independent.co.uk/uk/health_medical/article2368994.ece

The man is very starange and it would be better to stay away from him and find another. Polish women are very hard and can be very aggressive too. It is surprising how many men can feel threatened.

Not only is this man violent he is sick in the head, send him packing, you must have very low selfesteem to choose a man that will do that to you rather than being single for a while, remember the saying a lepard never changes its spots and its so true. Im sure that if you think logically there have been other men who have treated you well and there will be other men in your life that will treat you how you deserve to be treated.

He hit you for giggling whilst being stoned....hmmmm most poeple just go with the flow (from what I can remember, its been a long time :) ) and have a laugh.

There is another option, get a male friend to give him a good kicking and see how he likes it, my guess he will cry like a baby.